Somehow, just about everyone here was hurt by a woman. Directly(a relationship or crush who didnt feel the same, being strung along/used), or indirectl(yjust not being noticed by women)
Everyone wants to be desired by the opposite sex to some degree. It's not that its advocated to not care about women. Whats advocated is confidence above all.
Most of the men here lacked confidence, becuse when you are confident certain things, you just wont put up with.
So building confidence is key, obviously you fake it till you make it. But to develop REAL lasting confidence you need cognitive dissonance. You have to reinforce your new confidence through your actions.
You do this by setting goals, working out, dressing well, taking care of your hygeine, developing social skills.
Then when you walk up to a girl, you can be confident that if she doesnt like you the problem is most likely her not you.
Because you workout, you have a good job, you are neat, clean, smell nice, have good conversation. You are a prize, better than the average slob who approaches her usually.
So if she says no its her loss .. Thats the indifference that king of puss speaks of.
Not indifference to their existence.
Women are great, we love women and a man who finds a good one finds a good thing.
A don juan is confident and knows hes worthy of respect, and he gives respect so he will tolerate nothing less.
I'm getting old so having 8 or 9 plates(girls you are actively dating) isnt fun to me anymore.. But maybe 1 or 2 is pretty dope.
Hope I cleared some things up for you, pal.
Nice. Thank you for your appropriate answer. I feel like Kingofpuss came out unnecessarily aggressive. This may tell something about him / the forum.
Anyways, this makes you happy right? This Don Juan principle...
If we go a little bit deeper, I think we might see a few holes:
1. Our nature is to always become bigger, better, richer and so on. This means that the women you are talking about won't find you attractive if you don't posses a power / money / status that she desires. This means that through you, she can feel bigger, richer etc. You will eventually get bored with any girl, once you get adjusted to her looks / status, and the wiser you are, the faster this happens. This takes us to the second hole.
2. Once she is convinced and thinks that she has you as her puppy... she won't find you attractive anymore. There will be plenty of other richer and bigger than you. In fact, forget you being her puppy... If she's dating you and still ''getting to know you,'' and in comes another man that is ''bigger'' than you... then you know where her attraction will shift, right?
3. So, we can assume that you will always be in a constant competitive environment. Anyone around you might become your enemy any time of the day. It is a well known fact that girlfriends and wives get attracted to their husband's friends and close ones like brothers. Even if she forces her feelings to not come up this way, it may work for a while, but eventually will make it worse. Is this what you mean by indifference? To always live in a competitive environment just to be ''confident.'' I'm sorry, I meant just to get women. To show them that you are a high value man, to show them that you deserve respect, to show them that it will be her loss because you are and have been fighting so hard to this point that there won't ''probably'' (yes there is, plenty) be any other man ''higher'' than you.
Thinking about all this... If this means indifference, then I am absolutely shocked. And can't help but think that this is a very cunning way to hide your ego that was once hurt, most likely very badly - but it is still there hiding very deeply. More cunning, stronger, bigger and the worst: more crystallised than ever.
Thinking about all this... If this makes you happy... There are plenty of other easier way to become happy without any anxiety of competition.
The point for me is to not reproduce past mistake and to move forward to get what I want without shame.
Understand this ``game`` make me a more confident person, I can give advice to my friends and also, I can approach girls fairly more easy. Getting laid is easier, although I want to be able to spin plates more efficiently.
There's also a flip side to all those benefits. I sometimes become jaded. Jaded because society wants to put me in a mold and just behave. Society is trying to stop me from being a social being with all this technology. Here we are in a time where just being social is look down upon.
I hate the fact that women are not responsible for anything. She breaks your heart, it's your fault. You break hers, it's your fault. She cheats on you, it's your fault for not being a ``adequate mate`` instead of her being a freak and a slut.
So understanding this game keeps me sane
Because otherwise, I would simply be mad at every little power play a woman would try to make. Instead, I deal with it accordingly (or I don't)
''I hate the fact that women are not responsible for anything. She breaks your heart, it's your fault. You break hers, it's your fault. She cheats on you, it's your fault for not being a ``adequate mate`` instead of her being a freak and a slut.
So understanding this game keeps me sane
Because otherwise, I would simply be mad at every little power play a woman would try to make. Instead, I deal with it accordingly (or I don't)''
Did you know that half the population of human being is woman? How can you find women attractive if they think like this? I don't think this statement holds 100% truth.
