How Should I Play This Situation?

[Nu Vision]

Today while coming back to work from lunch I see a coworker with two very attractive girls. They work in marketing and go to my department from time to time to promote their companies. My coworker introduced me to the second girl who I don't know but have seen before. She says how come Ive never seen you before. I said my office is in the back. She says you and your pretty face should sit in the front so people can see you.

Def a compliment. I was a bit surprised. We all look at each other. My coworker says "(girls name) is single and so is Ni Vision".

So the girl and I look each other. Our eyes say yes we like each other . Her friend hands me the girls business card and they leave.

Should I straight up call her and ask her out or should I befriend her on FB or linkedin first and get some convo going to warm things up.

My gut says just call and don't beat around the bushes. Just wanna know what y'all advise.

When I call I'm thinking "hey.its my vision. I was wondering if you would like to join me for drinks at _____ at 8 tomorrow."

 

[cola]

I know shes hot, but you gotta relax and stop overthinking.
You want to ask her but phrase it from a position of power like..

"Hey, Im going to xxx at 8 tomorrow. Come join me"

See the subtle difference in how we said the same thing in different ways? Ofcourse if her IL is high you can get a way with how you asked but for future reference frame dates the way I said.
It feels like less pressure for her(less likely to flake), its like I'm going out if you come good if not im still going to be out having fun

 

[LiveYourDream]

Cola nailed it! Do exactly what he said.

Once you have a woman's number, like in this case, just go for it and ask her out straight away. Using FB and Linkedin to message back and forth, after you have her number, conveys hesitation and insecurity to me. Would a full on DJ, tip toe around his obvious attraction, by first reaching out on FB or LinkedIn to her? Definitely not. Do what Cola said. She'll respect you for it.

 

[RangerMIke]

Cola is spot on. You have to have the attitude that you are 'fun' and invite her to participate in the fun, which will happen with or without her.

LiveYourDream is correct... never tip toe around, go after what you want directly.. this is much more attractive for women.

 

[Nu Vision]

Ok.

Definitely see the difference in the wording cola.

I have her work cell not personal. I have her business card.

Have to make some convo first before telling her this no?

I may be wrong but I'm thinking calling her and hitting her with this line may be too straight forward.

Thanks guys. Great advice as always.

 

[RangerMIke]

I have her work cell not personal. I have her business card.

Have to make some convo first before telling her this no?

I may be wrong but I'm thinking calling her and hitting her with this line may be too straight forward.

Thanks guys. Great advice as always.

Hmmmm....this is a problem. I didn't pick up on that. If you have her business number then it MIGHT not be appropriate for you to call that number and ask for a date.

Call her business number and say it's the only number you have and ask for her private cell number. She will know what this means, if she gives up her private cell number quickly then invite her out.... then NEVER use her business number again. If she him haws around and then gives it up... wait a week o so and invite her out. If she makes ANY excuses at all, she is not interested and you need to move on.

 

[AllDay85]

Today while coming back to work from lunch I see a coworker with two very attractive girls. They work in marketing and go to my department from time to time to promote their companies. My coworker introduced me to the second girl who I don't know but have seen before. She says how come Ive never seen you before. I said my office is in the back. She says you and your pretty face should sit in the front so people can see you.

Def a compliment. I was a bit surprised. We all look at each other. My coworker says "(girls name) is single and so is Ni Vision".

So the girl and I look each other. Our eyes say yes we like each other . Her friend hands me the girls business card and they leave.

Should I straight up call her and ask her out or should I befriend her on FB or linkedin first and get some convo going to warm things up.

My gut says just call and don't beat around the bushes. Just wanna know what y'all advise.

When I call I'm thinking "hey.its my vision. I was wondering if you would like to join me for drinks at _____ at 8 tomorrow."

That "pretty face" comment was a **** test. Hopefully you didn't fall into it and start blowing her **** up. But she could definitely be interested.

My advice is send her a fb message with something ****y/funny. From there, get her number.

 

[Nu Vision]

Hmmmm....this is a problem. I didn't pick up on that. If you have her business number then it MIGHT not be appropriate for you to call that number and ask for a date.

Call her business number and say it's the only number you have and ask for her private cell number. She will know what this means, if she gives up her private cell number quickly then invite her out.... then NEVER use her business number again. If she him haws around and then gives it up... wait a week o so and invite her out. If she makes ANY excuses at all, she is not interested and you need to move on.

Agreed.

Timing is not great though. Traveling next weekend. Will be away for 10 days. If we are going to go out it would need to happen prior to next weekend.

 

[Nu Vision]

That "pretty face" comment was a **** test. Hopefully you didn't fall into it and start blowing her **** up. But she could definitely be interested.

My advice is send her a fb message with something ****y/funny. From there, get her number.

She has no FB or at least i cant find hwe on FB. Does have linkedin.

I acted cool when she said I had a pretty face. I passed that test.

 

[Julian]

When she said "pretty face" you should wrinkled your nose like "Pretty? Pretty please with a cherry on top? baby I appreciate the compliment but pretty is for puzzys and flowers, i prefer the term ruggedly handsome".

Thats some alpha response **** right there.

When you text her just be like Hey its Ni Vision, whats up

Then ask her if shes down for a drink. But PLAN TO HANG OUT THE DAY YOU CONTACT HER. Dont make plans for the fkin weekend or for tomorrow or next week. TONIGHT MUTHER FKKER!

 

[Yewki]

should I befriend her on FB or linkedin first and get some convo going to warm things up.

No

My gut says just call and don't beat around the bushes. Just wanna know what y'all advise.

When I call I'm thinking "hey.its my vision. I was wondering if you would like to join me for drinks at _____ at 8 tomorrow."

Yes

 

[Nu Vision]

Didn't call her.

Logistics are not great with me getting things ready to go out of ten country next Friday. May sound like an excuse but will be super busy next few days.

Maybe I should call her and let her know when I get back I'd like to see her?

 

[Von]

If you can write here. You can call her

 

[pyros]

all these posts and now you say you dont have time for that. LMAO...

Anyway, considering how fast women change their minds nowadays, if you wait ten or more days to text her she will be, more than likely, gone.

Good luck...

P.S.

I would have just messaged her on fb. Asked her how she's doing , blah blah, you tell her something interesting that happened to you during the week, blah blah, and you either ask her out (with a date idea in mind) or ask for her number.
But you cannot, as some guys here wrote, just text her or call her out of the blue and tell her: "hey, its nu vision, I am going for a drink next Saturday at 21:00, join me if you wish". This is ridiculous. You need to "blah-blah" her a bit before you ask her out. Test if she's doing well, if she's feeling happy etc, because... what if she had a bad day at work? she would be feeling negative and then you ask her out. Wrong move. What if she just lost her cat, and you ask her out without knowing about this little issue? she would reject your date offer more than likely. Not because of YOU, but because of her circumstances.

You text her, blah-blah her a bit, and see if her replies show that she's interested and feels happy. If, however, you get a negative vibe, or she's giving you short answers and taking long to reply everytime...YOU DO NOT ASK HER OUT. You just forget about her until she contacts you. What if she doesnt? her loss.
But, if you suddenly ask her out BEFORE you know she wants it and she's feeling happy and excited because you texted her, she will reject you.
You cannot go from 0% to 100%.

True story.

 

[Bible_Belt]

That "pretty face" comment was a **** test.

Yeah, and I think the OP failed it by not giving her sh!t back immediately. That's what she wanted. "Ugh" (acting disgusted) "I am MORE than just a pretty face, OK? I am tired of being treated like a piece of meat by you women."

Hindsight is 20/20 and I'm not saying the OP's chances are gone, but for future reference, when a woman you've just met says something like that, you have about three seconds to start teasing her right back, or else you fail the test.

 

[Nu Vision]

all these posts and now you say you dont have time for that. LMAO...

Anyway, considering how fast women change their minds nowadays, if you wait ten or more days to text her she will be, more than likely, gone.

Good luck...

P.S.

I would have just messaged her on fb. Asked her how she's doing , blah blah, you tell her something interesting that happened to you during the week, blah blah, and you either ask her out (with a date idea in mind) or ask for her number.
But you cannot, as some guys here wrote, just text her or call her out of the blue and tell her: "hey, its nu vision, I am going for a drink next Saturday at 21:00, join me if you wish". This is ridiculous. You need to "blah-blah" her a bit before you ask her out. Test if she's doing well, if she's feeling happy etc, because... what if she had a bad day at work? she would be feeling negative and then you ask her out. Wrong move. What if she just lost her cat, and you ask her out without knowing about this little issue? she would reject your date offer more than likely. Not because of YOU, but because of her circumstances.

You text her, blah-blah her a bit, and see if her replies show that she's interested and feels happy. If, however, you get a negative vibe, or she's giving you short answers and taking long to reply everytime...YOU DO NOT ASK HER OUT. You just forget about her until she contacts you. What if she doesnt? her loss.
But, if you suddenly ask her out BEFORE you know she wants it and she's feeling happy and excited because you texted her, she will reject you.
You cannot go from 0% to 100%.

True story.

Good points.

At this point I can either call her work cell or send her a linkedin invite to connect that way, msg her and get her person al cell. Chat a bit and tell her I'm traveling and will be gone for a week and will hit her up when I get back so we can get drinks.

 

[Nu Vision]

Yeah, and I think the OP failed it by not giving her sh!t back immediately. That's what she wanted. "Ugh" (acting disgusted) "I am MORE than just a pretty face, OK? I am tired of being treated like a piece of meat by you women."

Hindsight is 20/20 and I'm not saying the OP's chances are gone, but for future reference, when a woman you've just met says something like that, you have about three seconds to start teasing her right back, or else you fail the test.

True. I always have a problem reacting in the moment. I should have played this differently. I didn't totally botched it though, didNT go gaga when she called me pretty facw. Acted indifferent.

 

[Nu Vision]

So this girl's friend (the one that handed me her business card) was at my job yesterday. I asked about her friend and if she was single. She is single according to the friend. The friend told me the number on her business card is actually her personal number which her company pays for. So I texted her at that number.

We texted a bit last night but then no text after I asked if she's single. I'll post our convo so you guys can see and hopefully point me in the right direction. Should I wait for her to text back or just go ahead and text what my next text was going to be which was to invite her out for drinks?

NV: Hi. It's Nu Vision from Xerox. Kim was here today. I asked about you. How are you?

G: Hi Nu Vision! Yes, she told me she saw you today. She also told me you may be coming to our event? I'm great.

NV: Glad to hear.

G: how are you?

NV: I'm great too. Was surprised when Kim told me you are from x country I would have guessed y country. Just came back from x country a few days ago. When is the event?

G: y country? How so? Lol where are you from?

NV: I don't know lol that's the country that came to mind when I saw you. You don't have the typical country x look. I'm from country x too. Don't I look it?

G: Well I don't assume anything so I ask lol. I was in south America for 6 months backpacking and 4 of those were in country y. How was your vacation?

NV: wow. I envy you. I wanna do that. Sounds fun. How was it?

See ... I was right ... 4 months there makes you at least .5% from country y.

My vacation was awesome but too short. Saw a bunch of cool places though. Ours is a beautiful country. We're your born here or there?

G: I was born in NY! But lived there for 2 years when I was younger. Were you visiting family?

-- my phone died while at the gym so an hour later I texted ...

NV: sorry my phone died while at the gym. I was born there but kept moving back and forth.

I like your name.

Are you single?

--

That's the last text I sent. Was going to follow up with an invite out for drinks.

Whats the best way to do here? Her not replying is a sign of LOW interest I think. Abandon this? Is there a way to right this ship? Where did I go wrong here.

I didn't want to text back and forth a ton so was closing things and was going to ask her out so we can talk in person which is always better than text.

 

[Tictac]

Texting is for arranging dates at a time and place certain.

Everything else you did was unnecessary.

 

[Yewki]

Where did I go wrong here.

Don't ask if she's single or has a boyfriend. Assume she doesn't. Let her tell you otherwise.

Don't apologize or feel like you have to explain a delay in responding. It shows you prioritize her and don't have much going on.

The conversation was too drawn out for the mundane topic. You should have ended it sooner and asked her to tell you about the details in person.

Some of your messages were too long and formal. You don't have to address everything she says. This comes across as try hard and suggests you're desperate.

Cliff notes,
1. You care too much