why do women like older men?

[oc16]

I am 38, I am in the best shape in my life and look about 32.

I get more looks from women in their 20s and sometimes teens now then I did when I was in my 20s.

I am NOT complaining, but what is it?

Are younger women more attracted to mature good looks than youthful good looks?

 

[Who Dares Win]

They are not, they are attracted to what you have or think you do.

From a better social position, to a better social life, to more properties to better control of yourself.

Given this same conditions in a guy their age, you wouldnt have that easy.

There are few old men which look great despite their age but the average guy after 35 surely doesnt get more attractive to women in general (given he doesnt improve himself in other fields compared to his past), we should stop being delusional like most women.

Of course if in your 20s you're skinny fat and in your 30s you're swole and ripped you will get more attention but its not age related, if you were still the same in your 30s you wouldnt get any attention, even less than before.

Also consider this change in mainstream culture where one of the "you gogurl" mindset is to behave like men therefore seeking younger partners.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

They are not, they are attracted to what you have or think you do.

From a better social position, to a better social life, to more properties to better control of yourself.

Given this same conditions in a guy their age, you wouldnt have that easy.

There are few old men which look great despite their age but the average guy after 35 surely doesnt get more attractive to women in general (given he doesnt improve himself in other fields compared to his past), we should stop being delusional like most women.

Of course if in your 20s you're skinny fat and in your 30s you're swole and ripped you will get more attention but its not age related, if you were still the same in your 30s you wouldnt get any attention, even less than before.

Also consider this change in mainstream culture where one of the "you gogurl" mindset is to behave like men therefore seeking younger partners.

Yeah, a lot of their stuff is like men, and they will choose younger guys who can't evendo anything for them. It makes them feel superior.

 

[fastlife]

Look at the qualities women find attractive in men--confidence, dominance, social status, resources, experience. If you play your cards right, these should be increasing every year; and, as a guy, if you take care of yourself, you can retain your looks (or even improve in a more rugged sort of way) well into your 40's.

Even in the past 4 years, I've noticed that I have way more leverage with the average 20 y/o girl than I did when I was 20. Barring some catastrophic accident, I don't see any reason it shouldn't get even easier from here on out--though access becomes more difficult as you age. But if you arrange a lifestyle where you have access to girls in their late teens/early 20's--think living in a major metropolitan area or even a college town--then it should be smooth sailing.

Of course, there is a large degree of social conditioning & shaming to ensure men never realize their full potential--many men lose a degree of boldness as they age and totally disqualify themselves from even dating younger girls by buying into some narrative of 'doing the right thing' or 'acting your age.'

 

[Desdinova]

I am NOT complaining, but what is it?

Are younger women more attracted to mature good looks than youthful good looks?

If you look at the men in their early 20s, you'll realize exactly what the problem is. Young men today are borderline faggots who wear man buns and are in touch with their feelings. Men who grew up in GenX have now become prized because we weren't as pussified while we were growing up.

I'm 38. My gf is 22. No complaints here.

 

[Von]

I guess it goes with the ''maturity''..... the guy has more experience, status, power, options.... and the girl look for a more stable person who would bring more value to her (attractive, funny)

Biologically it is said women are 3 years more mature than men of their age. So it's why not rare to see girls dating ''above their age'', also a more mature man is more confident (more chance of hitting on her)

Now, the rest is personality.... if you 40 and date a girl in your 20's..... maybe she has something or your looking for something in her (power, control etc... ) but..... a couple is all about giving each other to be better so its good. its the couple standards that matters.

 

[LiveYourDream]

A woman's inner experience has immense emotional fluctuation and variability to it, even more than seen on the outside. To varying degrees this can feel unsettling, unsafe, and ungrounded to the woman herself. This is one of the reasons women melt over a man who they perceive can be "their rock" or "their anchor." A man of strength, who remains unswayed, regardless of a woman's inherent emotions, sh!t tests, and general 'female craziness,' becomes prized above other men, in a woman's heart. His very presence offers her a sense of stability, when she finds she is unable to access that feeling on her own. That comfort and reassurance is priceless to a woman.

When she is riding out one of her own (or other) storms, a man of unwavering solidity, even his presence by itself, can feel like an anchor to her. It gives her the inner comfort and sense of safety that she will not get swept away in the storm, including her own. The stronger the man inside himself, the greater the anchor he is, the greater her respect for him and the greater her attraction for him.

Younger men tend to be less steady and 'all over the map' and therefore lack the presence needed to be an anchor. Most older men, have become more solid in themselves and thus can be a better anchor to a woman. For young women there are very few anchors in her own age group, thus she'll yearn for the solidity of an older man.

TL;DR
A man who, remains unwaveringly rooted in himself, regardless of what a woman or life throws his way, is an anchor unlike any other. Physically or not, he always has the biggest d!ck in the room (to women.) The anchor that he naturally is for a woman, is in a class of it's own. Without even directly meeting him, women will notice him and get wet for him because his very presence emanates inner strength unlike other men.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

The don't.But they like resources older men are more likely to have.

 

[AttackFormation]

Translating this post from chick-speak into something the guys here can process more simply:

A woman's inner experience has immense emotional fluctuation and variability to it, even more than seen on the outside. To varying degrees this can feel unsettling, unsafe, and ungrounded to the woman herself. This is one of the reasons women melt over a man who they perceive can be "their rock" or "their anchor." A man of strength, who remains unswayed, regardless of a woman's inherent emotions, sh!t tests, and general 'female craziness,' becomes prized above other men, in a woman's heart. His very presence offers her a sense of stability, when she finds she is unable to access that feeling on her own. That comfort and reassurance is priceless to a woman.

Act like you are her father.

When she is riding out one of her own (or other) storms, a man of unwavering solidity, even his presence by itself, can feel like an anchor to her. It gives her the inner comfort and sense of safety that she will not get swept away in the storm, including her own. The stronger the man inside himself, the greater the anchor he is, the greater her respect for him and the greater her attraction for him.

The less of a sh!t you give about her feelings, mood swings, etc., the more she likes you. Ignore them, be unresponsive and uncaring, just like a... you got it... rock. Or like a hard dad.

Younger men tend to be less steady and 'all over the map' and therefore lack the presence needed to be an anchor. Most older men, have become more solid in themselves and thus can be a better anchor to a woman. For young women there are very few anchors in her own age group, thus she'll yearn for the solidity of an older man.

Younger men have not yet learned to put women below themselves and are brain washed into not doing so, and that's why women like older men. It also helps that they are older because this naturally puts the man "in charge" of her, which is what the woman wants.

TL;DR
A man who, remains unwaveringly rooted in himself, regardless of what a woman or life throws his way, is an anchor unlike any other. Physically or not, he always has the biggest d!ck in the room (to women.) The anchor that he naturally is for a woman, is in a class of it's own. Without even directly meeting him, women will notice him and get wet for him because his very presence emanates inner strength unlike other men.

Don't treat women like they are fellow adults. Treat them like little girls and yourself as the male authority figure.

 

[wifehunter]

A woman's inner experience has immense emotional fluctuation and variability to it, even more than seen on the outside. To varying degrees this can feel unsettling, unsafe, and ungrounded to the woman herself. This is one of the reasons women melt over a man who they perceive can be "their rock" or "their anchor." A man of strength, who remains unswayed, regardless of a woman's inherent emotions, sh!t tests, and general 'female craziness,' becomes prized above other men, in a woman's heart. His very presence offers her a sense of stability, when she finds she is unable to access that feeling on her own. That comfort and reassurance is priceless to a woman.

When she is riding out one of her own (or other) storms, a man of unwavering solidity, even his presence by itself, can feel like an anchor to her. It gives her the inner comfort and sense of safety that she will not get swept away in the storm, including her own. The stronger the man inside himself, the greater the anchor he is, the greater her respect for him and the greater her attraction for him.

Younger men tend to be less steady and 'all over the map' and therefore lack the presence needed to be an anchor. Most older men, have become more solid in themselves and thus can be a better anchor to a woman. For young women there are very few anchors in her own age group, thus she'll yearn for the solidity of an older man.

TL;DR
A man who, remains unwaveringly rooted in himself, regardless of what a woman or life throws his way, is an anchor unlike any other. Physically or not, he always has the biggest d!ck in the room (to women.) The anchor that he naturally is for a woman, is in a class of it's own. Without even directly meeting him, women will notice him and get wet for him because his very presence emanates inner strength unlike other men.

Generally speaking: (some older guys never grew up and still act like 20 year olds)

Older guys also know when to shut up and not put their foot in their mouths... which can ruin the moment in alot of cases! Big turn on for women!

I can concur with "older men are rocks" plus the fact that if she is with an older man, she will always be young! They love that!

So older guys are their rock, and fountain of youth. What a deal for them!

Eveybody wins!!!

 

[LiveYourDream]

Translating this post from chick-speak into something the guys here can process more simply:



Act like you are her father.



The less of a sh!t you give about her feelings, mood swings, etc., the more she likes you. Ignore them, be unresponsive and uncaring, just like a... you got it... rock. Or like a hard dad.



Younger men have not yet learned to put women below themselves and are brain washed into not doing so, and that's why women like older men. It also helps that they are older because this naturally puts the man "in charge" of her, which is what the woman wants.



Don't treat women like they are fellow adults. Treat them like little girls and yourself as the male authority figure.

I get the trending daddy-daughter porn and daddy-daughter match up sites, etc. (I get this not at all what AF is referring to with his suggestion.) I believe that such set-ups are more commonly a male fantasy/turn-on more than women's. Women will often play along for financial/attention rewards or to please her man. Most women will settle for 'some' strength over weakness any day.

A man acting like a father to a woman is not in the same category of desirability and attractiveness AT ALL, as a man who presents himself as inherently and independently strong.

I get the analogy. I understand it's close and meant to translate women speak. I am not intending to attack back, but to add significant clarification. For me, there is a potential trap in it too that would serve intrested men to understand.

A father's position of strength can come from family rank so to speak and does NOT necessarily convey internal strength, as much as it conveys the assumption and agreement of it's deservability. To me this is a HUGE difference!! This same diminished energetic can be taken on when a man decides to play or project father-daughter energetics.

One IS always strong! The other (father role) can be a dynamic a man takes on and projects with women, and knowingly or not, can be used to cover-up his own underlying insecurity and weakness. One is massively attractive to women, the other ho-hum in comparison.

A truly strong man would not be interested in playing dad, even subtly (ok maybe once or twice), as he has no NEED to. His mindset and his approach already conveys dominant strength, from HIM being HIM, not some role. He's is interested in fvcking her, because he wants to fvck her, end of story.

I get men may use the reference or projection of being like a woman's father or her like a daughter to try and grow into more innate strength. I think it's a trap that can subtly presupposes a weakness in him and continue to reinforce it, rather than really growing and solidifying his own strength. Watch out.

One is massively attractive to women, and the other is well... perhaps better than other options.

TL;DR
A man acting like a father to a woman is not in the same category of desirability and attractiveness AT ALL, as a man who presents himself as inherently and independently strong.

 

[expos]

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[Darth]

This is the wrong question. A successful mindset would generate the following question: What can I do to be as desirable and attractive as these older men that seem to be attracting all the women. How can I become a better man.

Not jealousy, not envy...improvement.

 

[wifehunter]

$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

Yes, if shes a gold digger.

We love those types, right? /verbal irony

 

[wifehunter]

This is the wrong question. A successful mindset would generate the following question: What can I do to be as desirable and attractive as these older men that seem to be attracting all the women. How can I become a better man.

Not jealousy, not envy...improvement.

I might add, that years upon years of expirience and self improvement, tend to put us in an unattainable category.

 

[Darth]

I might add, that years upon years of expirience and self improvement, tend to put us in an unattainable category.

Unatainable to all but the highest bider

 

[wifehunter]

Unatainable to all but the highest bider

Let the best woman win!

 

[Donion Rings]

I get the trending daddy-daughter porn and daddy-daughter match up sites, etc. (I get this not at all what AF is referring to with his suggestion.) I believe that such set-ups are more commonly a male fantasy/turn-on more than women's. Women will often play along for financial/attention rewards or to please her man. Most women will settle for 'some' strength over weakness any day.

A man acting like a father to a woman is not in the same category of desirability and attractiveness AT ALL, as a man who presents himself as inherently and independently strong.

I get the analogy. I understand it's close and meant to translate women speak. I am not intending to attack back, but to add significant clarification. For me, there is a potential trap in it too that would serve intrested men to understand.

A father's position of strength can come from family rank so to speak and does NOT necessarily convey internal strength, as much as it conveys the assumption and agreement of it's deservability. To me this is a HUGE difference!! This same diminished energetic can be taken on when a man decides to play or project father-daughter energetics.

One IS always strong! The other (father role) can be a dynamic a man takes on and projects with women, and knowingly or not, can be used to cover-up his own underlying insecurity and weakness. One is massively attractive to women, the other ho-hum in comparison.

A truly strong man would not be interested in playing dad, even subtly (ok maybe once or twice), as he has no NEED to. His mindset and his approach already conveys dominant strength, from HIM being HIM, not some role. He's is interested in fvcking her, because he wants to fvck her, end of story.

I get men may use the reference or projection of being like a woman's father or her like a daughter to try and grow into more innate strength. I think it's a trap that can subtly presupposes a weakness in him and continue to reinforce it, rather than really growing and solidifying his own strength. Watch out.

One is massively attractive to women, and the other is well... perhaps better than other options.

TL;DR
A man acting like a father to a woman is not in the same category of desirability and attractiveness AT ALL, as a man who presents himself as inherently and independently strong.

I love it when you chime in. Sometimes, you need that one female perspective amongst all the varied male perspectives. And from what I have experienced (and might continue to experience), the older guy phenomenon might be true. They have had more life to improve and mature, but what do I know? I am no where near my thirties.

 

[kronreiff]

There's nothing better to polish an aging male ego than a HB8/HB9 in her young 20's with a super tight body, imagination and a filthy mind. Just keep your emotions in check and enjoy the ego rub along with p0rn star sex.

 

[wifehunter]

There's nothing better to polish an aging male ego than a HB8/HB9 in her young 20's with a super tight body, imagination and a filthy mind. Just keep your emotions in check and enjoy the ego rub along with p0rn star sex.

ego rubs are nothing... she could go cold tomorrow.