Win a Girl Back

tennisbuck12

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Guys,

I just started the no contact challenge with a girl who just broke up with me. I was needy and played this horrible. The funny thing is, shes probably one of the few women I've seen I cared about. Its always been about numbers and no commitment. Needless to say I feel, horrible. With the no contact challenge, would you also delete her from Facebook? Why?

Also, have any of you more sophisticated DJ's ever won a girl back after her saying your a friend/lack of chemistry?

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Dated: 3.5 months
I was a needy wimp
 

Building_and_Loan

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Sorry man but if she actually said those words to you, she just doesn't have any attraction to you at all.

Unfollow her on Facebook, block her or whatever you need to do to allow yourself to move on because I guarantee she was checked out of this relationship long before she ended it. She's already moved on and so should you.

Sucks, but we've all been there. At least I have. The earlier you realize you're not going to win her back the better, because chances are she's out trying to meet some other guy more masculine than you, while you're figuring out how to win her back.

Just move on, improve your life, and don't contact her at all.
 

StacksHitEmUp

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I have. It takes a LOT of time, effort and possible heartache if not done right. I can guarantee you if you care it's not going to work. What you need to do is leave her alone, never contact her, don't even think about her and keep improving yourself. The improving part is very important because it's what's supposed to attract her back. The problem is, if you use NC to get her back you're doing it for the wrong reason. As long as you hope for another try, you're going to fail. You need to not care, at all. This is not a foolproof method to get her back however. If you keep improving yourself, you'll also meet other, better options than her and then when your ex comes back, you're probably not even going to pay her any attention. In short: Don't care, don't contact, don't hope and keep improving yourself. If she doesn't come back, at least you'll get other options in life because you've improved. Last thing I want to mention, let HER try to win YOU if she comes back, you don't go back yourself. I do advise against it, because chances are it's going to go to sh!t anyway.
 

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You can't win back anything in the past, much like an athlete can't win back a race he come second in last week. The best he can do is improve, work on his faults and focus on winning the next race (girl).
 

El Payaso

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You don't win a girl back.

You get another girl.
 

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The best thing you can do is act like you are mildly relieved that she broke it off. Imagine she was a nice girl, but always had the worst bad breath. There's no reason to hide from her or delete her from facebook. You can even reply to her messages, as long as you NEVER text her first. Then go fvck other girls. She'll find out, and suddenly you will be attractive again. The only way to make her want you more is to make yourself genuinely want her less.
 

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Stop. Just stop and move on. You'll never "win" her back, and even if you did it would be a hollow victory since she broke up with you and likely doesn't hold you in any esteem anyways. There are quite literally millions of attractive available women in this world, and most of them aren't really that special once you get to know them. Move on.
 

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Would you break up with somebody with whom you had high interest level?

Rule #1 : Never try to keep someone who doesn't want to keep you.

Acceptance is your friend now. Accept that the battery is dead and....

...Let go of false hope.

Your ego has taken a hit and your ego wants her to accept you again. See through this.
 

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Yep. I appreciate all of your insight. Screw it and in the last 1 day I've set up 2 dates and have a few other plates im working on.

I liked this one cause she made alot of money and tall. Realistically her face was painted on and was a shallow, only child biatch.

One last thing, what would you guys recommend for me to read to sharpen my game. I'm naturally nice and that equals weak.
 

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Guys,

I just started the no contact challenge with a girl who just broke up with me. I was needy and played this horrible. The funny thing is, shes probably one of the few women I've seen I cared about. Its always been about numbers and no commitment. Needless to say I feel, horrible. With the no contact challenge, would you also delete her from Facebook? Why?

Also, have any of you more sophisticated DJ's ever won a girl back after her saying your a friend/lack of chemistry?

Details: Both 33
Dated: 3.5 months
I was a needy wimp
No
 

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One last thing, what would you guys recommend for me to read to sharpen my game.

Read this: Why I should stop dating ugly stupid b1tches and go abroad by LFX.
 

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Guys,

I just started the no contact challenge with a girl who just broke up with me. I was needy and played this horrible. The funny thing is, shes probably one of the few women I've seen I cared about. Its always been about numbers and no commitment. Needless to say I feel, horrible. With the no contact challenge, would you also delete her from Facebook? Why?

Also, have any of you more sophisticated DJ's ever won a girl back after her saying your a friend/lack of chemistry?

Details: Both 33
Dated: 3.5 months
I was a needy wimp
Yes, you can turn the game around! Her interest level is low because you were not a challenge. If women play the friendzone card, we play the walk away card. Spin plates, until she realises your value. If you have no plates, chase your passions! Be scarce! Cutting the supply will increase the demand (assuming you've made a lasting impression on her)

Ignore them!!! Funny how things go... I've turned things around at least 5 times in my life!!! By time they came knocking on my door, I was not so interested in them anymore! You need time to cool down, and get some objectivity! For me, making music and video games, are the perfect escape!
 

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Agree with the break up. Bang other chicks. Get over her. Ignore. Find your inner beast.

And after a year or two when you could finally care less - she will be into you again. It will be up to you to reestablish yourself as an attractive self assured man instead of the winey pvssy you went out as.

You'll never get her back until you get over her. Period.
 

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Agree with the break up. Bang other chicks. Get over her. Ignore. Find your inner beast.

And after a year or two when you could finally care less - she will be into you again. It will be up to you to reestablish yourself as an attractive self assured man instead of the winey pvssy you went out as.

You'll never get her back until you get over her. Period.
And when you're over her you won't want her back. She might not be interested in you either. This is the best way.
 

devilkingx2

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If you were realistically capable of winning her back
A) you wouldn't have lost her
B) you could get a hot replacement girl in 1/10th the effort.

Why would you even want a girl back who broke your heart and coldly dumped you? Why wouldn't she do it again if she gets bored of you again?

But if you insist then the simple solution is to be come a completely different person, or version of yourself, one that she would love, in such a ridiculously quick amount of time that you have time to show her the new you before she finds someone new. Sounds impossible? It is.

If it's any consolation her next relationship will either end with her new man breaking her heart for some karmic justice, or her breaking his, so you won't be alone
 

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Thanks. It's been a week and I feel so much better and have met some new ladies on Tinder. Don't worry ill make them work for me this time, instead of the other way around. Just drop some crumbs

Have any of you ever thought what goes through a chicks brain after the break up. I bet indecision and with no contact im sure it intestifies it.
 

RangerMIke

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If she's not getting the 'tingles' you are wasting your time.

But to answer your question... No I have NEVER been able to turn things around with a woman that fells no sexual attraction towards me.... Sorry man, it just can not happen. But HEY look at the bright side, 15 years ago you would not have been able to find a website that tells you like it is, so you would have likely wasted months if not YEARS trying to make something doomed happen. Now you can flush her from your mind and go after other women.
 
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