She asked for a space

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Hi... just this afternoon my gf told me that she need a space. we've been together for 6 months and actually for the first 3 months everything goes well. Recently she have to go to other country because she found a new job there. But still we have very good communication. We often had video calls so we can see each other face. For me I don't feel like I did something bad or like being too possessive or protective, all I asked is more like texting a view times in a day. But now she doesn't like it. not anymore. What should I do? It's kinda shocking to me to be honest and i don't want to break up with her Since I love her so much. Thank you.
 

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So give her space. And don't interfere with it until she crosses all of it to get back to you.

If she never reaches out, you know everything you need to know. If she does reach out, maybe you'll let her have a chance with you. But I hope that you don't.
 

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Sorry to break it to you, but she wants other options.

She clearly isn't in to you as she was before.

She met someone else, which means you'll be replaced.
 

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We'll that exactly what I thought. She found another person. or maybe... just maybe she's really need a space. In two weeks I'll be seeing her and hopefully everything would be better. To be honest I don't want to loose her.
 

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We'll that exactly what I thought. She found another person. or maybe... just maybe she's really need a space. In two weeks I'll be seeing her and hopefully everything would be better. To be honest I don't want to loose her.
There is another guy she's attracted to/interested in. That's the only reason she'd ask for space. She won't tell you this though because she wants to keep you around as emotional support/ it doesn't work out with him.
 

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We'll that exactly what I thought. She found another person. or maybe... just maybe she's really need a space. In two weeks I'll be seeing her and hopefully everything would be better. To be honest I don't want to loose her.
I highly doubt she really needs space lol. She's either found someone else or has her sights on someone else. She may want to just keep you as a back up. Don't be suprised if she doesn't want to see you. You don't want to loose her cause you are thinking in scarcity and are experiencing oneitis. Your the prize, she shouldnt want to lose you. There are millions of other women in this world. Forget this woman and get some new women. Read the DJ Bible.
 

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I highly doubt she really needs space lol. She's either found someone else or has her sights on someone else. She may want to just keep you as a back up. Don't be suprised if she doesn't want to see you. You don't want to loose her cause you are thinking in scarcity and are experiencing oneitis. Your the prize, she shouldnt want to lose you. There are millions of other women in this world. Forget this woman and get some new women. Read the DJ Bible.
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To be honest I don't want to loose her.
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Give her her space. Go the gym or fitness park and hit up a few hotties from your past and ask them out. Read the DJ Bible.

When she returns home wait for her to contact you. Do not initiate contact. You will know for sure soon enough.
 

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mate, I had the same situation as you, but with a 5 years old relationship.
1. She wants some new ****
2. She has some new ****
It was 2 in my case, and I never even thought about it being a possibility. You say you are going to see her in 2 weeks, I was seeing her and I had a new meeting in 20 days when I found about the other guy.
Eject.
 

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Damn.. i was expecting a good news from you guys. Well.. what can i say? maybe i just not ready yet to wake up from my 6 months dream. Thank you guys for all the comments.
 

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There is another guy she's attracted to/interested in. That's the only reason she'd ask for space. She won't tell you this though because she wants to keep you around as emotional support/ it doesn't work out with him.
Many of them will make a habit of keeping you for emotional support trying to branch grab for guys who are more selfish and vain and won't give it. Thus it fails eventually and she's back, only to try it again with a guy of the same "type"...

Manage your support of various kinds, and it will manage her emotional responses.
 

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Damn.. i was expecting a good news from you guys. Well.. what can i say? maybe i just not ready yet to wake up from my 6 months dream. Thank you guys for all the comments.
Whenever something a woman says or does doesn't make sense, it's going to be bad news.
 

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Don't give her space. She has all the space she can get as its long distance. Just dump her because she will dump you soon.
 

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The only way to keep her is to break up with her. That is the only way she will 're-evaluate" who you are. Otherwise, she's perfectly willing to risk losing you, and in fact, is planning on it
I'm afraid but sodbuster nailed it. Preempt thecbreakup or otherwise suffer the consequences.
 

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You have already lost her. Time to move on. The harder you chase the more she will distance her self. It is over. Sorry.
 

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tell her she is right, you feel that maybe you both need some space. Then play away!

This one is done, even if she comes back later. Spin those plates with no regrets...better to find out now as later. She did you a favor, now do yourself a few.
 

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For me I don't feel like I did something bad or like being too possessive or protective, all I asked is more like texting a view times in a day. But now she doesn't like it. not anymore. What should I do? It's kinda shocking to me to be honest and i don't want to break up with her Since I love her so much. Thank you.
Parts in bold are why she lost interest in you. You drove her away with your neediness.

Texting and communication is the girl's job, not yours. And always be willing to walk away. As soon as you "need" her, game over. You lost your frame. You should not need any girl to be happy, regardless of how nice or pretty she is.
 

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Just leave it alone. If you try to break up with her, you'll still look bad. Just face it, it's over. She's probably bouncing on some other guys c*ck as we speak.

Trust me, there's nothing else you can do here except cease contact with her.
 
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