New plate went randomly GHOST. Second Opinions?

[spiegel549]

Whats up boys. I have been back in the multiple plate spinning realm and loving it. I unfortunately started to see this one chick more often then the rest. She is younger, but an amazing F*ck and just overall a great bang plate for the weekend.

We smashed 3 times over two weeks. She went from blowing me up to just GHOST. She use to respond all the time, super flirty, up beat, never skipped a beat etc. Now just nothing since I last hit her up last night. F*cking weird.

You damn well better know I am not hitting this broad up until she reaches out but I am a bit rusty on this issue. I usually bang them and move to the next lol.

I have a general opinion but I need a few seconds please. I sorta dig this chick. I hate to see it go. Let me know what you boys think, thanks.

 

[AllDay85]

It's possible she has a bf that is back in the picture. Or, it could be a **** test to see if you're boyfriend material.

More than likely though, she just flaked on you bruh. On to the next.

 

[CMNILS87]

It's only been a day. Maybe another guy like Allday said or Any number of all bull**** reasons. Who knows, just don't text her. If she texts back set up a hangout. Sounds like a test to see if you need her or she needs you more. Play it indifferent and finds things to do.

 

[Lozboss]

Sadly you sometimes dig them when the ghosting happens.

Most Women are scum when it comes to manners, few aren't cowards and will just ghost you.

But part of being truly happy is being outcome independent.

Delete her number and move on. It's over.

 

[pyros]

Sorry to say this but... NOONE CAN BE TOTALLY OUTCOME INDEPENDENT, so it's not a great advise.

If you were, you would become an inert being or something.

 

[Von]

Do nothing, ask her back in 1 week or 2.... or at least ask and update to move to a date or XXX

 

[Bingo-Player]

girls have their phones in their hands 24 hours a day if your that important they will respond instantly

sorry that is the cold light of day

i nearly fell into the same trap just after christmas girl was blowing my ego right up , she was hot too and the pu$$y was good

then she vanished on me mid convo im not joking we were having a whatsapp convo and she just dissapeared

she hit me up 4 days later realising i wasnt going to fold, but by then the damage was done and i took her to pieces

MASSIVE RED FLAG im afraid mate

 

[spiegel549]

girls have their phones in their hands 24 hours a day if your that important they will respond instantly

sorry that is the cold light of day

i nearly fell into the same trap just after christmas girl was blowing my ego right up , she was hot too and the pu$$y was good

then she vanished on me mid convo im not joking we were having a whatsapp convo and she just dissapeared

she hit me up 4 days later realising i wasnt going to fold, but by then the damage was done and i took her to pieces

MASSIVE RED FLAG im afraid mate

LOL. I know this happens all the time, it just hasn't happened to me a long while.

When she vanished mid convo what did you do? Just not reach out, initiate etc. until she reached out again?

Sunday she mentioned about getting together this upcoming weekend, was literally going off about how sexy I am etc. basically saying "I am really into you" but as no surprise after our last text convo Monday afternoon mid full blown convo she vanished. Odd as F*ck.

Stick to my rule of staying indifferent and don't reach out until perhaps Friday afternoon?

 

[LiveYourDream]

Stick to my rule of staying indifferent and don't reach out until perhaps Friday afternoon?

Don't reach out at all. Let her come to you. Anything less diminishes you, in her eyes.

 

[Von]

Some girls want to know if you will reach out again.

Persistance can help getting what you want.... however things should flow and you should not waste time. If she doesn't reach out in a couple of weeks. Contact her again.

Until than.... you have 1 thing to do.... develop more social interactions, work, better yourself.

Unless you make it ''official'' she'll keep her options open

 

[Lozboss]

DO NOT REACH OUT

Delete her number and if she gets in touch then you ask her round your place to make dinner. (Corey Wayne style).

Pursue other women.

Sad truth is that her interest level has gone. You deserve better and don't waste your time on her.

 

[spiegel549]

I have a few other plates I am seeing so it's not the end of the world but what still to this day what drives me crazy is not knowing the WHY.

Why is she not responding, another guy, busy, personal issue etc. An answer as men we will never get lol.

I almost have to stop myself from calling them out "Remember when you said now that were banging I hope you don't get wierd...well biotch you got wierd." Lol

Going from up my azz talking about seeing me next weekend, saying how sexy I am to BOOM not responding cold turkey nothing. Odd as F. Pisses me off lol.

 

[LiveYourDream]

still to this day what drives me crazy is not knowing the WHY.

Why is she not responding

Because she does not care at all, because it fvcks with you, or both.

 

[RangerMIke]

Because she does not care at all, because it fvcks with you, or both.

Yep pretty much. What ever the reason you really can't control what she does, only how you respond. The right COA regardless of WHY a woman might do this is the same, and it is what you are already doing. Stay the course... if she comes back great if not... well there are 3 billion women in the world.

 

[bigneil]

Sometimes girls vanish for up to 30 days. They have oneitis for other men and you have to let them go until you are their oneitis. 10 days MIA is normal and shouldn't be alarming. My philosophy now is that when they cancel, I don't respond. Then, 10 days later or so I'll randomly write to them, usually using humor. For example, one girl came over and we watched Brady Bunch and I went down on her. Then she disappeared for a week so I wrote "I'm starting to think you might be watching Brady Bunch with other people". Ever since then she's been writing to me regularly,. and when I saw her again we picked up where we left off.

 

[Floydispink01]

I have a few other plates I am seeing so it's not the end of the world but what still to this day what drives me crazy is not knowing the WHY.

Why is she not responding, another guy, busy, personal issue etc. An answer as men we will never get lol.

I almost have to stop myself from calling them out "Remember when you said now that were banging I hope you don't get wierd...well biotch you got wierd." Lol

Going from up my azz talking about seeing me next weekend, saying how sexy I am to BOOM not responding cold turkey nothing. Odd as F. Pisses me off lol.

Most of us have probably driven ourselves crazy trying to figure a girl out at one point in our lives. You will never gain anything from having these irrational thoughts. (They seem rational since you did stuff together, secks etc.) Once you break the spell, you realise those thoughts were 100% futile.

Best way to break the spell are focussing on goals you have something to gain from - fitness, health, career, diet etc. Goals that serve only you.

As others have said - move on and pursue other girls in the meantime as well.

 

[Atom Smasher]

She's a female. In my opinion the reasons for the flaky behavior are limited to the following:

Anything.

 

[spiegel549]

Funny enough she responded around 8pm last night. Kicked off a text saying she went out of town to xyz to see her friend Diana she hasn't seen in months. I waited 2 hours and engaged in a small convo basically remaining indifferent like I never even realized she took so long to respond.

Left off last night with me ending the convo. I think I am going to go ghost until tomorrow night and then maybe reach out to see what her weekend plans are. Or perhaps last minute Friday plans with some Netflix and chill haha.

What you boys think?

 

[skinnyguy]

You're way too invested in this ho. You should be spinning plates instead of waiting for her

 

[LiveYourDream]

Funny enough she responded around 8pm last night. Kicked off a text saying she went out of town to xyz to see her friend Diana she hasn't seen in months. I waited 2 hours and engaged in a small convo basically remaining indifferent like I never even realized she took so long to respond.

Left off last night with me ending the convo. I think I am going to go ghost until tomorrow night and then maybe reach out to see what her weekend plans are. Or perhaps last minute Friday plans with some Netflix and chill haha.

What you boys think?

(I am a girl.) I think if you reach out to her, especially if you do what you said and ask her about her weekend plans, that you will come across as not having your own life. Women are attracted to men that are ALREADY busy living their lives with what makes them happy. When a man starts contacting a woman, as if he doesn't have a life or he needs her to be happy in his life, it's a game changer or game ender really. It's an absolute attraction killer!

Take her off the pedestal and focus on your own life, the one that exists without her!
Do not contact her. She will reach out and contact you, guaranteed! When she does simply invite her over and have fun.