Guy exhibits impulsive behavior and I am not sure what do next

[MrWood]

and yet you are still justifying it...

"not sitting well" "very off"

why are you even trying to rationalize this with any logic?

 

[DreamyChick]

and yet you are still justifying it...

"not sitting well" "very off"

why are you even trying to rationalize this with any logic?

You're right. I can't justify it or use logic. He was this way with me 10 years ago; he would act one way and say something completely different. One of my female friends has repeatedly expressed concerns about his behavior over the years. Whenever I ever tried to call him out on anything he did he always had a reason and I always ended up second guessing myself.

 

[MrWood]

he is psychotic, if not a clinically diagnosed operational high level schizophrenic
ever watch documentaries about serial killers?
run, just like your friend said.

he himself said "that I (was) the only friend of his that reacted this way to one of his obvious jokes."

so he admits there are "others". other women he is and has been doing this to.
it is his game, you are on his hit list because he has finished with the last victim.

He is a disturbed and very sick person

 

[DreamyChick]

@MrWood Thanks for offering your perspective. Some of the other posters seemed quick to label me the bad guy. Last weekend he kept pushing me to talk to him and that was why I was silent, only I didn't think he would show up at my door. I thought he had boundaries.

 

[MrWood]

and shows up at your house unannounced...
(forgot that obvious sign of all kinds of RED FLAGS)

if you were watching a drama/thriller right now...
would you feel safe for the woman?

 

[DreamyChick]

No, it freaked me out because it reminded me of another incident when I was in college where another guy showed up at my dorm after I told him that I wasn't interested in seeing him that asked if he could visit me for a week. I tried to call this guy out about it, I said it wasn't even 48 hours since I last spoke to you and you showed up at my door without asking me if you could come over. He said he was worried.

 

[MrWood]

no, this movie is the one where everyone dies
it is not like another incident you are reminded of...

YOU ARE STILL RATIONALIZING

this is not a sit around the bar table talking about movies in a casual friendly manner

going to sleep, its late in Europe, I have done what I can.
anyone up for nitewatch or cut her loose?

 

[DreamyChick]

no, this movie is the one where everyone dies
it is not like another incident you are reminded of...

YOU ARE STILL RATIONALIZING

this is not a sit around the bar table talking about movies in a casual friendly manner

going to sleep, its late in Europe, I have done what I can.
anyone up for nitewatch or cut her loose?

It's the worst habit I have. Thanks.

 

[yungballa]

A bit rude to say she can't post here. She can do whatever the **** she wants. If you have a problem with it why did you reply to her post?

Anyway from the information given this guy is actually obsessed with you. Its unhealthy for you and unhealthy for him. It's also potentially dangerous that he knows where you live. You should be clear with him that you're not interested in him and you do not want him to come to your house again. You should definitely make sure you are not leading him on in anyway as the guys are right women do this a lot. I wouldn't totally cut him off just yet as for all we know he might turn up at your house with a ****ing machine gun. I'd say ease him out gently but definitely a good start would be to tell him you're not interested and not to come to your house again.

If he does come to your house again you need to call the police as its harassment.

Next time you might wanna tag me, yeah?

Also, please don't be stupid and add words to my post. Last time I checked, I never said she couldn't post here... I just made a statement saying there's been a lot of women on here lately asking for help. Get your sh1t straight buddy. Don't know how I'm being rude by telling her she can't post here, when I never did lmao.

just don't come at me like that and add false statements to my post

 

[DreamyChick]

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who responded and even called me out about this situation. I did not want to face the reality in front of me. It was a hard pill to swallow. But now I have the perspective of time.