@Lucky
weren't you in the NC thread?
Yes i was, took me some time to get over that previous girl. Kept to no contact, i think it's about 8 months since i last spoke to her or have seen her. And it was ****ing hard, but it seems that with time even a big oneitis can be healed. In the NC time i had no other relationships or not even hookups and just focused on my own things, you know career, picked up boxing again.
And getting rid of every single problem i had going on outside of relationships, like got rid of bad people in my life which was actually a big one, pay my bills, fixed my car and saved some money. What i was left is is true friends, no worries and just having fun with good people. And probably the main thing was that i got myself to the point of being happy on my own first and not needing anyone.
The girl i'm talking about right now is another girl, a good one, i've known her for some time. We've had our troubles in the past but we always come back to each other. She stood by me in my hardest times and forgave me for a lot of **** i pulled. Right now things are finally good, i feel in control of the situation and emotions. And we have a great time, why shouldn't i allow myself to feel fantastic about that? I've decided not to hold negative thoughts about what could go wrong anymore, and right now things are great so i'm gonna enjoy it.
And i believe i can do that now because i know what has to be done in certain situations, i've learned the hard way in a way that i can't even pull anything stupid anymore concerning relationships i just react to it automatically. This girl has also pulled some **** in the past she hanged out with one of my exes at some point and i found out. I was so mad about it that i pulled back, and didn't see her for weeks and i didn't care if i would lose her, i had enough to get back to, my own life, how i set it up in the NC time. And i still feel like that.
She made an effort to get me back, texted me to hangout multiple times. And i just gave her excuses about being busy and such, it was quite harsh at times to be honest but yeah. I take care of myself above any women, i cannot do it the other way around anymore.
Anyway she made it up to me and treats me with more respect than she ever did, that's what makes it good. And that's why i can allow myself to feel awesome about it, because i also know i can walk away from it at any time as i've did before. She comes on to me more than i come onto her, so i get choose when to hang out. Or just do whatever else i want.
This thread was never about pointing out a problem or asking for some help, more to share a good situation. But if things do go south at some point i'll be sure to check in back here.
