Dustmuffins Journal

[ubercat]

Marmel is one of the great no BS posters. but being dm's age I can understand his ambivalence about woman. dating in middle age is pretty much picking over the leftovers so of course guys will get disillusioned with the spoiled fruit. And the financial security that DM has has achieved didn't happen by accident. he obviously is making plans and achieving goals

 

[dustmuffin]

Thanks for the support guys. I am working on my inner game and mindset. I don't journal my every thought. I know I have made progress in all aspects of my life. I was a basket case when I first found this site. I still have a lot of work to do and will to continue to press forward.

 

[marmel75]

You are correct and have given me something to think about and correct. I have discipline and congruency issues. Thank you for pointing this out.

You are welcome. I wasn't trying to bash you or anything, just sometimes its easier for people who are detached from situations to see things that people involved with them don't see...I was legitimately curious as to why it seems like a cycle that repeats every 5 days...

 

[dustmuffin]

Ok.......The date department has gone nuts. Since I have been on match the girls are coming out of the woodwork...Had three dates already this week and one tomorrow.....Have three scheduled for next week including a very hot native girl that is 27. Will also try to schedule repeats in a few days. Two dates went very well made out with one and got a bj in parking lot from the other. There is abundance in my life......I like chasing tail........

 

[LiveYourDream]

Ok.......The date department has gone nuts. Since I have been on match the girls are coming out of the woodwork...Had three dates already this week and one tomorrow.....Have three scheduled for next week including a very hot native girl that is 27. Will also try to schedule repeats in a few days. Two dates went very well made out with one and got a bj in parking lot from the other. There is abundance in my life......I like chasing tail........

What do you attribute the changes in your experience to? Internal changes=external changes?

 

[dustmuffin]

What do you attribute the changes in your experience to? Internal changes=external changes?

What do you attribute the changes in your experience to? Internal changes=external changes?

I took a new pic. Me in a coat and tie. The girls have been telling me how handsome I look. The thing that has done the most good is that I shaved 5 years off of my age. I am getting a lot of traffic, likes, winks, interested ect.

I am even going to have to double book a few days. I have dates every day next week. I have a date with a very attractive 27 yo native. Two hot blonds 33 and 37. Then I also have a date with a veterinarian. Funny my ex is a vet....So I have over abundance! My date went well last night. Sat next to her and kinoed the crap out of her. Ended up getting a BJ in the parking lot. My date flaked tonight but I think it's for the best. She was full up on crazy. I worked out instead.

I think the most valuable thing I have learned is kino....It's magic!

 

[LiveYourDream]

I took a new pic. Me in a coat and tie. The girls have been telling me how handsome I look. The thing that has done the most good is that I shaved 5 years off of my age. I am getting a lot of traffic, likes, winks, interested ect.

I am even going to have to double book a few days. I have dates every day next week. I have a date with a very attractive 27 yo native. Two hot blonds 33 and 37. Then I also have a date with a veterinarian. Funny my ex is a vet....So I have over abundance! My date went well last night. Sat next to her and kinoed the crap out of her. Ended up getting a BJ in the parking lot. My date flaked tonight but I think it's for the best. She was full up on crazy. I worked out instead.

I think the most valuable thing I have learned is kino....It's magic!

Just to be sure I am understanding you correctly...was it the new picture with you in a coat in tie that took 5 years off you or did you shave off some facial hair and because of that as well, you now look 5 years younger?

Glad you are enjoying such abundance. Despite abundance of possible dates make choices to stay in balance in taking care of yourself and continue doing things besides just seeing women. It's important to stay centered in yourself. Sounds like you are mastering the art of kino as well. Happy for you that all is going so well.

 

[dustmuffin]

Just to be sure I am understanding you correctly...was it the new picture with you in a coat in tie that took 5 years off you or did you shave off some facial hair and because of that as well, you now look 5 years younger?

Glad you are enjoying such abundance. Despite abundance of possible dates make choices to stay in balance in taking care of yourself and continue doing things besides just seeing women. It's important to stay centered in yourself. Sounds like you are mastering the art of kino as well. Happy for you that all is going so well.

I lied about my age. I look like I am in my low to mid 40s but am 52. I am 47 on match. The new pic has helped too. After I get where I want to be fitness wise I will get some professional pictures taken.

You are right about being centered. There will be flakes and crazies in this bunch. This will allow me to pare down this group to a more manageable number. I need time to exercise and do what is important to me. Women aren't everything. I still save my weekends for my boys and doing chores on my rentals and around my house.

 

[LiveYourDream]

The thing that has done the most good is that I shaved 5 years off of my age.

Just to be sure I am understanding you correctly...was it the new picture with you in a coat in tie that took 5 years off you or did you shave off some facial hair and because of that as well, you now look 5 years younger?

I lied about my age.

It is so strange reading this back now. It's weird to even explain. It literally never even occurred to me that you simply changed the age in your profile. You state it in black and white and yet it still would not compute for me. I am such a straight shooter, it did not even register as a possibility to me that you simply lied (I'm not judging). I was actually perplexed trying to figure out if you meant it was because you shaved facial hair or because of your new clothes. I read it now and half cringe and half laugh. I am shocked I ever had a question. I am stunned by my own naivety here.

This has given me a quite a wake-up call. I thought I was more balanced after my previous experience. It appears my default is assuming everyone is telling the truth unless there are clear indicators otherwise. (I know, even here, it was said in black and white and I didn't see it.) I don't want to default to always wondering if someone is lying, but living as if everyone is straight up clearly has dangers too. I've experienced that all too well already and am not interested in a repeat. This was an important wake-up call for me. Obviously, I need to figure out a healthier and safer approach for myself in the world. Thanks for the reality check.

(For anyone who reads this and feels inclined to flame my naivety here, please don't.)

 

[dustmuffin]

Ok have next weeks dates set up. Double booked on Monday and dates on Tuesday , Wednesday and Thursday. Thursdays date is with the chick I got the BJ from. She is just coming over to smash. I will get a flake I imagine but it looks good. I am still chatting on match with a 35 yo blond. Also have a redhead That will be out of town next week. I have her phone number. Texted a bit but let it drop. I'll try to set up dates when possible. Out of this herd there should be a few that I want to pursue further. Either way I'm going to cut down on my dates. It is a nice problem to have.

 

[dustmuffin]

Two flakes and 4 dates. I replaced one flake quickly with another girl. Just got finished F ucking the parking lot BJ girl. First thing she said was I wouldn't be getting any sex. I just ignored and escalated. Started kissing her the minute she came through the door. She left two hours later after we smashed. She asked me to get her clothes for her and I told her she could get them herself. **** test passed. She wants to come over again next week after I get back from a trip. I'll text her in a few days and set it up.

The other dates went well with a kiss close. Got to third base with one in her car. I set up a sat afternoon date with her. She is meeting me at my house and then we are going to the movie. It will cost about 10 bucks and then back to my house to smash.

Here is the kicker, all of the girls offered to pay half of the tab. I accepted of course. The veterinarian paid for me too. I went on four dates and was only out about 15 bucks!

There is another girl on match that wants to meet me after I get back from my trip. I also have the number of one that is traveling this week and wants to go out next week. Plus more winks and likes from women on match. Dating could become a full time job if I'm not careful. I want to **** them all but that isn't realistic.

 

[dustmuffin]

5 dates this week. One repeat. She is coming over. Will probably have sex. She said she wants to take it slow.....um ok and ignore.

I would like to find some decent plates so I can stop dating so much. I have seen loads of crazy, damaged women.

I am still working on not being kind and passing **** tests. I have learned a lot though and will only get better with practice.

These woman came from match and I got one from tinder. I'm not initiating at the moment because I don't have enough time for anymore dates. I double booked one day. I also have 2 that want to go out but I have to set them up. Probably next week.

 

[dustmuffin]

I ignored she put up lmr I kept going got her clothes off and ****ed. It's funny how that works. Successful date. She wants me to come over so she can cook for me. She didn't seem crazy. She might be stealth crazy. We will see.

 

[dustmuffin]

Well I keep getting dates. Women send me messages on old without me even trying. These are nice looking women too. I had 3 dates this week. I had two flakes and one bad date. She was kind of dull.

When My friday date flaked on me I sent a text to this girl I ****ed in the ass on the first date. I hadn't talked to her in about 2 months. She came right over and fun was had by all.

I also answered a message from a blond that is an HB7. I got her number and set up a date for tonight. Then I got a message from an Asian girl too. Got her number and set up a date for monday. Im going to invite the girl I screwed last night over on Tuesday. That will be all of the dates for the week. If I get a flake I have numbers I can try for another date.


I am working on my procrastination. I spend to much time reading on the internet. I have my list of things to do today and I'm going to do them. I have two yards to mow and laundry. House is clean because the cleaning lady came over yesterday.

sI am going to spend more time on lifting and working on myself. Two dates a week should be my limit. It's hard to turn them down when they come so easy. I downloaded the 5x5 app and am going to start that. I am also working on being less nervous and more confident. My tri-plex is paid off this month. That is the last big debt that I have. I am improving. I just have to stop procrastinating. The dates are helping me interact with women. I am improving there too.

 

[dustmuffin]

I can get dates with attractive women but now I can't seem to get a second date. One woman asked me why I was so nervous. I made out with her in her car and she gave me a handjob, but no second date. I think this is it. I am giving off a nervous vibe. I am working on it and I seem to be getting better, but alas no second dates. I guess I will just continue to carry on. I think I will try meditation. It's just frustrating to be able to line up 5 five first dates in a week and not be able to get a second. I am at a point where if I don't improve I'm just going to drop dating for a while. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[dustmuffin]

I had two dates today. One at six with a kiss close. My 8 pm date cancelled so while I was waiting on my 6 pm date I hit up a tinder chick that I had been chatting with. She agreed to a date at 8 30. ANyway we had one drink each. Total of 10 bucks. I said why dont we watch the end of the basketball game (thunder/Dallas) at my place. My house is five minutes away. I had heavy kino that she returned during the date. She agreed to watch the game at my place. As soon as she came in the door I started kissing her. We moved to the bed to watch the game. She said no sex would happen. It did. She wanted to know if she would see me again. I was dominate and a bit of an ass hole. ANyway I didnt have her phone number. she said something about it and I told her to send it to me on tinder.....She did...Good night...one more thing she said that she didnt let anyone *** in her mouth....I told her she would suck my d ick and swallow every drop.....she did

 

[guru1000]

We are dynamic. Everyday we change. Some change for the better, some for the worse. The goal is to improve everyday. We are not who we were yesterday. Understanding this allows us to relinquish the past.

Your actions last night: (1) scheduling the double-header; (2) brushing off the cancellation and rescheduling another impromptu; (3) getting the subject to your house; (4) ignoring or agreeing with her comment of no sex and then fvking her; (5) ignoring her comment of no bj and then making her go down; (6) not asking for the number post-lay--these are all actions of a high-level DJ.

Guru approves of this message and change

 

[dustmuffin]

Dates for the week....4 one repeat with the girl I ****ed sat. I could have had 5 but the vietnamese chick was being a pain in the ass....She wants food, she wants lunch, she wants a different restaurant....No to all of that crap.....