120 day sexual healing experiment

[AttackFormation]

I've already started but wanted to formalise it here.

Internal goals:

- No masturbation, never touch my d1ck at all except for non-sexual reasons
- No porn or any other arousing virtual content like images unless sexting with guaranteed meetup; if I'm not seeing it irl, I'm not seeing it period
✓ Delete all OLD platforms

I actually intend to do this forever, but I tell my brain that it's for 120 days so it feels like a smaller goal and I can measure progress. I do this to remedy and/or prevent sexual problems, concentration problems and wasting my time.

External goals:

- Increase my amount of plates to at least 3 and increase their quality to what I like. I doubt I'll accomplish this goal because I don't really meet women anywhere: I didn't and don't have a job I meet women through, I don't like sausage fest clubs or the music they play and neither drink (anymore) nor smoke, I study from home (though that can change, and will for sure in a year), I have acquaintances but not a social circle, and neither of my hobbies are very good for meeting girls (at least not the kind I'm out after). I can have the balls to cold approach but don't like to do so because of the negative stigma attached to it here. It's winter right now anyway so not exactly bristling with opportunities (not that it is in the summer, but at least then girls will look at you and them seeing your physique puts you at +1). Another thing that doesn't help is that Sweden's gender ratio is literally the worst in the world as of now, but I can't do anything about that so just gotta work on finding the girls anyway.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Let us know how it goes week by week.

Personally I tried something similar altought with a shorter time goal but had to stop, after 2 weeks I started losing libido and sex drive, didnt even wanted to fap.

Got loss in strenght and aggressivity in the gym so dropped it.

 

[Colossus]

Having done this to some degree, I think you'll reap the most benefit from no porn. It resets those arousal pathways in the brain.

I no FAP'ed for over 4 months once (including zero porn during that time), and it was overall beneficial, but a little overkill in some respects.

For one, I had sex about 2 months into this. And it was strange, my body almost forgot how to ejaculate. It took me several sessions to regain my previous orgasmic intensity and volume. So I think fapping once a week is fine if you are not getting laid. There is no additional increase in testosterone after 1 week anyway.

The no porn thing was hard (for me), because I've been addicted to it on and off throughout my life. But the biggest benefit here was how goddamm arousing it was seeing a woman in any state of nakedness. Porn desensitizes you to visual sexual stimuli, obviously, in a big way. So I could see a woman's breasts or thighs and be ready to go. And I still had sexual thoughts, they just weren't so...pornographic.

 

[AttackFormation]

Let us know how it goes week by week.

Personally I tried something similar altought with a shorter time goal but had to stop, after 2 weeks I started losing libido and sex drive, didnt even wanted to fap.

Got loss in strenght and aggressivity in the gym so dropped it.

For sure.

I will probably be having sex during this time too, so hopefully I should be fine.

Having done this to some degree, I think you'll reap the most benefit from no porn. It resets those arousal pathways in the brain.

I no FAP'ed for over 4 months once (including zero porn during that time), and it was overall beneficial, but a little overkill in some respects.

For one, I had sex about 2 months into this. And it was strange, my body almost forgot how to ejaculate. It took me several sessions to regain my previous orgasmic intensity and volume. So I think fapping once a week is fine if you are not getting laid. There is no additional increase in testosterone after 1 week anyway.

The no porn thing was hard (for me), because I've been addicted to it on and off throughout my life. But the biggest benefit here was how goddamm arousing it was seeing a woman in any state of nakedness. Porn desensitizes you to visual sexual stimuli, obviously, in a big way. So I could see a woman's breasts or thighs and be ready to go. And I still had sexual thoughts, they just weren't so...pornographic.

Yep, that and getting my d1ck used to the sensation of pvssies instead of my crush grip hand are the two reason why I do it. The second reason is why I don't feel I can fap even once a week, it has to be a total cleanup. I know right what you're talking about with the desensitizing... glad to hear it got better for you. I don't know how "damaged" I am but any improvement will be great.

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Week 1 has been going solid. I've fvcked a plate and abstained from porn and masturbation. My mind is probably having an abstinence phase, because I keep thinking about all the arousing things I've watched and want to see again like when you're very hungry your brain makes you smell food scents. Feels good to resist it.

 

[Glumix]

No Pr0n, No Masturbation, No Social Media is the remedy for 80% of current society fvckedupness.
Add to this No Garbage Food, No Smoking and you are in for a good life.

Even though we can debate about masturbation, I think if you use masturbation as a learning tool (edging, sensation, etc...) it's good, but if you use masturbation for anything else, it's bad. You should masturbate thinking about your d!ck as a muscle and a pack of nerves and be self-conscious about what you are doing.

Are you really afraid your body will forget how to ejaculate? Common guys, it's your body! It knows better than anything else even your consciousness how to functionate. It's instinctual.

Are you really afraid your body will forget sexual desire? That's nature. You will never forget that.

No Masturbation is to show you you can live your life with no s€x and to detach yourself from that constant obsession and neediness you have toward s€x and consequently women.

When you are horny as fvck just be conscious about it and start thinking with your brain again. The goal is to create a balance between thinking with your d!ck and your brain. You can enjoy the feeling of being horny. This is your body telling you it is still functioning properly. Great! Smile to your d!ck! That doesn't mean you have to go in the bathroom and jerk off immediately. It is that urgency that fvck us up.

Our society build that urgency everywhere. We want everything right away at the exact second we feel the need for it. That new car, that new home, we want to know how to play guitar without studying music, we want to be stars or CEO without working, we want to learn from books without knowing how to read.

Your experiment is great. You will learn about containing and controlling yourself.

 

[evan12]

I've already started but wanted to formalise it here.

Internal goals:

- No masturbation, never touch my d1ck at all except for non-sexual reasons
- No porn or any other arousing virtual content like images unless sexting with guaranteed meetup; if I'm not seeing it irl, I'm not seeing it period
✓ Delete all OLD platforms

I actually intend to do this forever, but I tell my brain that it's for 120 days so it feels like a smaller goal and I can measure progress. I do this to remedy and/or prevent sexual problems, concentration problems and wasting my time.

External goals:

- Increase my amount of plates to at least 3 and increase their quality to what I like. I doubt I'll accomplish this goal because I don't really meet women anywhere: I didn't and don't have a job I meet women through, I don't like sausage fest clubs or the music they play and neither drink (anymore) nor smoke, I study from home (though that can change, and will for sure in a year), I have acquaintances but not a social circle, and neither of my hobbies are very good for meeting girls (at least not the kind I'm out after). I can have the balls to cold approach but don't like to do so because of the negative stigma attached to it here. It's winter right now anyway so not exactly bristling with opportunities (not that it is in the summer, but at least then girls will look at you and them seeing your physique puts you at +1). Another thing that doesn't help is that Sweden's gender ratio is literally the worst in the world as of now, but I can't do anything about that so just gotta work on finding the girls anyway.

I did that before , nothing really changed , I think it only work if you are a porn addict

 

[Building_and_Loan]

I've already started but wanted to formalise it here.

Internal goals:

- No masturbation, never touch my d1ck at all except for non-sexual reasons
- No porn or any other arousing virtual content like images unless sexting with guaranteed meetup; if I'm not seeing it irl, I'm not seeing it period
✓ Delete all OLD platforms

I actually intend to do this forever, but I tell my brain that it's for 120 days so it feels like a smaller goal and I can measure progress. I do this to remedy and/or prevent sexual problems, concentration problems and wasting my time.

External goals:

- Increase my amount of plates to at least 3 and increase their quality to what I like. I doubt I'll accomplish this goal because I don't really meet women anywhere: I didn't and don't have a job I meet women through, I don't like sausage fest clubs or the music they play and neither drink (anymore) nor smoke, I study from home (though that can change, and will for sure in a year), I have acquaintances but not a social circle, and neither of my hobbies are very good for meeting girls (at least not the kind I'm out after). I can have the balls to cold approach but don't like to do so because of the negative stigma attached to it here. It's winter right now anyway so not exactly bristling with opportunities (not that it is in the summer, but at least then girls will look at you and them seeing your physique puts you at +1). Another thing that doesn't help is that Sweden's gender ratio is literally the worst in the world as of now, but I can't do anything about that so just gotta work on finding the girls anyway.

Good call with this, I'm actually trying the same thing currently as part of a New Years resolution but unfortunately had a moment of weakness yesterday and fapped to porn for the first time in a while.

It is pretty difficult given how prevalent porn is in our society and online culture. There are a few other online sports-related forums I frequent that users will have gifs and hot girls in their sigs that make it almost impossible to avoid, but it's a good test for self-control.

I'm not an addict or anything but would just like to erase it from my life, helps to know there are others out there doing the same thing.

 

[mv.89]

Not to hijack thread but I'm trying similar thing but it was for a totally different reason.

Out of no where I started feeling pathetic and ashamed after fapping even though I was raised up in a world where the generic teaching is "it's perfectly normal and it helps with other bodily functions".
So it wasn't out of religious or any other beliefs -just out of no where -like a switch in me turned off. I used to do fap every Saturday. Once every week basically.

Another thing that happened with me was- I accidentally stumbled upon to certain clips of pron -(since I was browsing reading material online without adblocker) -and 3-4 min max I watched the clip and it was nothing extreme. LoL I turned it off and went on with my business- cuz after watching it I felt in a similar manner I did when I used to fap. LoL I still had a full erect and everything but I had no wish to continue watching it.

I am off my fap since Nov 29,2015 and I will do it indefinitely. No time frame in mind. I've done 84 days last year I think

Posted about it here

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....ys-not-women-related-tho.232323/#post-2317257

 

[Fatal Jay]

last year I went 6 months no masturbation, this year I'm going all year

 

[AttackFormation]

Update.

Abstaining is going fine but there better be girls available at the new activities I'm taking up because I'm losing my mind due to no plates for weeks now and this healing. Every day is frustrating because I know if I was a woman I wouldn't need to have any of the qualities I have or do any of the things I do, I could be a piece of sh!t and still be swimming in d!ck, yet I don't have sh!t. I feel like I'm living in some sort of joke, like a lab rat, hoping if I push this or that button I'm gonna get a piece of cheese. I wonder if there really could be several things wrong with this place as I suspect, or if getting sex just is this frustrating by default. I don't know since I haven't travelled in a long time. What location is worse than having a f*cked gender ratio, being a feministic stronghold, sun forsaken (ok, places like Ireland are worse, but it's not good here either), cold, and a population that even its own natives describe as anti/asocial?

I am dreaming of somewhere else. Sun, warmth, greenery, water. I want to make eye contact and flirt with girls who want to meet guys, in a place where the men don't markedly outnumber the girls, where people are open and think talking to and meeting people is normal human behaviour. The opposite of here in every regard I mentioned in this paragraph except for the sun, warmth, greenery and water... during the summer only... if the weather roulette goes right.

 

[mv.89]

Update.

Abstaining is going fine but there better be girls available at the new activities I'm taking up because I'm losing my mind due to no plates for weeks now and this healing. Every day is frustrating because I know if I was a woman I wouldn't need to have any of the qualities I have or do any of the things I do, I could be a piece of sh!t and still be swimming in d!ck, yet I don't have sh!t. I feel like I'm living in some sort of joke, like a lab rat, hoping if I push this or that button I'm gonna get a piece of cheese. I wonder if there really could be several things wrong with this place as I suspect, or if getting sex just is this frustrating by default. I don't know since I haven't travelled in a long time. What location is worse than having a f*cked gender ratio, being a feministic stronghold, sun forsaken (ok, places like Ireland are worse, but it's not good here either), cold, and a population that even its own natives describe as anti/asocial?

I am dreaming of somewhere else. Sun, warmth, greenery, water. I want to make eye contact and flirt with girls who want to meet guys, in a place where the men don't markedly outnumber the girls, where people are open and think talking to and meeting people is normal human behaviour. The opposite of here in every regard I mentioned in this paragraph except for the sun, warmth, greenery and water... during the summer only... if the weather roulette goes right.

You will fail and flop into a spiral and then back on fap wagon if this is your outlook. Why is having sex such a prized possession- I understand this is what the forum has turned into but the forum used to be about "just do you and rest will come".

Bro have you ever thought that the things you don't want and have a strong hatred towards always keep showing up and follow you? because we keep fearing them and in-turn focus our attention towards it.

Focus on you -do you- easier said than done but it's possible. Under these circumstances if you did get a woman you'd lose her cuz you'd think of her a precious material and try to wine and dine and bathe her with rose petals. We know how all that ends.

You are the prize and if you are the prize -others should be competing for you not the other way around. Again easier said than done but you have a very narrow view. If you are willing to give up do anything for that few seconds of orgasm/rush/good feeling - what's the difference between you and a junkie?

The title of the thread is- "Healing" in a forum under "Health" - focus on those. If your main motive of quitting fap was to get pvssy instead then might as well start fapping cuz it won't work this way.

Think about it.

 

[AttackFormation]

You will fail and flop into a spiral and then back on fap wagon if this is your outlook. Why is having sex such a prized possession- I understand this is what the forum has turned into but the forum used to be about "just do you and rest will come".

Bro have you ever thought that the things you don't want and have a strong hatred towards always keep showing up and follow you? because we keep fearing them and in-turn focus our attention towards it.

Focus on you -do you- easier said than done but it's possible. Under these circumstances if you did get a woman you'd lose her cuz you'd think of her a precious material and try to wine and dine and bathe her with rose petals. We know how all that ends.

You are the prize and if you are the prize -others should be competing for you not the other way around. Again easier said than done but you have a very narrow view. If you are willing to give up do anything for that few seconds of orgasm/rush/good feeling - what's the difference between you and a junkie?

The title of the thread is- "Healing" in a forum under "Health" - focus on those. If your main motive of quitting fap was to get pvssy instead then might as well start fapping cuz it won't work this way.

Think about it.

I can assure you I'm not wining, dining, bathing or pedestalizing any women, as anyone who is familiar with the kind of posts I make here would know. I "lost" three of my last four plates because I rejected them when they tried to make me do that. I'm not willing to do anything, that's part of the problem. If I was, I would be out cold approaching or clubbing 12/7 and sink to whatever level it took to get some pvssy so point seen but misapplied. Funnily enough, when I started this thread I had two plates and by the time of the next post or so I'd lost them both, I never planned to seek pvssy instead because I had it already. I just wanted to heal.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Did you notice any difference in strenght, endurance and aggressivity untill now?

How are your energy levels and morning woods?

 

[AttackFormation]

Did you notice any difference in strenght, endurance and aggressivity untill now?

How are your energy levels and morning woods?

This last week I've been weaker in the gym. My energy level is sunken through the bottom, and that's saying something considering it is nearly always low to begin with. I've suspected that the workout I did on sunday is what has made me so low energy this week but it wasn't even that much, I just did the usual and some extra cardio prep for getting back into martial arts. When I was in the dojo three times this week to practice kicks, I had to force myself to kick the bag some of the time because I didn't have the energy to execute stuff like spinning kicks. Don't remember the last time I had morning wood. But I don't know if it's because of this, I think it's probably more because I was already feeling pretty low and then I lost both of my plates, including one I had hoped to keep (didn't care about the other one, I didn't even try to keep her when she gave me the commitment speech), which was after a long drought. Losing that one really made me feel like sh!t, not because I had attachment to her but because girls right now are few and far between and now I'm back to "bloodletting rocks" to find them. I have an ex I can call, but I don't want to, I got rid of her in the first place for a reason.

I need sun, pvssy and socialisation, exactly the opposite of what I have now. I feel like I'm living in a prison. But next week on should be a bit better as I will be getting into my new activities and resuming martial arts after recovering from a pair of injuries.

 

[AttackFormation]

I want to fvck SOOOOO freaking bad right now. I feel like I could cvm without wanking like the first time I watched porn. I looked at a load of pictures, just of girls... I will do it... I will stay strong. I will resist.

 

[RedBear]

Great goals! I'm going to abstain from porn, masturbation for the next two months and work out like crazy. For me, working out helps with balancing chemicals because if I only do no fap I feel like punching every one in the face.
What has helped the most the lasts times I tried is to know what triggers this behavior and THEN avoid them at all cost...
Training yourself to resent an unhealthy habit also works. Good luck and keep updating the progress.

 

[AttackFormation]

Right now, I could literally feel the hormones in my brain hijacking it because I am so horny. I could feel them surge around and the change in perspective. Got morning wood today so I guess I either got them all along or my mood has normalized. If I don't find new plates soon I'm going to lose it, I don't know what I'll do. Went to my first acting & improv today, it was fun and interesting, but the secondary goal of meeting girls was a dud. Don't mind because that wasn't why I went there primarily and there will be more opportunities.

There is one thing working for me, and that's having a new neighbour. I met her once previously and again today. Her door is next to mine, she lives alone and she's suggested I come over. She has a dog, is into horses and her family wouldn't let her get a motorcycle license because she loves speed and has no control over it or something like that and she rides her horse fast too.

 

[AttackFormation]

Today i did something im proud of. It demonstrates what we aspire to here. I turned down sex tonight from a girl who says she wakes up every morning wanting me to fvck her, why? Because i would have to use a condom. I basically told her get a long term preventive measure or nothings gonna happen because i wont **** with a condom. She got very frustrated but said she will start eating pills and i can fvck her next week when theyve taken effect. I'm not going back on the standard I got when I had my ex with a birth control implant, unless it's the first time I fvck a new girl and I need to persuade her to get a long term measure.

Even in desert-state thirst, i still have self control and do what *i* feel like. Im still a man. Now im going to ring on my neighbours door and see If shes home.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Today i did something im proud of. It demonstrates what we aspire to here. I turned down sex tonight from a girl who says she wakes up every morning wanting me to fvck her, why? Because i would have to use a condom. I basically told her get a long term preventive measure or nothings gonna happen because i wont **** with a condom. She got very frustrated but said she will start eating pills and i can fvck her next week when theyve taken effect. I'm not going back on the standard I got when I had my ex with a birth control implant, unless it's the first time I fvck a new girl and I need to persuade her to get a long term measure.

Even in desert-state thirst, i still have self control and do what *i* feel like. Im still a man. Now im going to ring on my neighbours door and see If shes home.

I honor your choice. As the strong independent voice you are on SS and the regard you express for women, it surprises me that you would trust any woman to hold your future or the future of your child entirely in her hands.

If this is a woman who says she fantasizes about you every morning, she may be hoping for much more than sex from you. It would sure be easy for her to 'oops', miss a pill or never take them, without you knowing, all with the hope to create an instant family with you. Her fantasies may go beyond just sex with you. Some women want your baby for the forever feeling of leverage to be in your life, it gives them and/or financial support. I know you already know all of this. I'd rather risk irritating you and your potential wrath than see you posting next month that this girl is now pregnant by you and her demands.

I am not a fan of condoms either. I am even less of a fan of unwanted pregnancy or STD's. I am not looking to rain on your parade or be confrontational. I am just trying to gently suggest you be really, really, careful. Risking an unwanted child and a subsequent lifetime relationship with the mother, is a risk you may wish to rethink. Food for thought.

Be safe and have fun!

P.S. You may wish to ask her to get STD tested when she gets her new pill RX. She will already be at the doctor, so why not?

 

[AttackFormation]

I honor your choice. As the strong independent voice you are on SS and the regard you express for women, it surprises me that you would trust any woman to hold your future or the future of your child entirely in her hands.

If this is a woman who says she fantasizes about you every morning, she may be hoping for much more than sex from you. It would sure be easy for her to 'oops', miss a pill or never take them, without you knowing, all with the hope to create an instant family with you. Her fantasies may go beyond just sex with you. Some women want your baby for the forever feeling of leverage to be in your life, it gives them and/or financial support. I know you already know all of this. I'd rather risk irritating you and your potential wrath than see you posting next month that this girl is now pregnant by you and her demands.

I am not a fan of condoms either. I am even less of a fan of unwanted pregnancy or STD's. I am not looking to rain on your parade or be confrontational. I am just trying to gently suggest you be really, really, careful. Risking an unwanted child and a subsequent lifetime relationship with the mother, is a risk you may wish to rethink. Food for thought.

Be safe and have fun!

P.S. You may wish to ask her to get STD tested when she gets her new pill RX. She will already be at the doctor, so why not?

I trust her in this regard because of the proof she's already given me of how she doesn't want to get pregnant. She could easily have tricked me already, and so could a couple of other girls - I believe these girls do not want to get pregnant. Hell, any girl can trick you if she really wants to, as long as she is cunning enough about it. But I am also aware that pregnancy for women is far from a rational choice. As the son of a mother who divorced her husband shortly after I was born, and the numerous accounts I've seen and read of women who don't give a sh!t about the father and by extension the kid's future, I would know. But even with that knowledge I have no real way of controlling it until a male implant is developed.

I'm rather specific with who I have sex with precisely because of the risks when you don't use condoms and that I don't feel it's even worth the bother if you use them, so if they demand that I just won't have sex. One of those things is making sure she has no STDs before we fvck and this girl doesn't have any, fortunately enough. It's surprising to me that you are not a fan of condoms. I've never had a girl care about that before. Is it because it actually affects you too, or because you know it affects me? I stumbled on using this as a kind of test for how much empathy a girl has, or more plainly, whether she gives a sh!t about me. If she doesn't want to make sex enjoyable for me (which will even indirectly benefit her as I will be fvcking her with more passion) in a way that also functions as birth control that she needs too, then I know she's not worth spending time with anyway.

At some point you just have to take a risk and believe in the better if you want something.