What should I do with my Facebook if it demonstrates low social value?

[snowandotherjoys]

I'm curious what to do with Facebook if my profile demonstrates low social value. I have only 68 friends which is the smallest I've seen on my friends' list. I tend to post things where people don't like or comment. People tend to rarely post on my wall. Most of the pictures I post do not have other people in it... especially not girls. All this is a reflection of my low social value. I'm not sure if I should just delete the ****ing thing, or try to build up some kind of image of myself. It might take time (years?) but perhaps I could do it as I begin this journey of leaving my comfort shell and meeting up with people in social environments. Also, I feel like posting on Facebook reduces the mystery-complex which makes me not want to use it at all and just meet girls in person.

 

[ohrein]

Just don't add them to facebook. I almost never do. I use facebook purely for people and family I can't go directly hang out with.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Why do you want random people as Facebook friends?

 

[devilkingx2]

work on meeting and knowing more people so you can have a normal amount of friends and posts, post more quality content on facebook for likes

until then, just avoid adding girls on facebook until you know them so well that they wouldn't even care.

the problem with a sparse facebook is that if you meet the girl online it looks fake and if you meet the girl in real life it looks like you either have no friends or are anti-social, neither is a good thing in their eyes

 

[snowandotherjoys]

Why do you want random people as Facebook friends?

To have a casual place and a tool which I can use to setup face-time. All my family's dead or addicted to drugs and I only have a handful of close friends. I thought if I add my casual acquaintances to FB I could use that to my advantage.

 

[Maximus Rex]

You don't want random people having knowledge of your intimate acquiescences like that. This chick has already proved to be a flake, why do you want to do business with a flake? Get Linkedin page if you're sorry worried about professional contacts on social media.

 

[marmel75]

Why would you ever add a chick on Facebook? All they use this for is to gather info to disqualify you.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Dont add girls on facebook even if your profile seems normal or above average for two reasons.

1)you dont want her to know your stuff or base her idea of you on the idea coming from others unless you are super popular there

2)if you decide to drop her it will be hard if you are connected and she knows your things

The problem nowadays is that many apps or even forums require you to connect through your facebook, even damn tinder (which I start to believe is rubbish for the average man) requires a facebook profile.

The only thing that makes me glad to get old is that the older you get the less this social **** is mandatory.

 

[marmel75]

Dont add girls on facebook even if your profile seems normal or above average for two reasons.

1)you dont want her to know your stuff or base her idea of you on the idea coming from others unless you are super popular there

2)if you decide to drop her it will be hard if you are connected and she knows your things

The problem nowadays is that many apps or even forums require you to connect through your facebook, even damn tinder (which I start to believe is rubbish for the average man) requires a facebook profile.

The only thing that makes me glad to get old is that the older you get the less this social **** is mandatory.

Exactly---the LAST thing you want a chick that you hardly know doing is to make 100% decisions based on 10% or less information and NO context. Chicks will go back months and years looking at stuff and will make snap decisions on you that you never want to give them a chance to make...

 

[bigneil]

First ,why declare yourself to have low social value based on some crappy MySpace rip off run by Captain Super Nerd?

Second, the least romantic thing is to make her your Facebook friend. I'd rather have email.

 

[Tictac]

I've never been a fan of social proof.

Stop valuing yourself based on others' approval. You are enough.

Seconded. FaceBook is for my entertainment, I got into it to keep track of what my kids were doing with it and, over time, found friends from all over the world I might not have otherwise. Even so, I don't spend a lot of time with it.

 

[EyeBRollin]

I don't accept any friend requests from potentials or plates on facebook. All you do is hurt your chances.

Instagram is fine; it's just pictures. I've found Instagram actually increases your social value.

 

[snowandotherjoys]

Can the low self-esteem, poor me, Dr Phil nonsense.

Sack up. Or people everywhere will continue to run all over you.

You have to wake up everyday and make the world your b!tch.

Thanks man.

I've never been a fan of "social proof."

Stop valuing yourself based on others' approval. You are enough.

I hear what you're saying, thanks.

 

[Ratiocinative]

I agree. Number of friends on Facebook is silly. Do you honestly think anyone has 68 close friends, let alone 600 or 1000 close friends?

And besides, once you meet her in person, and especially after a first date, pretty much all of her positive opinion if you is going to come from how you made her feel when she was with you. As others have stated, you have nothing to gain from her looking at your Facebook page.

 

[70th Win]

FB let's you choose what pictures and info are private and public. Most people keep their public pages locked down these days so it's not uncommon to see a page with just one or two pictures. You wouldn't know anything about them unless you added them as a friend. Use that to your advantage.

An interested girl WILL look you up eventually and my personal opinion is that it's better to stay mysterious and leave her wondering than letting her see an underwhelming profile. Only make your best pictures public, the ones showing showing social proof or the ones with a lot of comments from girls.
If you went to a good college, put that under the school category, otherwise leave it blank, etc.
Make everything else private, if she ever tries adding you ignore the invite, and if she ever asks you why you ignored it tell her you barely ever use FB.

 

[Çharismo]

You are only low-value if you BELIEVE that you are low-value. You can craft your Facebook anyway you want but if it's a facade you will eventually be seen for who you are. If you are trying to make it seem that you live an "interesting" life or are always doing cool $hit but in reality you aren't...playa you ain't bout dat lyfe!!!!. The fact that you are basing your value by the amount of "friends"...(pause and really and I mean REALLY think about that for a second) on facebook (pause)...just screams someone that is looking for external-validation. Who the fack are you trying to impress?! Become SELF-validated and you will see an entire paradigm-shift in your reality. Don't become an approval or validation junkie...it's not a good thing. Just for the record I have almost a 1000 "friends"...please tell me how cool you think I am...pretty please!?!?. Don't rely on people to build you up because in my experience most people WILL try to tear you down any chance they get or if they even SENSE you are moving forward in your life. Humanity is nasty like that. Even if people comment or like your posts in reality there is an entire cauldron of seething emotions underneath....yeaa you like dat word-play and $hit I be unleashing dat intellectual prowess on yo a$$...yeaa nigga I'mma monsta in dis biznitch!!!!

I want you to understand something...social media in itself has given rise to people's rampant narcicissm by feeding there ego's and women in general especially the attractive ones are milking the fack out of it by making a name for themselves and the clueless men that keep it going. You will notice this but any woman that is remotely attractive will throw up a picture and BAM!!! you got all types of guys telling her how perfect she is...when in reality the ONLY and I mean the ONLY perfect person in this world is ME... which means that they are lying to her and she knows it. Am I kaaayoot or what?!... It's all bull$hit man. Don't get hung-up on trying to attain "value" through facebook or social media in general. People of age and wisdom eventually become silent with time because they see life for what it is.(Reflect on that). A lot of businesses are using social-media and that's understandable and there are many factors involved with that but what I would suggest is to use it as a tool to have an online presence and just leave it at that.

One last thing...my penile man gland is bigger than yours!!!! Someone please validate me!!!!!

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Im a 17 year old high school student, going into college next year. About a year and a half ago, I deleted all social media I have (facebook, twitter, snapchat, instagram etc). I am at the pinnacle of the importance of social media. I have no desire for it because if I want to talk to someone, then I do it face to face. The same goes for if someone wants to talk to me. If I cannot reach them, then we can call or text each other. You are 29 years old and are caring way too much about what others think of you online. For what? No one cares really.

 

[DiegoSantori]

My god, we're now worried about the status demonstrated on our Facebook. Adult people. Are. Worried. About. Facebook.






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Facebook.

 

[Xombie0991]

Don't get hung-up on trying to attain "value" through facebook or social media in general. People of age and wisdom eventually become silent with time because they see life for what it is.(Reflect on that). A lot of businesses are using social-media and that's understandable and there are many factors involved with that but what I would suggest is to use it as a tool to have an online presence and just leave it at that.

What if you're young and only interested in young women? And just for ****s?

 

[SmooveMooves]

Lol Everyone hating on you already has a negative view of social media. Social media can be useful if used correctly and even can result in a few lays. I know from experience.

Facebook is supposed to "reflect" your life but the good thing about Facebook is you can choose what other people can see. If you want Facebook to reflect a high value of yourself you must live somewhat high value. Go out, do new things, meet new people. Take photos of all the new cool **** you're doing and people you're meeting. Over time you'll develop connections whom will add you and like and comment on your shít. I'll leave you with the Facebook "Golden Rules" for an attractive profile:

• Upload only your best images, never upload something that makes you look bad until you well established enough that it won't hurt you
• Only update you status twice a day max and never include details about you activities. For example, if your watching the superbowl post "Superbowl" rather than "Watching the Superbowl with close friends tonight!!"
• Only like **** you really like. If a girl posts a picture and you don't like the particular angle she used... don't like it.
• Only upload photos once a week. Twice MAX
• Keep your account on the private setting
• Live in RL. Post the cool shít on Social media. Leave out the boring depressing shít

People here can dislike the social proof method but it works. If you look like the shít online. Online women will want to fūck you. Hypergamy prevails no matter the medium.