I'd like your opinion guys. Not women related tho

[mv.89]

Hello,

Been a long time since I posted here.

Since Nov 29, 2015 -I have not fapped and no edging or anything at all. Didn't watch pron either. Absolutely nothing.

The reason I stopped was cuz I'd always feel empty and pathetic after jacking off -I used to do it
once a week but on Nov 29 -I just stopped altogether.

I do a lot of reading on a lot of things. Whatever I find interesting I start reading.

I was reading online and adblocker wasn't enabled and one thing led to another and I ended up watching couple of clips of "pron"

Now- after watching those clips -maybe 3-4 mins maximum in altogether I feel dirty and unwashed.
lol I used to feel like that after jacking. (I liked the feeling of getting a hard on but lol )when it subsided I felt like unwashed.

Now I wasn't raised in a way which was like religious or anything like that or I wasn't taught that I'll go to hell or anything even remotely related. I did learn that was normal and everyone does it .

So what the fcuk changed? I still get erect and mentally aroused when I look at women posing and when they post bootilicious photos on instagram lol but right in the middle of scrolling (since I follow workout posts -all this shows up automatically) I'll stop and focus on something else.

Is this normal? anyone else experience it? this didn't happen when I was doing 90 day challenge in 2014. Only thing different now is -i'm working out properly now and I meditate on daily basis.

So what gives?
Thanks in advance

 

[badboyjmm]

Well it's a good think.

Your body and your mind knows that if you keep testing yourself, you will return back to those bad feelings.

I think the most important thing is to keep you occupied and to talk to girls.

it's much more satisfying anyways !

 

[JohnChops]

Masturbating once a week is not a bad thing. I feel like no fap was for those people who were doing it 2-3 times a day and couldn't stop watching porn. It isn't a bad thing to unload every week or so to keep that prostate healthy.

 

[Yewki]

^ Yeah I don't get it either. If you're fapping excessively, ok cut back on the porn. But stopping completely? I don't get it. I mean if you're concerned fapping will affect your desire to approach women, then do it at night when you know you're not going to hook up with a girl so the next day you're recharged. It just doesn't make sense to me.

 

[logicallefty]

Your hands will never falsely accuse you of rape. I'm not saying to never engage in sexual relations with those beings who can accuse you of rape. I'm just playing Mr. Obvious for a minute here lol

 

[Bible_Belt]

Masturbating once a week is not a bad thing. I feel like no fap was for those people who were doing it 2-3 times a day and couldn't stop watching porn. It isn't a bad thing to unload every week or so to keep that prostate healthy.

I agree. After about 4-5 days, the benefit of abstaining maxes out for me and starts to diminish.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

One thing you might want to try is fap once a week, but only to your imagination, ideally based on memories. Girls you saw, talked to, and are going to talk to again, etc. Stay away from pron. Absolutely useless.

If you want to get esoteric, (Think and Grow Rich Style) create a sigil that represents one of your life purposes (money, fame, etc) and fap only to that. Bonus points if you can focus ONLY on that (not any females) all the way through till completion. Basically NLP anchoring on steroids.

 

[Alpheta]

what a great individual you are. Being able to abstain from the sexual desire one craves and not giving in to fapping must be applauded. I have gone 28 days and then i fall. I always try tho.

At this moment im on day 3 at this moment.

Anyways to answer your question, your mind is much more focused. It doesnt give in because you have semi got rid of the toxic mental pattern pron creates. You are slowly but surely embracing and becoming your masculine self.

That only my opinion but i talk from experience. I have gone 28 days no fap and i can tell you so much changes in the mind.

If you dont mind, could you list any benefits you have gained from your current no fap session?

 

[JohnChops]

Porn gives you deluded standards, makes you less satisfied, and trains the brain to respond to something that isn't actual sex. It's actually psychology addictive.

MB drains you of energy and makes you less aggressive.

Both are tied together but you should try to cut porn bare minimum, it provides zero positive value to your life.

Drains you of energy for a few minutes, at least for me. Then I'm back to my regular self.

 

[mv.89]

Ok-so someone explained me that - seminal fluid is very potent (well we already know this but) and it has the literal power to give birth. Regardless of how and what women are and can do-they can't produce without this. He said -even though we associate test!cles with this fluid -every body organ one way or other contributes towards the generation of the fluid.

I start to argue and then I learned that when we were young -we could fap all day and now as we get older I'm 26 now -we fap once and we need recovery time and then the time keeps on increasing and increasing with age. If this was in an unlimited supply-why would we need time? it'll keep coming and coming. For example-we can p!ss as many times as we fill our bladder without getting tired cuz it just passes through after filtration.

I, then learned that -1 sperm is selected and is enough to give birth to a human being - and there are around 40-600 million in one ejaculation. THINK ON THIS FOR A MOMENT. So basically if we have 40-600 million fertile eggs and you are an healthy individual -one of our ejaculation can give birth upto 600 million humans. (in my mind -damn -so far in my life I've wasted plenty of billions of potential human beings on a tissue paper lol )- I learned to fap when I was 13 I think and I didn't have a computer back -well I did pentium 1 and dial up internet.

Then I read about Taoists and other practices -I found them fascinating - everything started to fall in place and things made much more sense. IT WAS THIS when I started to change my view altogether. So I didn't put a 90 day challenge or anything like that cuz I just won't masturbAte indefinitely. 90 day would mean I'm open to it after 90 days. I started cherishing what I have within me.

Think on it for a moment. Taoists have learned to re-circulate it within themselves but masturbation is considered the lowest of lowest form. It isn't pleasure but rather punishment on ourselves. Why is it called pleasure when we are forcefully throwing something so potent out of ourselves ?

I'm not even close to that point where I can re-circulate but I am definitely not wasting it in front of a computer screen. Taoists learn to have pleasure from women and then re-circulate it within themselves. It allows them to keep the generated energy within themselves and after having sex they feel more energized. What do we do? fall asleep or drained lol and hollywood/media says that's the good kind of sex and it means we've succeeded as men lol

Women can only receive -that's why they have unlimited capacity. -Go all night -they are receiving it from us-where as we are working to give it to them.
In a perfect harmony -it should be re-vitalizing and pleasurable for both parties not just one. I know -we get pleasure too but be honest- how long does our orgasms last? lol let's not even go there. I've had past gfs tell me sometimes they feel good even the next day. Now maybe it's a lie to make sure I keep going to them or they were stroking my ego but I've been told that.

To be honest- the reason I posted here was to learn if anyone knew about this more than I did. As in why my mind shames me when I watched couple of clips unintentionally lol but I guess we are all clueless cuz we never went in the untested waters and those who did -don't post here.

THINK ABOUT IT just once- give it a neutral thought -don't worry about what research claims what and who did what and how and what you read.

As to benefits ? well for me -the knowledge I gained in itself was the biggest benefit. If I keep doing things only if I can get a reward in return I would learn nothing. LoL one thing that changed in my outlook towards women was that now I don't think about "doing them anymore" cuz I have not learned to re-circulate it yet so- sex is the last thing on my mind lol

Funny story-
last year when I did 90 day thing - I asked my doctor -do you think there are any side effects- he's like "you tell me" lol basically he didn't know anything either.

 

[mv.89]

Sorry the post got very long.

 

[mv.89]

Also, it might be true that one might get a little bit aggressive if they don't fap cuz well you have more energy in yourself than you had before but what happens when body get used to something? It'll bring you back to your normal and it'll be your new normal.

If you workout then you'd be working harder there, if anything else then it'll be there-ergo the theory of increased focus-cuz energy is trying to find a way to release. Eventually though it'll be your new normal and you'd be a high energy individual.

Our body is great- it gets used to whatever situation we put it into.

 

[LiveYourDream]

The man I was last with had the ability to orgasm without ejaculating. Options were unlimited and made for an especially great time. He could orgasm & cvm straight away the first time or orgasm multiple times before a final orgasm/cvm, or he could orgasm multiple times and not cvm (for reasons like those OP stated above or whatever). The freedom, options, his capacity to have multiple orgasms, as well as his staying power, made for incredible experiences together.

 

[JohnChops]

Maybe bc you're so young, but there's a reasons why lots of boxers train away from all women/sex/

agree with that. Usually before any of my comps/ large exams I refrain from sex and masturbation.

 

[mv.89]

The man I was last with had the ability to orgasm without ejaculating. Options were unlimited and made for an especially great time. He could orgasm & cvm straight away the first time or orgasm multiple times before a final orgasm/cvm, or he could orgasm multiple times and not cvm (for reasons like those OP stated above or whatever). The freedom, options, his capacity to have multiple orgasms, as well as his staying power, made for incredible experiences together.

Oh that's good to know- I have heard of it before too but never came in touch with who was actually successful at this but once again no one refrained from masturbating.

 

[mv.89]

Guys keep in mind- if night discharge happens that's fine- eventually muscle will strengthen themselves. It'll stop happen but cause one night fall incident happen don't take that as "oh body throws it out on it's own , so might as well help my body and do it for it lol " - Yes it'll soil your pants and underwear and what not but it's an involuntary action instead of a voluntary in which you do it -watching pron.

If you are masturbator addict at the very least -stop watching pron.
First step would be- just pick 1 video and stick with it instead of watching millions of clips- because that's what makes us think we last this long. If you do it to one video -it might last longer and/or you might stop altogether cause you got bored- which is a sign of that something is not right-

One should ask themselves that if we are fap cause of a need or only cause we want to watch something? because if it's a NEED body will most likely do it during night discharge-we do it voluntarily cause well we don't have control over our mind and give in.

 

[mv.89]

what a great individual you are. Being able to abstain from the sexual desire one craves and not giving in to fapping must be applauded. I have gone 28 days and then i fall. I always try tho.

At this moment im on day 3 at this moment.

Anyways to answer your question, your mind is much more focused. It doesnt give in because you have semi got rid of the toxic mental pattern pron creates. You are slowly but surely embracing and becoming your masculine self.

That only my opinion but i talk from experience. I have gone 28 days no fap and i can tell you so much changes in the mind.

If you dont mind, could you list any benefits you have gained from your current no fap session?

I was not doing it for tangible results bro that's why I didn't put a date on it or did 90 day challenge or stuff like that.

I did it for the mere fact that it is of no use at all. Orgasm lasts few seconds and then it's done but the damage to our brain lasts a long time plus the other things I listed above in the long post. Go through it , maybe it'll give you some more potent answers you are looking for.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Well, I've gone 13 years without fapping before. But that was before I knew what it was. Aside from that, it's probably around 4 months