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Aesthetix29

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okay to cut s long story short, I've been texting this woman for months even went on a few dates we had fun they was good (not slept together) but work picked up on my end so we wasn't texting as much (I'm self employed). It's now been a few weeks of no contact or not much and I texted her last night saying 'you soon disappeared' jokingly and this morning sent me a disrespectful text along the lines of .... She's been on holiday, and too busy and quite frankly she's just wrapped up in her own life and that I know how it is .. And then asked if I was okay? Weird

Now I get that she was annoyed with me but I was still contacting her a 2 or 3 times a week .. Not like I left high and dry. I'm still interested in her but have no idea how to respond to that text?

Should I next her?
 

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okay to cut s long story short, I've been texting this woman for months even went on a few dates we had fun they was good (not slept together) but work picked up on my end so we wasn't texting as much (I'm self employed). It's now been a few weeks of no contact or not much and I texted her last night saying 'you soon disappeared' jokingly and this morning sent me a disrespectful text along the lines of .... She's been on holiday, and too busy and quite frankly she's just wrapped up in her own life and that I know how it is .. And then asked if I was okay? Weird

Now I get that she was annoyed with me but I was still contacting her a 2 or 3 times a week .. Not like I left high and dry. I'm still interested in her but have no idea how to respond to that text?

Should I next her?
What Espi said, you got oneitis for the girl. Few dates over a number of months that didn't lead to sex > you get obsessed over this specific pvssy > no contact from her ensues > you get obsessed over the pvssy till the point of oneitis.

Go for other girls bro. I can't tell you how to reply to the text as I lack experience, hopefully experienced DonJuans will answer that question.
 

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"She's been on holiday, and too busy and quite frankly she's just wrapped up in her own life and that I know how it is"

Translation: I've been busy sleeping with other men and having fun. I'm too engrossed with my fun life to have time for your pathetic sniveling.

"Are you okay?"

Translation: Are you still going to keep validating me with attention and never going to date other women?

An interested woman WILL make time for you. She's just stringing you along. Move on.
 

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You haven't slept with her yet. That's why she lost interest.

All this 'next' advice doesn't get you anywhere if you don't learn and improve.

You can't keep nexting chicks for the rest of your life.
This.

@Aesthetix29 if your end goal is a relationship with this girl, drop her (can't next her if you haven't slept with her).

If your end goal is to sleep with her, drop off for a couple months and invite her over to catch up over a glass of wine. Escalate. Either way you need to get this girl off of your mind ASAP. Get busy with work, gym, talk to other girls--otherwise it won't work.

You've set the price of your attention too low. She's trying to manipulate that price to stay low--she's like a bear in the stock market. Get a little bullish--you know the value of your stock (hopefully) and you need to hold your attention for a better selling price (sex). At this point, she may be unwilling to match your asking price, in which case you find new buyers.
 

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"She's been on holiday, and too busy and quite frankly she's just wrapped up in her own life and that I know how it is"

Translation: I've been busy sleeping with other men and having fun. I'm too engrossed with my fun life to have time for your pathetic sniveling.

"Are you okay?"

Translation: Are you still going to keep validating me with attention and never going to date other women?

An interested woman WILL make time for you. She's just stringing you along. Move on.
Funny you say that pal .. As she's just messaged me now saying that's she's just been really busy etc haha
 

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okay to cut s long story short, I've been texting this woman for months even went on a few dates we had fun they was good (not slept together) but work picked up on my end so we wasn't texting as much (I'm self employed). It's now been a few weeks of no contact or not much and I texted her last night saying 'you soon disappeared' jokingly and this morning sent me a disrespectful text along the lines of .... She's been on holiday, and too busy and quite frankly she's just wrapped up in her own life and that I know how it is .. And then asked if I was okay? Weird

Now I get that she was annoyed with me but I was still contacting her a 2 or 3 times a week .. Not like I left high and dry. I'm still interested in her but have no idea how to respond to that text?

Should I next her?
Why are you texting a woman for 2 months and not having massive sex with her?

If you don't have sex with a girl fast, she will think you need a friend and emotional support. Interest will drop faster than you can imagine. Plus, what good are they other than having sex with? She WANTS to be only used for sex. That doesn't mean be rude, be aloof, put her down, or disrespect her. That means if you interact with her, you keep it short unless it leads to sex.

When you guys don't have sex fast, it's like you are buying a car to not drive it, or put on all the hockey equipment to sit on the bench. Makes no sense. If you don't have fast, you telling her I'm not attracted to you, I need a friend. Brutal.
 

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Why are you texting a woman for 2 months and not having massive sex with her?

If you don't have sex with a girl fast, she will think you need a friend and emotional support. Interest will drop faster than you can imagine. Plus, what good are they other than having sex with? She WANTS to be only used for sex. That doesn't mean be rude, be aloof, put her down, or disrespect her. That means if you interact with her, you keep it short unless it leads to sex.

When you guys don't have sex fast, it's like you are buying a car to not drive it, or put on all the hockey equipment to sit on the bench. Makes no sense. If you don't have fast, you telling her I'm not attracted to you, I need a friend. Brutal.
The simple answer is distance ... I don't want a relationship with her .. She's 45 mins away, and after texting for a while I set a date up I drove to hers we went out had fun .. Went really well to be fair. Went back to hers tried to initiate sex got as far a kiss .. I put it down as her not wanting to look like a slag. After that is when I dropped off the radar and things went stale .. I'm not looking for A relationship just a f*uck buddy.
 

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So she's just messaged me asking how I am ... Is this a validation (attention) text?
 

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