@Grewd, I agree with your general philosophy, but you also have to be careful not to go to the other end of the spectrum (accommodating and believing in the 'ideal' woman). What
@daddymonsterpoodle said is very much true, if a perhaps a tad extreme, but has an undeniable basis in fact...it's wrong to ignore opposing opinions. How can you learn and develop yourself if you're unwilling to consider other viewpoints man?
The key is finding a happy medium, and conducting yourself such that women will
want to be the feminine, kind, etc. woman FOR you. Conduct yourself with honor, exercise patience, be respectful...but also be dominating, take the lead, and be aggressive when the situation calls for it. Leaning too far to EITHER extreme will result in lost opportunities with girls - though arguably much more if you're too far on the nice-guy side than the 'jerk' side.
And
@daddymonsterpoodle I think the argument against paying for sex is for a very specific subset of people, is how I understand it. If you're an average dude, have the
potential to become attractive, socially confident, raise your status (which I'd imagine is most men on this forum) but CHOOSE not to out of laziness or disillusionment/lack of motvation and buy sex as an 'easy way out', that's what people sometimes have a problem with. Instead of putting in the self-improvement work and making use of the opportunities and capabilities that life has given you to be worthy of a woman who likes you for your own merits, taking the path of least resistance just seems...like a cop-out, right? (Bad analogy incoming) It's like if you're a little overweight, you can lose weight by exercising, eating right, etc. or you can get a liposuction surgery or something. They both have basically the same end result, but there's something to be said about the methods and the journey taken, an intangible value.
Improving oneself and attracting a mate is a fundamental challenge of life in all species (and a fun one, at that!), and there's something to said here about a sense of pride and confidence in oneself that you can attract a female and make her want to have sex with you. Again this is only potentially an issue for the average mid-20s man with the highly available potential to have sex (but doesn't do so), which is a specific subset of people out there. I don't believe prostitution is wrong or should be banned or whatever,
it's the world's first profession (look it up!) and it's been around for this long because there is a need and it is important. However, I also don't believe it's okay to write off developing your skills as a man to interact with and attract women. I'd imagine there is a great deal more satisfaction in sleeping with women who have true affection for you!