Armourhead
Don Juan
Hey
I loaned my ex of 3 years about 3500$ so she could pay her tuition/food/rent about a year ago. She knew she would have to pay me back and had borrowed smaller amounts of money earlier and paid those back. I know, I know, I'll never do that again.
We broke up last November, I got her to sign a formal loan agreement and had it signed and witnessed/notarized. She made the first payment in December.
She has messaged me at least a few times a week since the breakup asking to hangout and do stuff. Other than getting her to sign the loan papers we have hung out once for a few hours. Since then she has been messaging me more and more to get me to hangout with her. I've been giving her pretty much one word responses and saying I'm busy.
She sent me an ultimatum message about an hour ago. She's frustrated that I don't seem to want to hangout with her or that I give one word responses. She made it pretty clear she wants to still be friends and do **** we used to do in our relationship all the time.
I do not want to be friends with her, at least not while I still have feelings for her, maybe in a year or two after I've moved on. However she still owes me $3100 Legally she has to pay that back and I could take her to small claims court for it if she misses payments but I'd rather avoid that hassle altogether. She has very low income and is in school so I'm worried she may somehow get some sympathy in court and get out of the payments.
Should I feign friendship in order to continue collecting my payments or is having the legal paperwork signed good enough to ensure the cash keeps flowing?
I loaned my ex of 3 years about 3500$ so she could pay her tuition/food/rent about a year ago. She knew she would have to pay me back and had borrowed smaller amounts of money earlier and paid those back. I know, I know, I'll never do that again.
We broke up last November, I got her to sign a formal loan agreement and had it signed and witnessed/notarized. She made the first payment in December.
She has messaged me at least a few times a week since the breakup asking to hangout and do stuff. Other than getting her to sign the loan papers we have hung out once for a few hours. Since then she has been messaging me more and more to get me to hangout with her. I've been giving her pretty much one word responses and saying I'm busy.
She sent me an ultimatum message about an hour ago. She's frustrated that I don't seem to want to hangout with her or that I give one word responses. She made it pretty clear she wants to still be friends and do **** we used to do in our relationship all the time.
I do not want to be friends with her, at least not while I still have feelings for her, maybe in a year or two after I've moved on. However she still owes me $3100 Legally she has to pay that back and I could take her to small claims court for it if she misses payments but I'd rather avoid that hassle altogether. She has very low income and is in school so I'm worried she may somehow get some sympathy in court and get out of the payments.
Should I feign friendship in order to continue collecting my payments or is having the legal paperwork signed good enough to ensure the cash keeps flowing?
