So whats protocol on a stubborn date....?

[_sideways_]

So after two dates....and nothing but 1st and 2nd base happens. But she's fun enough and maybe just wise to the game. Been texting me fun things. Our chats are us joking with each other. Just yesterday she switched up the chat to her venting about how she needs to help her brother.

Ok...this is too deep for me if I'm not getting it.so I'm thinking to disappear for a while.

What would you guys do?

I mean....I can't really spend another Friday night with cold fish when I can be out and maybe meet my next three gfs.

 

[marmel75]

So after two dates....and nothing but 1st and 2nd base happens. But she's fun enough and maybe just wise to the game. Been texting me fun things. Our chats are us joking with each other. Just yesterday she switched up the chat to her venting about how she needs to help her brother.

Ok...this is too deep for me if I'm not getting it.so I'm thinking to disappear for a while.

What would you guys do?

I mean....I can't really spend another Friday night with cold fish when I can be out and maybe meet my next three gfs.

Maybe you just have no game? Lmao...

Seriously tho, stop having text conversations with women. They are not helping you out. Text them to set up dates and have conversations in person and escalate.

 

[_sideways_]

Maybe....maybe I let slip out something she hates.

She always called after our two meetings saying it was fun...blah blah...

And she wants to go for drinks Friday again. And there's always kino that she initiates....I get the amine eyes....etc....

So it's like who can see who can string along the other more. That's what I feel anyways so ...and I alreday made plans this weekend that would keep me busy away...

Just hate to feel like I wasted these two dates...when she initiates kino and is the one hounding me and meeting me up where I am.

 

[G_Govan]

If she's fun and being physical, give her 3 strikes. If nothing happens on the third date, next.

 

[NSX-R]

She seems to me like she's the alpha between you two.

 

[_sideways_]

I already had 2 strikes on me too and whatever. ..it's really kinda b.s. because I should have led the way into more sexually like I wanted....when that little energy between you two dips...that's her turn off somehow lol...bit it's whatever you want it to be also.
So...I'm not going ghost or giving out strikes but I'm gonna be on the treadmill or pool, weights, buying healthy groceries, etc etc.

 

[_sideways_]

She seems to me like she's the alpha between you two.

Dude...hell yea...it's super cute and amazing to see a tiny puppy be alpha...she's 4"11": 45kg..rare breed who's fit and who cares ://

 

[HeadLightsOn]

Id do one more 'date' BUT I would take charge, escalate and get a response from her.

If it were me I would simply say something like:


"So we havent been physical yet. And I want to . With you. Tonight. Im coming straight out and saying this because its how I feel." (I sometimes throw that word in).

Then see how she reacts/replys. Otherwise youll waste that 3rd date. Shell answer you with body language or verbally. Pay close attention to her body language/any kino you still get or dont get, from her.

Youll at least get an answer. If its no from her, dont be a douche. Thank her for being honest, close down the date nicely and - well, carry on!

 

[marmel75]

I already had 2 strikes on me too and whatever. ..it's really kinda b.s. because I should have led the way into more sexually like I wanted....when that little energy between you two dips...that's her turn off somehow lol...bit it's whatever you want it to be also.
So...I'm not going ghost or giving out strikes but I'm gonna be on the treadmill or pool, weights, buying healthy groceries, etc etc.

She is thinking the same thing. It's BS she went out and wasted time with a guy who doesn't know how to sexually escalate. Do you even realize how disappointed she is in you as a man?

A woman will only give you so many opportunities to escalate with her. You'll never know how many that is, it's different with every woman. Sometimes it's only once, Sometimes two or three chances, sometimes if they really like you four or five.

But make no mistake, if you fail to escalate after that point, it's over for you in her eyes.

 

[marmel75]

Id do one more 'date' BUT I would take charge, escalate and get a response from her.

If it were me I would simply say something like:


"So we havent been physical yet. And I want to . With you. Tonight. Im coming straight out and saying this because its how I feel." (I sometimes throw that word in).

Then see how she reacts/replys. Otherwise youll waste that 3rd date. Shell answer you with body language or verbally. Pay close attention to her body language/any kino you still get or dont get, from her.

Youll at least get an answer. If its no from her, dont be a douche. Thank her for being honest, close down the date nicely and - well, carry on!

I would never tell a woman how I feel I'd show her. The exception is in person to look at her and tell her "I really want to fvck you tonight. Would you like that, NAME?" And then shut up and wait for her to respond...

 

[RangerMIke]

The protocol is simple. If you purpose is to get laid and you are NOT getting laid, then end it. If the purpose of the date is to have fun and it isn't fun, then end it. If a women you are dating becomes more work that fun then you have to ask yourself, why are you doing this?

Look.... it is possible to have fun without sex, I know a woman, who is an absolute BLAST to hang out with, she's really just a friend, I go out with her maybe once or twice a month and it's FUN... No sex.... a successful time out doesn't have to include sex. It depends on what you want, if you are not getting what you want you are wasting your time.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

I would never tell a woman how I feel I'd show her. The exception is in person to look at her and tell her "I really want to fvck you tonight. Would you like that, NAME?" And then shut up and wait for her to respond...

Thats what I meant, yep.

 

[stevo]

So you've kissed this girl, you've fondled her already and you've only been on two dates but you want to stop seeing her for a bit because you havent fcuked her yet? Wow.

A different thread has a guy who's been out on 7 dates and probably hasnt kissed the girl yet.

I'm saying this to say, you're not giving yourself enough credit. On your second date, did you move her to a place comfortable for seks? the place you fondled her, was it a good place you could have escalated further?

Why havent you invited her over instead of meeting her outside?

You are not doing terrible wrong, remember some girls wont just fcuk just for the sake. Keep escalating, keep pushing, keep choosing conducive locations, keep moving her hand to your rod.
If she's doing this much, she'll fcuk you soon.