What will happen with my friends.

[CuddleJunkie]

I was reading "The Way of Men", and I started to think about how the majority of us are far from having such a close group of friends, and how as time passes a lot of them will marry and stop spending time (sometimes at all) with their friends. So as a learning Don Juan this worries me, because all of my close friends have 2 years old LTR and they talk seriously about their future with them. Now, I am aware that most of them will get dumped eventually and maybe they will start to appreciate their value more, but what about those that won't. Will I stop seeing them? This ****ing breaks my heart. I don't want them to waste their lives without reaching their top, while settling with mediocre girls that treat them badly, in fact, only 2 of them are alpha-ish and have decent girls, but the rest are beta as hell.
So what can I do Don Juans? I try to explain a little of how hypergamy works when they b¡tch about their b¡tches, but, while they agree, their girls are always the exception. I definitly feel like I can't do ****, even more where I consider how would I have reacted if somebody would tell me this **** about my ex back in the day.
Any tips?

 

[NSX-R]

I feel the same dude. My bros have no idea how the game works and I'm sure their gonna marry the first girl they find meanwhile I'm trying to open their eyes ,sometimes they agree and some other times blame me for it.
There is absolutely nothing you can do. The only thing , is to stay close to them when a hard situation comes ,then might be a small chance for you to open their eyes.

 

[Jetleg]

I totally agree, my friends are exactly like that, but i don't get involved, because i learned they don't want to believe in that.

One of my best friend is dating a girl for 2 monthes (he is 24), they never had sex, he pays for everything and she just tell him what to do. i talked to him about it and he went defensive (but she is... bla bla bla), just let them learn it the hard way.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

@NSX-R ,yeah, that's what I will do, to stay by their side when the time comes, but I feel so sick when I think about how ****ty they will feel when **** hits the fan.
@Jetleg ,2 months? Wow, that's some serious case. Only one of my friends got defensive and I drop the talk atm, because seriously, he has little hope, too plugged in. But what hurtss me the most is guys that I know that are amazing and have a lot of potential, and how in a theoritical level they understand how men-women relations work. Their problem is that they have found an Unicorn, and they truly believe that.
@Mauser96, the problem is that my own belief system is going in a "primal male" way. I want to develop my manliness, because I truly think that embracing your own nature is the way to happiness. Now, as I said, I was reding "The Way of Men", and I think that Donovan is right in much of what he says, you can't be a complete human male if you don't have a "gang". A group of guys that can count one with eachother, and while I know I can count with much of them, and they with me, I'm worried about what will happen in the future when they get fully plugged-in due to marriage or whatever. In a way you could call this neediness, and I understand that it's bad to think like I'm doing, but I can't help it. I can accept that women are not a necesarious part of a man's life, but I can't pass without friends. I guess that when the time comes, I will be a true Don Juan and I will meet other guys with a similar belief system, but I really love my pals and I would like them to be free men.

 

[Reykhel]

Unplugging men who don't want to be unplugged is a dirty job....they are much too ego invested in
the Matrix to want to break free from it.

You're friends with your childhood friends due to geography and now have an emotional connection. The emotional connection will probably wane over the years as you drift apart and change....

You're 22 years of age......you can make new friends throughout your life. Friends that are aligned with your goals and maybe even your way of thinking.

I'm beginning to view friendships in a different way now. This may sound callous but my new way of looking at people is "who best is able to further my interests.......and vice versa (win/win). That's synergistic energy....and if something resembling a "friendship" in the traditional sense materialises....well.....who cares.......we are just passing ships in the night.

I heard somebody say something like : people usually choose their friends and then the direction they want to go in life. Later they find out that the two are not compatable.........

.....isn't it better to choose the direction you want to go in life first, then choose people who are in align with you goals and beliefs.

 

[YawataNoKami]

Family/divorce system will open their eyes extremly fast.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

@Reykhel, yeah maybe you are right, and this is another step in unplugging and accepting reality as it is. But it's hard, and when you think you have things figured out, you find that you still have a lot of work to do. Maybe I just want a made path, but paths are made walking ( ). 2016 is going to be an interesting year. Thanks for the input really, dettachment should be focused on everything, even in ourselves, and not only on women
@YawataNoKami, I'm sure it will, but I would like to pass this knowledge to those who I care about, such as friends and my brother. But it's impossible to do so if they don't want the change in the first place.

 

[Huffman]

Worry about yourself. Just quietly develop your own belief system and worry about yourself.

Kinda sucks having no wingmen on a saturday night though!

 

[wifehunter]

Kinda sucks having no wingmen on a saturday night though!

I imagine, most dons are loners.

 

[NSX-R]

I imagine, most dons are loners.

If the only thing you do when you go out is to pu women ,then what do you expect? Well there are also those that never go out ,these are the worst.

 

[YawataNoKami]

@YawataNoKami[/USER], I'm sure it will, but I would like to pass this knowledge to those who I care about, such as friends and my brother. But it's impossible to do so if they don't want the change in the first place.

Yep, most men do not get it until is too late.Nothing you can do except to be there for them with a cold beer and a comfy couch.

 

[l__i__l]

As you awaken and indulge on the road to self improvement, it's harder to find people who resonate with your new profound mindset. You will naturally gravitate away from people who do not resonate with you, and towards others who do. If your friends are not resonating with you, it's time for replacement.

 

[Lozboss]

There is one simple solution:

You must be there when they experience disaster (breakup, divorce etc). It is only at times of crisis/grieving that 99% of men can be unplugged. This is when you must be there for your friends.

I unplugged myself but it took me experiencing a bad breakup with my BPD ex girlfriend. I found sosuave and from there I found 'the rational male'. I went through the bitterness stage hard. I wish I had possessed a redpill friend to help me at this point.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You can't live other people's lives for them. You can only give them your opinion and then they have to take control of the situation themselves...

Don't be a passenger in your own life...

 

[pyros]

yep, I can relate.

All my friends from college are around 30, and the majority of them have a LTR and three of them are getting married this year wity 'ok' looking girls.
Of course since they started dating, we've been hanging out less and less, so now the frequency is like once every two months or more, so I imagine once they get married it will be once a year or something...

Now I dont really have a 'gang' anymore which makes me sad.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

@l_i_l, yes, this "resonating" thing is amazing. I'm becoming friends with guys thatt years ago I was totally indefferent to them, but now I we talk and these is people that want more in life, that have plans, etc. And I just click with them, when before we would talk very rarely.
@Lozboss, and @BackInTheGame78. No doubt about it, they know what I think now, I'll stop to try and redpill them until the circunstances allow it.
@pyros, this is what I'm talking about, it makes me sad as fuk. But I guess that if I move to a bigger city I will find alpha-ish guys in martial arts gyms or something, I hope so.