Build a 'time bridge' in person. So you're talking to a girl, you don't just get her number--you get her to agree to a date (doesn't even have to be real--just conceptual). Ideally, you should try to instadate her or pull her home that night; but sometimes you have other things going on.
But you need to focus on what happens before you get her number. You need to get her invested in the idea that she's giving you her number to actually see you again. Hypothetical convo:
You: "I'm meeting up with a friend tonight. What are you doing later?"
Her: [Insert some excuse, unless she's 100% down].
You: "Grab coffee with me tomorrow." (Or something low investment).
Her: "Well, I have x, y, and z." Or "What time?" Or "We just met!"
You: "Your number."
Her: [Gives you her number, maybe after some teasing].
You: "What's my name?"
Her: [Either she knows it or you tease her & reinforce it]
You: "What are we doing tomorrow?"
Her: "Getting coffee."
You: "Tell me."
Her: "What?"
You: "Tell me that you're meeting me for coffee tomorrow."
Get her to vocalize her intent to see you again. I'll even do this if I'm planning to pull her that night. Then I'll just text her while I'm leaving the interaction: 'Don't be weird--[My Name].' If she texts back I'll shoot the **** a little bit til I have a more definite idea for our meet up. But since she's already agreed to meet up, it doesn't really matter what I propose at that point.
The whole wait 4-7 days is totally ridiculous. Do you know how many offers a hot girl in her 20's will have 50 offers between now and then. So strike while the iron is hot--but make your intent 100% clear. If she seems flaky in person--call her on it. Note--I stole a lot of this from Julien RSD by way of YaReally at TRM, but I can vouch for the fact it works way better than just getting a number. If you're in a situation where you only have time to get her number, I'd throw out some vague, low investment, future meet up proposition in the very first text. And then just spend the convo narrowing it down to something definite.
But you need to focus on what happens before you get her number. You need to get her invested in the idea that she's giving you her number to actually see you again. Hypothetical convo:
You: "I'm meeting up with a friend tonight. What are you doing later?"
Her: [Insert some excuse, unless she's 100% down].
You: "Grab coffee with me tomorrow." (Or something low investment).
Her: "Well, I have x, y, and z." Or "What time?" Or "We just met!"
You: "Your number."
Her: [Gives you her number, maybe after some teasing].
You: "What's my name?"
Her: [Either she knows it or you tease her & reinforce it]
You: "What are we doing tomorrow?"
Her: "Getting coffee."
You: "Tell me."
Her: "What?"
You: "Tell me that you're meeting me for coffee tomorrow."
Get her to vocalize her intent to see you again. I'll even do this if I'm planning to pull her that night. Then I'll just text her while I'm leaving the interaction: 'Don't be weird--[My Name].' If she texts back I'll shoot the **** a little bit til I have a more definite idea for our meet up. But since she's already agreed to meet up, it doesn't really matter what I propose at that point.
The whole wait 4-7 days is totally ridiculous. Do you know how many offers a hot girl in her 20's will have 50 offers between now and then. So strike while the iron is hot--but make your intent 100% clear. If she seems flaky in person--call her on it. Note--I stole a lot of this from Julien RSD by way of YaReally at TRM, but I can vouch for the fact it works way better than just getting a number. If you're in a situation where you only have time to get her number, I'd throw out some vague, low investment, future meet up proposition in the very first text. And then just spend the convo narrowing it down to something definite.