Chick not comfortable with meeting at my house...Advice

[dustmuffin]

First date she was all over me.....Lot's of kissing in parking lot. Setting up second date. Told her we would meet at my house to drive to mexican restaurant together. She replies pls don't be mad Im not comfortable with meeting at your house. I have only met you one time. How to respond?

 

[Tictac]

It's not too hard to see that she is not dtf for date 2.

If that bugs you, withdraw the offer.

 

[ubercat]

No drama. Just change it to drinks before the restaurant which I assume is close to your place. That will show if she s not dtf. Could b she s got a better offer or it could b ASD. I ve had chicks where I got to third base on d1 go cold. I normally assume basic gold digger AW who found a richer guy. Unless I know I made mistakes. Of course I have to make the pitch - I have never had this happen with an Asian girl

 

[dustmuffin]

No drama. Just change it to drinks before the restaurant which I assume is close to your place. That will show if she s not dtf. Could b she s got a better offer or it could b ASD. I ve had chicks where I got to third base on d1 go cold. I assume basic gold digger AW who found a richer guy.

The restaurant is 10 min from my house. We can get a drink there, eat and then can offer drinks at my place. I think its the anti slut defense. This is the first woman that wouldn't meet me at my house on the second date. I'll just sit next to her and apply kino. She did kiss me mid date on her own. It's a learning experience. She had three drinks in her on the first date. I paid for one. She had two glasses of wine before the date.

 

[Tictac]

It's not too hard to see that she is not dtf for date 2.

If that bugs you, withdraw the offer.

Think about it. This could be a decent sign that she's not jumping every guy she goes out with.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Don't make an issue out of a non-issue. Text her the address of the restaurant, if it's not a well known place, and tell her what time to meet you. She'll feel much more relaxed that way. No problem. Meet her at the restaurant, have some drinks or a meal and then go back to your place for more drinks and sex.

 

[dustmuffin]

Don't make an issue out of a non-issue. Text her the address of the restaurant, if it's not a well known place, and tell her what time to meet you. She'll feel much more relaxed that way. No problem. Meet her at the restaurant, have some drinks or a meal and then go back to your place for more drinks and sex.

Done

 

[dustmuffin]

She replied date is set.

 

[LiveYourDream]

The progression to sex will happen fastest when a woman feels safe. What women need to feel safe varies immensely. Be aware. It can look like anything from this example of her needing to drive her own car, to the other end of the spectrum, of a woman needing you to be a man whose masculinity and/or dominance is so unwavering, that she can fully let go into her femininity and be totally submissive and 'be taken' by you. Generally, the faster you help her feel safe, the more quickly sex with her can happen.

 

[BeExcellent]

Now you are a reasonable, respectful man (in her eyes) as LYD notes; this helps her feel safe, which in turn helps you. Enjoy your date!

 

[dustmuffin]

Ok...Second date went ok.....I walked her to her car made out with her and fondled her goodies.....She said she still wasnt comfortable going to my house. I left it at that and said goodnight and left.

I set up a third date with her. She responded almost immediately. This is a drinks date. The place is close to my house and the tables are set up so that kino is easy. If she declines to go to my house again, do I play it off and say it's just for drinks? How would I handle this so that she ends up in my bed? Before I acted like I couldn't give two ****s. How should I proceed?

 

[Tictac]

Ok...Second date went ok.....I walked her to her car made out with her and fondled her goodies.....She said she still wasnt comfortable going to my house. I left it at that and said goodnight and left.

I set up a third date with her. She responded almost immediately. This is a drinks date. The place is close to my house and the tables are set up so that kino is easy. If she declines to go to my house again, do I play it off and say it's just for drinks? How would I handle this so that she ends up in my bed? Before I acted like I couldn't give two ****s. How should I proceed?

If all you're looking for is some strange, go get a hooker.

 

[dustmuffin]

If all you're looking for is some strange, go get a hooker.

No ty to hooker. I have several girls I'm screwing on a regular basis.. Just want to add this one to the mix.

 

[CMNILS87]

Ok...Second date went ok.....I walked her to her car made out with her and fondled her goodies.....She said she still wasnt comfortable going to my house. I left it at that and said goodnight and left.

I set up a third date with her. She responded almost immediately. This is a drinks date. The place is close to my house and the tables are set up so that kino is easy. If she declines to go to my house again, do I play it off and say it's just for drinks? How would I handle this so that she ends up in my bed? Before I acted like I couldn't give two ****s. How should I proceed?

Do you just want sex from her or more? If she declines again after a 3rd date, you may be pushing to hard and the ASD is at maximum right now. If she declines, just take it in stride, say "no worries", pinch her ass and call it a night. She may need more security.

 

[marmel75]

Motel

 

[dustmuffin]

[Date went well...Loads of kino and she held my hand. Stroked her thigh...She said she couldnt read me...She said she thought I might be married because I didn't ask her out on the weekend. I told her to come over and meet my wife. She said if she was hot we could have a threesome. Talked about sexual topics. Anyway another kiss close. She said she wasn't a tinder girl. That she hoped I wasn't mad that she wouldn't come home with me. Told me not to be a stranger that she wanted to go out again....She also sent me a text again asking if I was mad. This was about an hour after date. I'm not mad. I haven't responded yet...She also said that she was always surprised that I asked her out again. Any thoughts on how to respond? I'm thinking a no Im not angry would suffice. Maybe tomorrow morning. I think I will ask her out again to see where this leads. Thoughts?

 

[ubercat]

4th date I d just make it at your place. Tell her you ll cook together and get her to bring some ingredients. If she turns that down she s definitely not dtf.

 

[MrWood]

tell her you are not mad, but "thank you for apologising, you owe me a kiss"
I have alot of success with "come over , let's cook a meal together and watch a sh1tty movie"

 

[KingBeef]

4th date I d just make it at your place. Tell her you ll cook together and get her to bring some ingredients. If she turns that down she s definitely not dtf.

Agreed....

You're a man and you want to be with her sexually, not just to hold her hand.

You have been very patient but women who want to be with you will be with you, nuff said.

If she doesn't feel comfortable going back to your place to cook on a 4th date and no sexual interaction then she has issues or has something else going on....cut her loose.

 

[CMNILS87]

tell her you are not mad, but "thank you for apologising, you owe me a kiss"
I have alot of success with "come over , let's cook a meal together and watch a sh1tty movie"

Personally, I'd ignore the text and let the hampster spin. You could be courteous and reply, but it sounds like a bait question to try and read his response/emotions. Just text/call to set up a date in a few days. This chicks ASD is on max, she even told you point blank. "Not a tinder girl", "sorry I don't want to get back to your house". This girl will still take more work I think @dustmuffin