Two women have advanced to exclusives...how to successfully manage them?

[spiegel549]

I recently was asked to go exclusive with this one girl (no official title) but we are "exclusive with each other." She is a HB7 great body, cooks for me, cleans for me, does all my laundry, surprises me with take out food, drops beer off at the house randomly, she is legit the best female I have ever met as far a woman who wants to take care of her man.

Now with that said......been spinning plates and now another girl is asking to be exclusive who doesn't quite fill the shoes of what the other girl is doing but she is this sexy little Latina whos 22 and I really enjoy being around her and the sex is amazing.

They both live 45minutes apart from each other. I honestly have never pulled off exclusively dating two women at the same time. Honestly not sure if I can do it, am I going to give myself a headache?

Any tips on this from those who have done this please would be appreciated, thanks brooos!

 

[Almax]

At first is awesome. You feel Alpha af. But soon you are gonna be stress with all the lies and ploting to keep the lies alive. Its like dating a girl who has a bf. Headaches in progress.
Pick one or keep fvcking both without the exclusivity bs.

 

[Von]

Which one does the most for you? Pick that one and yes... the older they are the more serious they can be

 

[fastlife]

I say go with it--and learn that it's easier to set expectations upfront than to deal with the aftermath of the unmet expectations you set for yourself.

If a girl asks/demands exclusivity (but in this case it sounds like you were just afraid of losing one/both of them), "Let's see where this goes" will buy you tons of time.

 

[El Payaso]

"Sheis a HB7 great body, cooks for me, cleans for me, does all my laundry, surprises me with take out food, drops beer off at the house randomly, she is legit the best female I have ever met as far a woman who wants to take care of her man."

I know this is cynical to say but don't get used to it. That's just their way of getting you hooked and dependent on them. Keep your eyes open and watch yourself so you don't become too attached to her.

 

[Stugots26]

Asking "How do I successfully manage them?" means that your perspective is already - how do I keep them happy and not tick them off. Make yourself happy. If one of them gets pissed off or hurt and leaves...so what? If you were able to get these two to this point, you should have no shortage of more options. Don't pedestalize, and you're coming dangerously close by saying "the sex is amazing."

The answer is not to manage them. You manage yourself. If they find out about each other, you still win, because when kitty cats compete, you win.

 

[Trump]

I recently was asked to go exclusive with this one girl (no official title) but we are "exclusive with each other." She is a HB7 great body, cooks for me, cleans for me, does all my laundry, surprises me with take out food, drops beer off at the house randomly, she is legit the best female I have ever met as far a woman who wants to take care of her man.

Now with that said......been spinning plates and now another girl is asking to be exclusive who doesn't quite fill the shoes of what the other girl is doing but she is this sexy little Latina whos 22 and I really enjoy being around her and the sex is amazing.

They both live 45minutes apart from each other. I honestly have never pulled off exclusively dating two women at the same time. Honestly not sure if I can do it, am I going to give myself a headache?

Any tips on this from those who have done this please would be appreciated, thanks brooos!

You are having passionate sex with 2 good looking girls under 29 years old, and you are asking US which girl you should continue to have sex with? Come on bro, this is a show off question.

We are not dating them, we are not having sex with them, we are not emotionally involved with them. We can't tell you who to continue to have sex with. The only thing we can say is not to let them take advantage of you and protect yourself if you are having sex with one and then sex with the other a few hours later.

 

[marmel75]

Do what you want but don't lie to either one of them.

 

[wifehunter]

Let them know about each other. I dare you!

 

[marmel75]

Also women don't "earn" exclusivity by asking for it. What criteria are you judging them on? Do you even have any criteria other than they fvck you when you see them? Perhaps you need to raise your criteria?

Not saying you do or don't. Just something to think about.

 

[Vivacity]

She is a HB7 great body, cooks for me, cleans for me, does all my laundry, surprises me with take out food, drops beer off at the house randomly, she is legit the best female I have ever met as far a woman who wants to take care of her man.

If this girl is genuine and not pretending to be like this, go for this girl. Like good men, good girls/women are hard to come by. Dump the other one.

Call me old school, my heart, mind, and soul does not adjust to (i.e., date) several girls at a time or let me jump from one relationship to another easily. You take your time and pick one good person, and you commit to that person who also commits to you. That's my philosophy of life and I encourage everyone to follow it.

 

[salinechow]

Do what you want but don't lie to either one of them.

As far as humanly, I agree. Its bad to lie to others because when you get good at being a liar, its easier to lie to yourself. If ends up being challenging and it hurts yourself in the long run.

Logistically, I disagree. If you do want to have two "girlfriends" the only way I was able to make this work once was to lie to one and be honest with the other.

Even that though was pretty stressful and 50 percent of the time I was questioning if it was worth it. Also, you can almost forget about spinning other plates. Trust me. 6 months into this ruse you'll be exhausted.

It can also become pretty expensive. Especially with a medium distance girl in the mix.

Lastly, I hope you dont have a 9-5 job. The only way I found I was able to keep it up as long as I did was have a flexible schedule. Girls are much better a spotting patterns than men are. Its second nature to them.

I think the best advice is to cut one loose pretty soon, or like the guys said, better manage both girls expectations and slowly pull back a little on both.

 

[marmel75]

As far as humanly, I agree. Its bad to lie to others because when you get good at being a liar, its easier to lie to yourself. If ends up being challenging and it hurts yourself in the long run.

Logistically, I disagree. If you do want to have two "girlfriends" the only way I was able to make this work once was to lie to one and be honest with the other.

Even that though was pretty stressful and 50 percent of the time I was questioning if it was worth it. Also, you can almost forget about spinning other plates. Trust me. 6 months into this ruse you'll be exhausted.

It can also become pretty expensive. Especially with a medium distance girl in the mix.

Lastly, I hope you dont have a 9-5 job. The only way I found I was able to keep it up as long as I did was have a flexible schedule. Girls are much better a spotting patterns than men are. Its second nature to them.

I think the best advice is to cut one loose pretty soon, or like the guys said, better manage both girls expectations and slowly pull back a little on both.

No there is no need to lie to either one of them. You simply tell them both that you are dating other people. The reason OP is afraid to tell them this is because he is afraid he will lose one or both of them. Except that really isn't what usually happens. Personally I think OP needs to have better qualifiers as to when to become exclusive with a women. Right now it appears his qualifications are they have sex with him and they ask to be exclusive. Neither of those is anywhere close enough to being a good enough reason.

Until you plan on being exclusive with a women there is never a reason to tell her otherwise other than your own insecurity.

 

[MrWiggles]

Introduce them to each other and have threesomes galore

 

[SgtSplacker]

Drops off beer at your place? I'd appreciate that and all but what is she trying to make up for?

 

[salinechow]

No there is no need to lie to either one of them. You simply tell them both that you are dating other people. The reason OP is afraid to tell them this is because he is afraid he will lose one or both of them. Except that really isn't what usually happens. Personally I think OP needs to have better qualifiers as to when to become exclusive with a women. Right now it appears his qualifications are they have sex with him and they ask to be exclusive. Neither of those is anywhere close enough to being a good enough reason.

Until you plan on being exclusive with a women there is never a reason to tell her otherwise other than your own insecurity.

I agree, and applaud that mentality. I was just giving him life experience in case he doesn't have the balls or desire to run his situation like that.

 

[Dingo]

Make sure they have different color hair...

Don't schedule sex with both on the same day...

 

[spiegel549]

Hey guys, sorry for the slow response. Finally had some free time to read over all the comments. Thank you everyone for the feedback.

I bought some time with telling girl #1 I am all for being "exclusive with just each other," but I do want to attach an official title to it until we spend more time together. She was real cool with it. I can tell she is genuine as hell, and takes care of me beyond any female I have ever dated. I am honestly still on the fence on WHY at 22yrs old she is like this...when she does pay for me, does nice things etc she doesn't do it in an obsessed weird red flag way. She is really straight forward about it. "I am buying this lunch today because you bought me dinner Tuesday." It is COOL. So far so good.

Girl #2 Just has no comparison to girl #1. I realized after reading all the comments that I want her around because her body is amazing and the sex is great. Girl #1 now that she is getting more comfortable with me the sex is getting really good, and I am finding out she is down for some kinky fun!

I still think I am going to keep Girl #2 around but not give her as much attention and maybe see her just on the weekends only until she eventually drops off.

Thoughts?

 

[Yewki]

I still think I am going to keep Girl #2 around but not give her as much attention and maybe see her just on the weekends only until she eventually drops off.

Thoughts?

You agreed to be exclusive with girl #1 so if you want her to stick around end things with girl #2

 

[spiegel549]

You agreed to be exclusive with girl #1 so if you want her to stick around end things with girl #2

So since Girl #1 is "exclusive," I should drop Girl #2 and just keep the random & new plates spinning as low key sides correct? I think you are right, because Girl #2 can really make this a headache as opposed to a new plate I meet and nail on the down low.

How do you all go about going out with new plates without getting seen or noticed by the exclusive girl I am seeing or even worse seen someone who knows her? Obviously stay away from main spots I usually go to with main chick.