Starting to think it is because of my looks. (With pictures)

[summersky]

Hello everyone,

i am a 28 year old man from europe and a big fan of this community.
As i said in another thread the women always loose interest after the first date because I came on to needy and desperate. I was working on it and tried to change my mindset.

I went on more three first dates with girls I met online (age between 18 and 22). All three girls weren´t interested afterwards. I thought with the last girl i was doing really well. She showed high interest before the first date, was always writing and wanted to talk on the phone. The date went good. I was confident, dominant, made her laugh a lot, did kino like touching and holding her hands. She didnt talk much, but was polite and seemed shy. At the end i went for the kiss and she moved away. Few days later I called and got the "not ready for relationship BS" bonded with "dont want to get hurt BS".

So I really wondering what I did wrong and starting to guess its just my looks. Because they only saw pictures of me before, what is different from real life. I mean on the pictures you cant see my blemished skin with a bit scars (had acne in the past). Or you cant see my slightly yellow teeth (I am a smoker and am also smoking on dates). I mean on pictures you can put you in a better light...

So that is what I look like:
http://www.fotos-hoc...1sraqbdl789.jpg
http://www.fotos-hoc...2wfctavil8q.jpg

Do you think there is something that scares women away. I personally think it could be the eye bags (2nd pic), they are due to genetics and i can do nothing about it. But i think my skin or my teeth could also be a big problem.

Happy to hear from you and waiting for your honest opinions and advices!

summersky

 

[Glumix]

i can do nothing about it

So focus on what you can do instead.

Work on your neediness and desperation.
And date women your age. 18-22 yo chicks are looking to get banged by high alpha males. That's not you for now.

 

[grayclif]

Focus on your career, go to the gym and stop smoking. Basically work on your inner game. Females can pick up on this.

 

[dustmuffin]

Work on inner game. Try a teeth whitener. Stop smoking if you can. From pics you look OK but it is hard to tell. Just keep at it.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

You look like weak boy not like 28 old man.Get proper hairdo, start heavy lifting, t-shirts are for boys - try using shirts for more elegant look.You look like 10000000 other random dudes.You need more style and more muscles.

 

[summersky]

Thanks for the responses. So i got the message: No smoking, better teeth and better style. About the lifting, I am doing it already. U cant recognize in this pic but i do got a slight muscular body already.
Btw please dont forget to also look at the second picture.

Thanks!

 

[Bible_Belt]

Women have tastes just like men. You look more like the trendy hipster type than an athletic muscle guy. A lot of women find muscled-up guys intimidating.

On the bright side, I don't know how fat the women are there, but you have a look that will keep the fatties away. I think you stand a good chance of finding a young and petite girl. Many of them want a non-threatening man.

 

[Young OG]

I don't think your that bad looking of a guy. Start wearing collared shirts, like button ups and polos. Get some nice pants and shoes. For shoes, stay away from basketball shoes. Quit smoking and whiten your teeth. I made a thread in the health section about it a couple months ago. Groom yourself well. Start using a face wash in the shower. Buy some scar remover. It might not get rid of them, but it will lighten them up and make them not as noticeable.

Keep working on your inner game. Try dating women 26 or older.

 

[Stagger Lee]

Women especially online are totally unreasonable about a guy's looks. If you don't look as good or better than your pics, never mind even with make up they rarely look as good as their pics, then they will usually be cold fish on a meet up. I think you're going to spending a lot of time playing a numbers game in online dating and having to lower your standards and maybe go after older women. I would suggest approaching women in real life.

 

[ERB]

Try drinking a lot of water for your eye bags. If I slack on drinking water I notice slight bags on me. Gallon a day.

 

[aforabi]

I say, keep dating more ... you will find the ONE ... so do not give up after dating just 3 women ... maybe the ONE could be your the next, who knows!

Keep improving your game, workout your neediness/desperation, and keep escalating things sexually on 2nd dates, and see if she is comfortable sexually or not. If she is not, then next her ... If she is, get sexual with her (keep penetrating her) ... but do not think about getting into relationship just now ... avoid it for three years because during these three years, you will improve your "mindset" as well as "inner game" ... then it won't be problem pulling any chick for relns, one nite stands, or even LTR ...

most importantly, keep having fun with her (go on ACTION dates - bowling, pool, rock climbing, walking in the park, cycling, etc) ... and do not take anything personally now...

so, go out there and keep on getting more digits, continue to fail, improve your game for the next gal, and then, you will be on your way to the ONE .. cheers

 

[RangerMIke]

One thing if a women says she isn't ready for a relationship after the first date then you were likely coming on too strong. Try holding your cards closer. No kino.... be pleasant and smile do all the things you normally do, you need to make sure she knows you want to fvck her and do this with strong eye contact.... just no touching unless SHE touches first. Act like you aren't sure about her. Ask her questions get her to talk... don't do too much talking.

If you find yourself with a girl that won't talk it means she has low interest... make and excuse and end the date.

Your looks are fine, but I agree you look dehydrated. You need to drink water... as others said it will help with the bags under your eyes. Quit smoking and get your teeth whitened... this is definately a turn off for women.

Smoking just fvcks you up. Makes you skin look bad, messes up you sleep cycles, and besides it's a nasty habit that will eventually kill you.

Women like men that have self control. If you are addicted to cigarettes you don't have self control.

 

[sodbuster]

you looked good enough to GET the date....it's not the biggest problem. So, where do we go then? I'd Guess neediness, a lack of a sexual personality {don't talk about it, let her sense it}, lack of a decent job, or a lack of conversation skill {women LOVE to F&cking talk}{ just get them started talking about themselves and look for reasons NOT to want to date them}

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

So i got the message: No smoking, better teeth and better style.

REAL self confidence and communication skills trump everything. Join toastmasters, give at least one speech a week. Start day game approaches NOT to get numbers, just to practice. Build up confidence, etc. Get in, chit chat a bit, get out. See EVERY GIRL as practice for the next one. Not the potential girl of your dreams. Choose a few solid career, personal (non girl non physical) goals one, two, five years out. Spend at least an hour a week pursuing those. Girls are hard wired to dig a man with a plan.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

OP, youve got some guts posting this along with your pics. Congrats on having the nuts to do that.

The advice youre getting from other posters is solid. Especially from Espi "
What you don't have...get.

What you can't/won't get...accept."

Have you ever watched a TV show "The Undateables?" Thatll show you how hard dating life can be for some people. Ok, believe me, you are totally presentable and have little to worry about.Self improvement, strong mindset, great attitude, accept rejection if it happens and build on it. Good luck.