Her family hates me

[Alpheta]

The girl im with has a family of nutters. I havent met them. But they hate me.Why?I dont know.

Anyways, they are trying to persuade her to break up with me.They are emotionally blackmailing her . She tells me everything. Tells me how she cant stand them and why they are reacting like that.

Ive read the messages her mother sends her (girl lives out at college) saying she wishes i was dead (lol) and that the girl has deviated and isnt innocent anymore.Her aunty is another nut case.

She loves her family as she is religious and family orientated. She loves me and isnt being phased by the pressure but still it is a problem.

I needed to ask how i should approach this? Surely by showing my frustration towards the situation isnt wise? Should i just act calm and just listen?How should i respond to this situation?

Or in other words, how do i be the 'rock' in this scenario?

 

[RangerMIke]

This hasn't happened to me in a LONG time since most women I see are grown women in the 30s and 40s. But in my younger days (HS and College) I don't think there was a single girl I was hooking up with whose family didn't hate me. People often have a VERY hard time when their daughters become sexually active... or suspect as such. And if you are a certain type of guy... well, naturally you will be the center of attention.

My advice is not to worry about it... this is going to play out, just enjoy the ride. If it stops being fun, then move on. This is her problem not yours. I would caution you on letting her go on and on about how much her family hates you, don't put up with that sh!t. She is playing a strong game of manipulation on you , and you don't even realize it. She is the damsel in distress, don't be the knight to her rescue... The fact that you are on here asking what to do mean you are thinking about this too much.

 

[Desdinova]

This is usually a no-win situation. If she still has lots of contact with them, they will eventually prevail. She will be convinced to leave her stallion and go searching for a magical unicorn.

 

[dude99]

The girl im with has a family of nutters. I havent met them. But they hate me.Why?I dont know.

Anyways, they are trying to persuade her to break up with me.They are emotionally blackmailing her . She tells me everything. Tells me how she cant stand them and why they are reacting like that.

Ive read the messages her mother sends her (girl lives out at college) saying she wishes i was dead (lol) and that the girl has deviated and isnt innocent anymore.Her aunty is another nut case.

She loves her family as she is religious and family orientated. She loves me and isnt being phased by the pressure but still it is a problem.

I needed to ask how i should approach this? Surely by showing my frustration towards the situation isnt wise? Should i just act calm and just listen?How should i respond to this situation?

Or in other words, how do i be the 'rock' in this scenario?

Best thing you can do is ignore them. Don't feed it. If you engage you are only giving them what they want. If your lady is truly in love with you she will ignore their drama too. If not then the relationship will fail and you won't have spent a lot of emotions and energy fighting a losing battle.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Two and half weeks ago she was a virgin who was so religious she wouldn't masturbate. Then you popped her cherry. For the last two and half weeks she has been flooded with hormones and sexual desire, more than she has ever felt in her entire life. You said you were shocked at the level of kink she has already expressed desire to enjoy with you. I understood she was also feeling crazy horny and there was distance and schedule challenges in meeting up to have sex with her again.

She has gone from a constricted, sexless, religious virgin to more of a kinky, lusty, college girl in the matter of a couple of weeks. There is no doubt those around her have noticed a change. If her family is religious and you are the reason she's become sexually active and starting to walk on the wild side, you can bet they will do everything to keep her away from you. They know the more she sees you, the more she will likely experience sex, and the less likely she'll return to being that religious conservative girl. They are mourning the loss of their little girl.

What do you do? Keep your time together fun and hook-up as often as you can right now to help satisfy her increased desire. No big emotional drama conversations about her family. Tell her you empathize. Let her know that you hardly see each other and you want to focus on enjoying each other and having fun while you are together in person. No outside problems allowed in your limited time together. When she brings it up over the phone, let her know you had a good time and set a date for the next one. Let her navigate the rest. Do not become her emotional confidant about it. Tell her it's best for your relationship if she handles it on her own with them privately. It will not serve you to hear her family hates you. Were you to ever stay with this girl long term (a strong consideration based on Desidova's HST) having heard her parents hated you when she was 18, may be hard to let go of when she's 23 and beyond and they've moved on. It may create subtle resentments in you long term, if you heard all he ways they hated you, suddenly you were to go the LTR or marriage route with her.

Keep your time together fun and in the moment. All worries get left at home when you two go out. In time, her parents will come to accept she's growing up and there is no stopping in it. They'll likely give you dirty looks for years to come. Be polite, respectful and indifferent if they do. In time, their defenses may begin to drop if you remain with her. If you fvck her over be prepared for their wrath too.