She caught me ****ing another *****, is it finished

[devilkingx2]

That text sounds like goodbye, and she sounds sad not mad, as if she somehow realizes that she can't be mad that you're ****ing other people when you're not exclusive, or that she thinks it's her fault and that she's been doing something wrong...

Either way it's a super lucky break on your part, wait as long as possible to text her back to see if shes gonna text you, if not then text her like 2 hours before your planned date with like, "happy valentine's day! We still good to go for later?"

 

[CMNILS87]

Maybe you can keep her around. But there's a big difference between her assuming you're seeing other chicks and her actually hearing you banging another one and moaning. Hamster wheel is spinning. She probably picked up on you being pissed and wanted to make amends that night, but it's her fault she came over unannounced like that.

 

[AllDay85]

Maybe you can keep her around. But there's a big difference between her assuming you're seeing other chicks and her actually hearing you banging another one and moaning. Hamster wheel is spinning. She probably picked up on you being pissed and wanted to make amends that night, but it's her fault she came over unannounced like that.

What do you mean when you say hamster wheel is spinning? I saw someone say that earlier, but wasn't sure on the terminology.

 

[CMNILS87]

Remember that little voice in your head when you were super AFC to think everything over. When they hamster spinning on here, most of the master DJ refer to a Gal overthinking a situation or thinking about it 24/7. This gal just found out that you're banging another girl which just social proofed you as an in demand male. In this case, I'd think she's backing off with that big text, it seems really somber and her "emotional core" is hurt because she hasn't locked you down. I think....she was thinking after casually dating for 5-6 months that you weren't seeing anybody else, but little missy got thrown for a loop. Don't contact and let her come to you, I guarantee it'll be a lets be exclusive or a goodbye.

 

[AllDay85]

Remember that little voice in your head when you were super AFC to think everything over. When they hamster spinning on here, most of the master DJ refer to a Gal overthinking a situation or thinking about it 24/7. This gal just found out that you're banging another girl which just social proofed you as an in demand male. In this case, I'd think she's backing off with that big text, it seems really somber and her "emotional core" is hurt because she hasn't locked you down. I think....she was thinking after casually dating for 5-6 months that you weren't seeing anybody else, but little missy got thrown for a loop. Don't contact and let her come to you, I guarantee it'll be a lets be exclusive or a goodbye.

She contacted me last night at about 11pm. She wants to come see me Saturday.

 

[badboyjmm]

Well...

 

[AllDay85]

***UPDATE***

Her interest level is through the roof, she wants the D bad Saturday. Thanks for the moral support gentlemen.

 

[AttackFormation]

***UPDATE***

Her interest level is through the roof, she wants the D bad Saturday. Thanks for the moral support gentlemen.

Social proof + mate competition + alpha frame (what we helped guide you to here) = wants the D bad.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Her interest level is through the roof, she wants the D bad Saturday. Thanks for the moral support gentlemen.

The perception of sudden competition often reflexively drives a woman to engage even more. To her, it can feel as if her life depends on it.

 

[AllDay85]

Social proof + mate competition + alpha frame (what we helped guide you to here) = wants the D bad.

The culmination of don juan training. Life is crazy man, I just can't believe women really act like this.

 

[AttackFormation]

I just can't believe women really act like this.

They are animals like any other.

 

[CMNILS87]

The culmination of don juan training. Life is crazy man, I just can't believe women really act like this.

Glad I was wrong. Girl must really have her panties in a bunch thinking another girl is gonna "steal her man".

 

[Julian]

Just tell her the truth. be like look you fukkin pissed me off earlier and plate 2 was there to mend my wounds and yes I was having sex with her. you and I are not exclusive and you dont see me creeping around your place to see who's next on your c0ck carousel. So get down or lay down IDGAF but realize if you want any part of me you need to approach me respectfully do you understand me.

 

[AllDay85]

Just tell her the truth. be like look you fukkin pissed me off earlier and plate 2 was there to mend my wounds and yes I was having sex with her. you and I are not exclusive and you dont see me creeping around your place to see who's next on your c0ck carousel. So get down or lay down IDGAF but realize if you want any part of me you need to approach me respectfully do you understand me.

I have a similar response planned for when she brings it up on our date tonight. She's sexy so there's no way she's used to hearing **** like this from guys. Fatality.

 

[AttackFormation]

I have a similar response planned for when she brings it up on our date tonight. She's sexy so there's no way she's used to hearing **** like this from guys. Fatality.

Saying something like that would be a great way to both "Fatality" the alpha frame you have now and destroy your congruity by now reacting like that after you reacted like an alpha previously. If that's what you want you should definitely go ahead with your similar response.

 

[LiveYourDream]

She's already felt hurt and wounded AND she still wants to see you. She doesn't need to be pummeled into submission. She's showing up with desire. If SHE brings it up, (again, I am woman) I think you are better off simply saying something like, " I'm here with you now." and then immediately shifting gears with her and focus on having a good time. (I am not advocating to do so sexually, at that time, unless SHE jumps all over you. Even so I think you are better off making her wait a bit.)

If you happen to be sitting somewhere or standing when this exchange takes place, immediately grab her hand and lead her somewhere else. If you were inside, go outside. If you were doing something, change it up immediately. Engage a new activity with her. It will help to reinforce leaving the past in the past. It will create a physical change requiring her to become present again, to being with you, right there and then. Then focus on having some fun together.

 

[penkitten]

Main plate showed up unnannounced in middle if night, was balls deep in plate #2, she was screaming and moaning vloud and main plate heard it and started pounding on my door.

I want to keep her as a plate. Since we're not together she can't truly say anything. In your experience, do you guys think it's possible to keep it going after that?

Nope. If she has any self respect ! And if she sticks around any longer, everything will change and you will lose interest in her.

 

[zinc4]

Main plate showed up unnannounced in middle if night, was balls deep in plate #2, she was screaming and moaning vloud and main plate heard it and started pounding on my door.

I want to keep her as a plate. Since we're not together she can't truly say anything. In your experience, do you guys think it's possible to keep it going after that?

Simple man. You arent official.

Tell her we aren't an item and never had that discussion. You can't just be randomly dropping by. Soften it by saying you aren't trying to be mean, just being honest. Nothing about exclustivity was mentioned beforehand.

Don't be afraid to lose her. You haven't done anything wrong and theres always more where she came from.

She will know you are right deep down and women can't control their emotions or desires. So u are good.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

This is such a great thread. It's a McDonalds moment - "I'm lovin' it!'

 

[grayclif]

She texted me this a little bit ago

"I guess there's different perspectives on more respectful. You are more secretive so i don't see it but I'm more open about it so you do know. I saw that you were talking to other girls even when we were in miami. And how is hearing some girl moan your name imaginary? I put up walls so i don't get hurt. You told me yourself you want your cake and eat it too. How does that not imply you want to hang out with me and still mess with other girls? My perspective of you is so many great things. We were fwb but i wanted more as time passed but i pushed you away bc i was afraid of feeling hurt after i fell for you. Either way everything is cool. N it'd be nice to know when you find out about you winning your case. Good luck. "

Huh!!!