Went From Interest To Acting As If She Hates Me?

[SouthSection]

So there's this girl on campus that I never really paid much attention to. I'd see her around campus and she would smile and say hi when she saw me. She'd always smile at me when we were in lectures together, she told my friends she thought I was cute etc, however, I was busy gaming some other girl so I never really paid her any attention. I did interact with her a couple times on social media, and was supposed to arrange a date but I completely forgot to get around to it.

Anyway, recently this girl has been acting off with me, as if she hates me or something. I'll pass her in the hallway and she won't say hi and will make a deliberate attempt to avoid eye contact so I can't shoot her a smile or something. I'll be chilling with our mutual friend and she'll come and strike a conversation with my friend/walk with my friend and I, (while completely ignoring me), and make snide comments such as, "at least you say hey to me" etc.

What's the deal with this girl? The way she's acting is raising my interest, I love a challenge.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Currently, she probably knows you are staring at her, which is off-putting in itself. The simple answer; act like she doesn't exist. If she is interested, she'll be all over you. If not, she doesn't give a sh!t. Either way, you win, because you forced her hand.

 

[SouthSection]

Currently, she probably knows you are staring at her, which is off-putting in itself. The simple answer; act like she doesn't exist. If she is interested, she'll be all over you. If not, she doesn't give a sh!t. Either way, you win, because you forced her hand.

I don't stare at her. I glanced once when I passed her in the hallway and noticed that she avoided eye contact, which was different, so I thought whatever and left it alone.

I do act as if she doesn't exist. That's exactly what I did when she came over to my friend and I. I was minding my own business, sending out texts to my friends etc and that's when she started making comments to my friend such as, "at least you say hey to me". Part of me thinks she came over because she wanted to talk to me, but expected me to initiate and that's why she left with that snide comment when she didn't get any attention. Oh well, I was tired and not really in the mood for conversation anyway.

I doubt she'll be all over me, I don't think we have a comfort level good enough or know each other well enough for her to be all over me. Our "conversations", haven't ever really passed the, "Hey, how are you doing?", stage.

 

[Tictac]

You blew her off and ignored her.

She's returning the favor.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Our "conversations", haven't ever really passed the, "Hey, how are you doing?", stage.

In that case you are suffering the typical analysis paralysis. Stop trying to analyse her mind and look at what YOU are doing.

You 'forgot' to ask her out on a date... really?? She's not acting as if she hates you, she's just reacting to a guy who isn't showing up like a man.

You said it yourself, you don't have any foundations to claim much 'interest' on her part in the first place. Grow a pair and actually ask her out before someone else does.

 

[NSX-R]

My 2nd gf used to hate a guy because he was saying bad things to her that weren't true. They weren't something else except for classmates. While she was telling me this i wasn't giving much attention and i thought to mess up with her as i was usualy doing. Looked at her and told her dead serious:

Me: So... you like him...
Her : *gets cold* no, i don't.
Me: Yes, i know that you do
Her: ok,i used to like him but now i have you.

I literally loled inside my mind but i got a hold of my emotions and i left without saying anything. What happened next is not important for the topic.

What i want to prove with this personal experience is that most of the times ,when you hate something ,in other words you want it or you are jealous of it. Have you heard of all those stories with girls hating on their exs and in a single moment they are back with them full in love?
Or in some movies where the main character hates a different character but in the end , they get together.

That's not all the time the same but considering Op has not done something wrong with a chick that obviously is full into him,this might be another similar case.
No need to worry op, that's some women trick to raise your attention.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

I think you missed your window of opportunity and now she's not interested in you.

Nothing that you did per se to make her go from high interest to its current state, it's more what you didn't do. Like you said, you were gaming some other girl so you didn't care to go after this girl, but that doesn't really matter in her eyes.

Now she's acting all cold because you didn't step up. But no one here is going to know the answer, only she does. Just step up, ask her out, and find out for yourself.

 

[Yewki]

You 'forgot' to ask her out on a date... really?? She's not acting as if she hates you, she's just reacting to a guy who isn't showing up like a man.

He had no responsibility to schedule anything or show up to sh*t. She's butt hurt because she tried to get him to make a move (eye contact, smiling, friend gossip about him being cute, etc) but failed. He didn't schedule the date she anticipated and now her ego is bruised.

The thing I am concerned about is that the OP is actually more interested in her now. For a girl to chase one guy this much and then act like a child about it... she must be immature, and with no other options. Red flag.

 

[SouthSection]

I think you missed your window of opportunity and now she's not interested in you.

Nothing that you did per se to make her go from high interest to its current state, it's more what you didn't do. Like you said, you were gaming some other girl so you didn't care to go after this girl, but that doesn't really matter in her eyes.

Now she's acting all cold because you didn't step up. But no one here is going to know the answer, only she does. Just step up, ask her out, and find out for yourself.

Possibly.

It's just weird to me because I've never had a girl act this way towards me, that's probably the reason why it interests me so much.

I mean, there's been times I haven't reciprocated feelings, but the girls just moved on and that was that. We weren't best buddies, but they didn't act as if they hated me. This girl has literally gone ice cold. I've seen her around other guys and noticed how she's a warm person. Even her ex, (he has a lecture with us both also), gets a warmer reception than me and to put it this way, his reaction isn't exactly the warmest lol.

He had no responsibility to schedule anything or show up to sh*t. She's butt hurt because she tried to get him to make a move (eye contact, smiling, friend gossip about him being cute, etc) but failed. He didn't schedule the date she anticipated and now her ego is bruised.

The thing I am concerned about is that the OP is actually more interested in her now. For a girl to chase one guy this much and then act like a child about it... she must be immature, and with no other options. Red flag.

You're right, it's a major red flag.

I don't think I'm really interested in HER, though. I think the interest gain is more about her behavior. I'm all about a challenge so when she started acting like this, I was like, "Wow, this is interesting", because I've honestly never seen or had a girl react like this before. I want to break down that ice front and see what she's really about. I'm not a person who likes people to hold ill feelings.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

He had no responsibility to schedule anything or show up to sh*t. She's butt hurt because she tried to get him to make a move (eye contact, smiling, friend gossip about him being cute, etc) but failed. He didn't schedule the date she anticipated and now her ego is bruised.

The thing I am concerned about is that the OP is actually more interested in her now. For a girl to chase one guy this much and then act like a child about it... she must be immature, and with no other options. Red flag.

You're talking out of your @ss, as usual Yewki.

The two paragraphs of your post contradict each other. The first would make sense if the resulting butt-hurt had been the OP's intention, which clearly it wasn't owing to his own subsequent and consequent butt-hurt that you yourself describe in your second paragraph.

She's backing off because she showed this guy IOIs and he didn't act upon it. Why would she leave herself open to rejection again? [I'm sure you'll continue to argue the point for the sake of it]

You're right, it's a major red flag.

It's not a red flag at all. Please tell me what you think this chick owes you at this point, when you've made no effort other than a bit of 'social media', 'hey how's it going?'....? Fck, I'd ignore you too. Being a jerkboy doesn't really cut it anymore unless you want an psychologically damaged air-head fckbuddy.

Two last points:

1) The world owes you nothing; least of all women. Unless you're a fcking god, you have to go out and meet the world head on and make an effort because it's not going to just come and knock on your front door. There are 6billion people in the world so you'd best get used to a bit of competition and a few people ignoring you, and sharpish.

2) Women are given too much credit on this site (among others), for being devious, calculating and constantly out to get one over on men. Many of them are thick as fck and have no clue what's going on either. The OP and the chick he describes are clearly young and have no life experience so personally I go easy on them both.

All women want is a guy who is gonna show up, with a spine, entertain her a bit, be interesting and not melt in to a puddle of tears and pre-come when she does something that 'offends' him.

 

[El Payaso]

Women can be very petty. It's just signs of a bruised ego. Ignore her and continue living your life. Her petty actions shouldn't even register on your radar. You have more important things to attend to.

 

[raider87]

She feels rejected.

Acting indifferent will initially raise a woman's interest in you, but there is a time-limit before she takes that indifference as a rejection (could be days, weeks or months). Once a woman feels rejected, it's bloody hard work to recover the situation.

I think this was my biggest problem with women. I was rejecting women without realising and then wondering why they turned cold and mean towards me haha truth is I guess I just lacked the confidence.

 

[RangerMIke]

I think you missed your window of opportunity and now she's not interested in you.

Nothing that you did per se to make her go from high interest to its current state, it's more what you didn't do. Like you said, you were gaming some other girl so you didn't care to go after this girl, but that doesn't really matter in her eyes.

Now she's acting all cold because you didn't step up. But no one here is going to know the answer, only she does. Just step up, ask her out, and find out for yourself.

Yep.... typical female behavior. If they like you they give you a window of opportunity to take action, if you fail, then you are done. Nothing you can do about this. Just move on.

 

[Yewki]

You're talking out of your @ss, as usual Yewki.

Let's revisit what you said,

she's just reacting to a guy who isn't showing up like a man.

Show up to what? He didn't schedule anything. And you're implying he's not a man because he didn't jump at the opportunity to be with a girl? Please. Some of us have standards.

 

[JohnChops]

You blew her off and ignored her.

She's returning the favor.

I think it's this. I had a girl similar, I set up a date and then had to flake on her. Then I never got around to asking her out again or even really talking to her. I'm assuming she probably thought I didn't like her so the same situation may be happening here. She probably had interest in you.