Calling them on bs?

[cola]

Obviously the answer to misbehavior Is always withdraw attention, but do you guys call them on the bull**** first?

For instance I recently met a chick at the club, cute little thing and we were texting so our texts would go like this

Her: Hey, how's work?
Me: Good, just ready to go.
Her: It's almost over you can do it..
Me: When I get off let's do something
<12 hr radio silence>
Her: Hey you

So after 3 rounds of this, I got really annoyed. So I fires off a text

Her: Hey
Me: Everytime I invite you out you go silent on me, just delete my number I don't have time for this
<48 hrs of radio silence, currently pending>

So I deleted her number.
I could easily just have not responded to her hey, but I felt the need to tell her the behaviour was lame and unappreciated..i hate time wasters, I guess it annoyed me she thought she could make me a orbiter because I don't feel like I give a f#ckboy vibe .. why can't they just be honest? I'm a big boy and I have options if you are riding another **** just say it I won't care

So in situations like that do you just go radio silent or do you, like me, feel the need to let them know that what they are doing is lame?

 

[Reykhel]

Instead of saying "when I get off let's do something"

Maybe you could be more specific with your invite.......

Your invite sounds very vague and indecisive.........

Let's get some tacos in that Mexican place on high street at 9pm. I'll pick you up at 8.30pm
Let's grab a c0cktail in the Black Parrot at 9pm. Wear something sexy.
We'll eat at my place at 9pm. Bring a bottle of wine, I'll take care of dessert.

Women are dopes, you as the man need to lead. Lead. Be decisive.

 

[RangerMIke]

Obviously the answer to misbehavior Is always withdraw attention, but do you guys call them on the bull**** first?

No... I never call out a women on typical female behavior. Why would you do this? Do you really think she doesn't know what she is doing and how you feel about it?

She doesn't give a cr@p how you feel. She ONLY cares about how you make HER feel. If she is flaky and non-responsive then she doesn't like you. By getting all butt hurt and calling her out on it, you are only reinforcing the opinion she already has of you. Its best just to not waste even one minute worrying about this and just walk away. At least she will respect you and you might get her to second guess her decision to blow you off.

 

[Jetleg]

You said you've met her in the club, have you had sex? kiss? any sexual vibe?
Your conversation sounds kinda boring, and you were vague about your plans - "lets do something" , we'll she did something she had ignored you...

I honestly used to confront chicks about it (even in a flirty way), it never works. she knows exactly that she is a b1tch, you don't need to remind her. if she does it in the first time just step out and wait for her to initiate.

 

[Trump]

Obviously the answer to misbehavior Is always withdraw attention, but do you guys call them on the bull**** first?

For instance I recently met a chick at the club, cute little thing and we were texting so our texts would go like this

Her: Hey, how's work?
Me: Good, just ready to go.
Her: It's almost over you can do it..
Me: When I get off let's do something
<12 hr radio silence>
Her: Hey you

Bro for me there would no response after "you can do it...'
Also 'let's do something' is fairly quick and soft. Personally I'd have a plan and a time to do something with her, within a few days or so. Also you reacted to her text, now she knows you have nothing to do except react to her.

So after 3 rounds of this, I got really annoyed. So I fires off a text

Her: Hey
Me: Everytime I invite you out you go silent on me, just delete my number I don't have time for this
<48 hrs of radio silence, currently pending>

Come on bro. What is a text like that about? Translation: I can't handle the emotional roller coaster you are putting me on. So in order for me to not handle it, I don't want to deal with you because you are outsmarting me. Just delete my number, I can't handle these mind games.'

I could easily just have not responded to her hey, but I felt the need to tell her the behaviour was lame and unappreciated..i hate time wasters, I guess it annoyed me she thought she could make me a orbiter because I don't feel like I give a f#ckboy vibe .. why can't they just be honest? I'm a big boy and I have options if you are riding another **** just say it I won't care

So in situations like that do you just go radio silent or do you, like me, feel the need to let them know that what they are doing is lame?

Why can't they just be honest? Are you kidding me? Because their goal is to make a fool out of the guy so they'd can get more gifts and goodies from their current boyfriend.

Bro telling them their behaviour is lame and unappreciated means you got outsmarted. When a girl says 'it's almost over you can do it'. she is talking down to you, after that you disappear. Instead of telling them off, you got to be so good that they come and say 'you are too good for me, I have to have sex with you.'

Sometimes I don't know how some of you guys survive out there in the real world. A slut from a bar makes you nervous? What are you going to do when sharp people in the business world really want to take you down?

 

[NSX-R]

I find the responses here a bit weird.
Meanwhile I'm going to agree, the way he asked the chick out was a bit too soft but the chick was trolling him.
His text made things clear and the chick won't be trolling him again. What i don't like is this over analysis from everyone. Staying silent went nowhere because as you can see the chick initiated again . You will say that's something good because she might have some interest but she's low quality and a troll.
The girl was dumb and not smarter. I would prefer an excuse like my dead grandma is sick, than this . When you spin more plates , consistency to a single chick is pointless and it's not like op didn't tried.
In my eyes the op was the one that rejected the chick and not the opposite.

 

[Lozboss]

I only call people out if I get stood up.

Otherwise I maintain my frame and go ghost.

Replying with that reply makes you look butthurt. If that's a **** test then you failed it. If she's a time waster you just ignore her.

Next time if they are playing games go soft NC and ignore a few of their messages

 

[Reykhel]

I find the responses here a bit weird.
Meanwhile I'm going to agree, the way he asked the chick out was a bit too soft but the chick was trolling him.
His text made things clear and the chick won't be trolling him again. What i don't like is this over analysis from everyone. Staying silent went nowhere because as you can see the chick initiated again . You will say that's something good because she might have some interest but she's low quality and a troll.
The girl was dumb and not smarter. I would prefer an excuse like my dead grandma is sick, than this . When you spin more plates , consistency to a single chick is pointless and it's not like op didn't tried.
In my eyes the op was the one that rejected the chick and not the opposite.

You see, the OP gave up his ABUNDANCE FRAME by his petulant reaction.....
why would he even care if he was in abundance...

In a way the chick is irrelevant in this scenario......if we simply castigate the chick in this instance, where's
the opportunity for growth for our DJ? There would be none.....just an empty group virtual high fiving and the only thing that advances is ego...

Women are a reflection of you.

 

[NSX-R]

You see, the OP gave up his ABUNDANCE FRAME by his petulant reaction.....
why would he even care if he was in abundance...

In a way the chick is irrelevant in this scenario......if we simply castigate the chick in this instance, where's
the opportunity for growth for our DJ? There would be none.....just an empty group virtual high fiving and the only thing that advances is ego...

Women are a reflection of you.

The chick was obviously trolling the Op or who knows what else since we don't know what they were discussing. Silence is gold but not always. Staying silent sometimes is a proof for lack of options and sometimes an afc trait cause an afc is always afraid to express his thoughts.

Also considering the Op tried around 4 times to take the girl out and the chick always stayed silent and initiated after a couple of days like nothing happened ,means she's unstable ,crazy and dumb. Having this in mind ,if the Op went NC, it would had been dangerous for him because who knows what would the chick do. Going through the safe way and telling her to stop the contact with him, It's absolutely a fine move and causes zero problems.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Don't text at work. You are too busy to be texting this broad.

Call her when you are off and set up a date. "Hey, work was _______. I usually go to happy hour at <location> at <time>. What does your schedule look like this week?" If you get anything other than a specific date, you retract the offer. "Maybe another time." Your time is valuable.

You are bull****ting too much on the phone. She won't take you seriously, because you aren't taking you seriously.

 

[marmel75]

Obviously the answer to misbehavior Is always withdraw attention, but do you guys call them on the bull**** first?

For instance I recently met a chick at the club, cute little thing and we were texting so our texts would go like this

Her: Hey, how's work?
Me: Good, just ready to go.
Her: It's almost over you can do it..
Me: When I get off let's do something
<12 hr radio silence>
Her: Hey you

So after 3 rounds of this, I got really annoyed. So I fires off a text

Her: Hey
Me: Everytime I invite you out you go silent on me, just delete my number I don't have time for this
<48 hrs of radio silence, currently pending>

So I deleted her number.
I could easily just have not responded to her hey, but I felt the need to tell her the behaviour was lame and unappreciated..i hate time wasters, I guess it annoyed me she thought she could make me a orbiter because I don't feel like I give a f#ckboy vibe .. why can't they just be honest? I'm a big boy and I have options if you are riding another **** just say it I won't care

So in situations like that do you just go radio silent or do you, like me, feel the need to let them know that what they are doing is lame?

It makes you feel better, but it really does little to help you in the longrun. If anything, it trains you to act emotionally to things women do and they can and will use to this to their advantage whenever they can.

 

[nismo-4]

Call a woman out in a relationship. In the initial phases, just ditch her ass. She knows she's being a b**ch and trying to make you an orbiter. Not having a solid plan didn't help either.

Calling out a woman in the initial phases is admitting defeat. A woman only cares about her emotions at the current time, day, and phase she's in. Examples:

1. Does she have a bf and/or lover and needs an orbiter?

2. Does she need validation or an ego boost before going back to her lover?

3. Does she want to get important contacts or a career boost from you?

4. Does she just want sex?

5. Does she just want a gay best friend or beta provider?

To name a few. The initial phases are tough. If she's difficult then, just stop wasting your time and get another girl. Law of least effort. I won't bother with the celebrity maxim, because none of us here are celebrities. Alas, an interested woman will make it known and play very few games.

Case closed.

 

[Bingo-Player]

ive just had exactly the same thing happen to me over the weekend

me and HB are chatting on whatsapp at around a rate of a message every 2 mins conversations flowing nicely were vibing

i send my last message at around 10:37pm its not the end of the conversation but bang she goes ghost

as much as i want to contact her again yesterday i stand my ground and "get over it"

exactly 24 hours later at 10:37pm last night she hits me up with "hey you xxx"

this tells me she wants to play , but i dont have time to play i want a relationship with a woman not a child

why women feel the need to do this is beyond me isnt it just wasting everyones time