This one crossed my mind a few times. Problem is, most girls around here have boring lives... They don't have hobbies. So anything interesting, is on my end... Need to find some quality females, or inspire some.
I bolded the part of your post you need to focus on. If
all the girls you meet have 'boring lives' then that's
on you--indicative that you lack either the empathy, imagination, or value to move girls beyond only the most superficial aspects of their lives. Do you want her to be able to juggle or to write dissertations on Kant in the evening? You know, to be able to impress people with their abilities or achievements--
kinda like a guy. Even if a girl does do cool things, why the phuck should she be trying to impress
you?
It's the sexual market place. All women have to do is show up. Following the law of least effort, when by doing her make up well and wearing flattering clothes she can passively attract any number of guys without having to do or say much of anything, why should she make any special effort beyond that for you?
But if you can get a girl talking about herself, keep her talking, direct the conversation deeper than the superficial 'show up and do nothing' type of routine, then you'll be surprised by the things that really inspire them or excite them on a level they don't typically share with other people (Because why would they? Their strategy is highly effective and you can't really fault them for not doing more than skimming through the lowest common standard requirements). You do this by really imagining and empathizing what life is like for them. Every single person you meet can potentially add value to your life--but it's up to you to find it and you do that by figuring out what makes them tick.
Beyond that, if you have high enough value (i.e. you don't sit there and nod and take her at face value or are overly impressed by her personal revelations--be nonreactive), she'll double down and, even if she currently lacks much personal value, she
will make the effort to compensate for you. That's how you get girls cooking for you, cleaning for you, buying you things, acting feminine, taking an interest in your interests, molding herself into a better complement for you. Most girls are capable (and even subconsciously eager) of cultivating these qualities; they've just never had a man who inspired her or required her to submit to his reality.
