Date failed - booty call success.

[Jack Hensy]

Crazy night tonight.

I had a date with this girl tonight. Ironically, she had a date with another guy earlier this evening who spent $120 on her dinner and drinks. I told her when she is finished with him come meet me afterwards. She agreed to meet me at 10pm at a bar for drinks.
When I met her she was buzzed. I bought her one drink. We both flirted, smiled, started connecting, touching each other while the loud band played in the background. We flirted some more and she kept looking around the bar at other guys.(kind of annoying)
At one point she says...."I would take you back to my place where it is quieter, but I just met you."
I pretended not to hear her because I figured she was testing me to see how I would react. We talked some more. She finally had to go to the bathroom and when she came back I was talking to the cute bartender.
We started talking again and flirting. Then she says....well Im going to leave. I said ok. So we got up and walked out of the bar. At one point she grabs my hand as we are walking into the parking lot. I said...well im going back to the nightclub to party some more. She said ok Im going to go home. Nice meeting you. She let go of my hand. I walked away as I said goodbye.
About 10 minutes later as I am driving to the nightclub around midnight.....she texts me and says..."Do you wanna come over to my place for one drink??" I replied..."Ok". The she texts back 10 minutes later...."It's late, sorry not sure what I was thinking lol. Let's plan for another time." I played it cool and said..."If you change your mind reach out"...She replied..."Well im in bed now. Not sure if you wanna cuddle?" I said "sure". I never heard from her after that. No reply. I didn't send any more texts. I didn't get angry, I kept my cool and just started talking to other girls at the nightclub even though I was annoyed. That is the second girl this week who yanked the rug out from under me. They tease and then leave you hanging. Why do they do that sh*t?

Ironically, I got a text from another girl an hour later(around 1am) telling me she was going on her vacation and wouldn't see me again for two weeks. I replied "I want you tonight." She said then "come over." I said "I will be over in 15 minutes." I ended up going over to her place and having sex with her.

So the night ended on a good note.

Why did the first girl play me like that though? I liked her and we connected. Its a confidence buster when chicks do that teasing stuff and they wonder why us men think with an abundance mentality.

Any of you guys deal with pr*ck teases? I feel like its mental abuse.

Thanks.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Crazy night tonight.

I had a date with this girl tonight. Ironically, she had a date with another guy earlier this evening who spent $120 on her dinner and drinks. I told her when she is finished with him come meet me afterwards. She agreed to meet me at 10pm at a bar for drinks.
When I met her she was buzzed. I bought her one drink. We both flirted, smiled, started connecting, touching each other while the loud band played in the background. We flirted some more and she kept looking around the bar at other guys.(kind of annoying)
At one point she says...."I would take you back to my place where it is quieter, but I just met you."
I pretended not to hear her because I figured she was testing me to see how I would react. We talked some more. She finally had to go to the bathroom and when she came back I was talking to the cute bartender.
We started talking again and flirting. Then she says....well Im going to leave. I said ok. So we got up and walked out of the bar. At one point she grabs my hand as we are walking into the parking lot. I said...well im going back to the nightclub to party some more. She said ok Im going to go home. Nice meeting you. She let go of my hand. I walked away as I said goodbye.
About 10 minutes later as I am driving to the nightclub around midnight.....she texts me and says..."Do you wanna come over to my place for one drink??" I replied..."Ok". The she texts back 10 minutes later...."It's late, sorry not sure what I was thinking lol. Let's plan for another time." I played it cool and said..."If you change your mind reach out"...She replied..."Well im in bed now. Not sure if you wanna cuddle?" I said "sure". I never heard from her after that. No reply. I didn't send any more texts. I didn't get angry, I kept my cool and just started talking to other girls at the nightclub even though I was annoyed. That is the second girl this week who yanked the rug out from under me. They tease and then leave you hanging. Why do they do that sh*t?

Ironically, I got a text from another girl an hour later(around 1am) telling me she was going on her vacation and wouldn't see me again for two weeks. I replied "I want you tonight." She said then "come over." I said "I will be over in 15 minutes." I ended up going over to her place and having sex with her.

So the night ended on a good note.

Why did the first girl play me like that though? I liked her and we connected. Its a confidence buster when chicks do that teasing stuff and they wonder why us men think with an abundance mentality.

Any of you guys deal with pr*ck teases? I feel like its mental abuse.

Thanks.

sounds to me like she was using push pull on you and it worked

theres a few factors to realise in this story

1) she came to meet you directly from another date with another man ......ok sadly this does happen more than i would like to believe but still i really can't believe the audacity on her to actually tell you about it

she's basically saying "some guys just paid for my dinner and drinks but i didn't fancy sleeping with him so I'm gonna see if i want to sleep with you"

like jesus how many girls are doing this on a weekly basis !?!, heck i bet a few are getting screwed 2 or 3 times a weekend depending on how horny they are ........

2) anyway from virtually the word go she delivers a backhanded opportunity for sex " i would take you back to my place where its quiter but i just met you !?!"

this is her basically saying " you meet my physical requirements for sex and I'm horny but I don't want to be seen as easy so I'm just gonna put the idea out there and let you work with it"

she was testing you yes , but "pretending not to hear" wasn't the right answer......... to her it showed you have little confidence in your ability to get a woman to sleep with you

she then repeatedly gave you more opportunities to convince her to sleep with you

do you wanna come over to my place for one drink !?!

you reply "ok" ........ could you produce a blunter response if you tried ?

im in bed now , not sure if you wanna cuddle

you reply "sure" ......again far too blunt , far too easy for her , literally killing attraction for yourself


women don't generally bother texting stuff like this in the middle of the night if they don't want D1ck , there are tests yes , but at this stage of an evening she desperately wants you to pass them.

food for thought

 

[El Payaso]

She's what we call an...what's the word again....oh, yeah, an attention wh0re.

 

[Jack Hensy]

Giving her a clear answer of "yes or sure" prevented me from having sex with her? If anything I should have been more blunt and assertive by saying...."Yea, lets get the **** out of here and go back to your house"
I used those two blunt words on 90% of women I have had opportunities to get laid and it has worked for me just fine.
I think she was just a nut job and seeking attention. She was testing me because she wanted to see my reaction. The look on her face was priceless though when I told I was going back clubbing.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Yeah I had train wreck attention wh0re pull this about a month ago. I meet up with her after a game. She was still on the date when I got to the bar. She told the guy we were just "friends". He wined her and dinned her and left about 15mins later after I got there. It pissed him off pretty good, poor guy didn't realize I did him a favor. He started negging her, pathetic negs too. I eventually ghosted the attention wh0re, she was toxic to the core.

$120 blown on dinner & drinks, that's insane!

 

[Jack Hensy]

Yea dropping $120 on a chick on the first date is like screwing yourself. The poor guy didn't know any better. I would have bought him a beer instead and ditched her.

I'm glad I acted aloof with her because my radar was up. She was scanning the guys in the room. Then she started crying because her sister wanted to beat her up. She was a total nutcase.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Crying? You left that part out. No need to call them out, just make a mental note. She gave you the insight on how she operates. Thats the other dudes problem not yours. Typical broad out on the prowl.

 

[Jack Hensy]

Good point. Take mental notes and just observe.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Giving her a clear answer of "yes or sure" prevented me from having sex with her? If anything I should have been more blunt and assertive by saying...."Yea, lets get the **** out of here and go back to your house"
I used those two blunt words on 90% of women I have had opportunities to get laid and it has worked for me just fine.
I think she was just a nut job and seeking attention. She was testing me because she wanted to see my reaction. The look on her face was priceless though when I told I was going back clubbing.

no but it clearly didn't do you any favours either

heres how i would of dealt with it

" i would take you back to my place where its quiter but I've only just met you"

bingo - *****ily* don't get ahead of yourself i aint that easy

by saying something like this you shift the power ........suddenly she's the one who's awkward

" do you wanna come over to my place for one drink"

bingo- what you got ? i don't drink cheap sh1t

again throwing her off balance and showing you aint dancing to the pied piper

" im in bed now , not sure if you wanna cuddle"

bingo- me too and sorry i don't know what that is

again anything to make her think wtf why won't this guy bend to my will

 

[Jack Hensy]

Bingo Player lets assume everything you just told me would have gotten you laid by not bending to her will. OK kudos. Assuming that would have happened.

What would a true confident man do at this point moving forward with her? I would like to hear and test your theory.

 

[CMNILS87]

After that "I would take you home, but I just met you" girl nuke. I would have replied

1. Huh, my parents did say not to talk to strangers.... Then walk off. Bigger Nuke with agree and amplify
2. "I'm bored, I'm gonna head home and grab a nightcap, stop twirling your straw and let's go" . Don't ask "you coming"? Because you need to believe it's a sold deal already.

After that **** test, I would'nt have stuck around. Very prudish, stuck up sounding, and look at the rest of the gauntlet tests she ran you through.

 

[jdb]

Congruence

You played it cool the entire night by not giving into her advances/tests. When she asked you for that one drink, it was her way of testing is she 'has you where she wanted you.' Of course you fell for it and gave her the validation that she needed. There was no longer a desire for you. Had you kept up doing what you did the entire night and continued to tease her, she would have given you her address.

It's hard to acknowledge that test when she is presenting you the pvssy. You aren't getting laid until your d!ck is inside her, never stop doing what you do because you think you have it in the bag

Edit

For future purposes, the mindset doesn't stop when you arrive to her place either. Always be on the offensive, push the boundaries to dissolve her lingering doubt of pursuing what she wanted in the first place. This is where the push/pull technique should be used. It's a battle to see who gives into their primal desires first

 

[Bingo-Player]

Bingo Player lets assume everything you just told me would have gotten you laid by not bending to her will. OK kudos. Assuming that would have happened.

What would a true confident man do at this point moving forward with her? I would like to hear and test your theory.

to be honest this is a perfect example of why having a few girls on the go at the same time is essential
because at the moment you can't give this one anymore attention than she deserves

id forget about this one for a week or two hit her back up when your ready and just ask her to come over your place for..... "insert credible excuse"

forget about dates there for mugs , like that guy who spent a 120 bucks on one and didn't even get his d1ck touched

not getting laid is bad

paying for a date and not getting laid is bottom of the barrell

 

[Jack Hensy]

I Bingo good stuff. I test theories most of the time. I still believe "good looks"(outer game) is more important than personality(inner game)to get hot women.
I tested my theory over and over and over again for 15 years and outer game wins out every time. When your hot--you don't need game--- chicks will flock to you flies on **** and drop their panties.(unless you are a celebrity, rock star or wealthy guy)

I remember being very hot in my 20's and never needed any dating advice. Women threw themselves at me based on looks alone. I never had any inner game.
Now im older and its tougher to pull women with looks alone. I am working more on inner game and get less women.