Flirty vs Needy

[Nu Vision]

No offence but your response was super corny. I would have responded with something like "yeah go ahead" if I had responded at all. Or I would have made fun of her by saying something like "Are you considering a career as a duck face model"? The last thing you want to do is try to give a serious answer to a stupid attention-wh0ring question or to compliment her by saying she does not need it.

I like this bokanovsky.

I have to keep reminding myself to keep it light and funny. Treat her like she was a litle girl, your little sister who you are making fun of. With this I've had a lot of success with. I need to use replies like this more.

 

[Nu Vision]

You respond to things like that indirectly. The last thing you want to do is just tell her she looks perfect the way she is. If you are just getting to know her she doesn't need to be hearing too many compliments before she starts appreciating you first. So if she asks about injecting her lips just tell her you prefer a natural look, and that women are just perfect naturally. Maybe throw in there a "your lips look just fine" but that's as far as I would take the compliment. Telling her you want to kiss her lips just looks a little desperate to me.

Yup. You are right sgtsplacker.

I did feel like it came accross as needy. I thought I was a good idea to push the envelope there but that was not the right move. Lesson learned.

 

[FCB]

Honestly, I've fail more than succeeded when I let a girl know by flirting or action that I want her sexually. But I do it because that's what is suggested in a lot of material I've read. Make your intentions know. Show her you are a sexual being, etc.

Preferably, letting her know you want her sexually happens in her presence by doing kino scalation but since this girl flaked on going on dates I tried to amp up sexual tension by flirting via text.

I know that texting should be reserved for setting dates only. But if you manage to get a nice text convo going with a girl were you sense there's some rapport and comfort being built should one abandon and end the convo or keep it going.

I'm reminded of another girl I went out with a few times. With her, texting seemed to work fine. We built a connection and she agreed to the date (s). In this case texting didn't negatively affect the outcome.

The results of one interaction mean nothing, sure in some cases it will work but overall trying to go from cold to hot via text always comes off as pervy/needy/desperate. You can do it, but it needs to be indirect and you can't force it, much better overall to just try and ask for a date and limit the attention you give her, showing her you're not hovering over your phone waiting for her to throw you a bone and go on a date. A girl that is flaky/dodging you is on the defensive, sexual texts will only work with girls who aren't and it has to be done in a way where its not direct and you lead them into it. Have to keep them on their toes a compliment here or getting sexual is lame and looks like a hail mary, which it is.

 

[Nu Vision]

The results of one interaction mean nothing, sure in some cases it will work but overall trying to go from cold to hot via text always comes off as perverso/needy/desperate. You can do it, but it needs to be indirect and you can't force it, much better overall to just try and ask for a date and limit the attention you give her, showing her you're not hovering over your phone waiting for her to throw you a bone and go on a date. A girl that is flaky/dodging you is on the defensive, sexual texts will only work with girls who aren't and it has to be done in a way where its not direct and you lead them into it. Have to keep them on their toes a compliment here or getting sexual is lame and looks like a hail mary, which it is.

I'll just be cool and outcome independent. Aim to spend time with them and the more time we spend together, the more comfort and sexual tension that will be built. This is if they have enough interest level.

Some guy I know is good with women and what he does is be friendly and treat them good without going into friend zone stuff like texting back and forth and hearing about their problems. Eventually, he says it just happens. They end up kissing and having sex without much planning or direction. It just flows.

 

[FCB]

I'll just be cool and outcome independent. Aim to spend time with them and the more time we spend together, the more comfort and sexual tension that will be built. This is if they have enough interest level.

Some guy I know is good with women and what he does is be friendly and treat them good without going into friend zone stuff like texting back and forth and hearing about their problems. Eventually, he says it just happens. They end up kissing and having sex without much planning or direction. It just flows.

Its much easier to do in person, you can gauge their body language and you can also communicate a lot without coming out and verbalizing things. I've made the mistake lots of times of not escalating, you have to look at the date as a blank canvas and its your job to decide how the painting will look. Get them comfortable with you then find covert ways to sexualize the conversation, even talking about food and making it sensual can get her juices flowing. Don't rush into it, but keep your goal in mind and if she's being receptive keep escalating, this is the way to go from cold to hot and leave her with feelings of attraction and excitement which is what girls want, I've turned lots of girls off because I was either cold or cold then too direct, you just have to engage in the game and respect the process and the girls will be yours.

 

[Nu Vision]

Its much easier to do in person, you can gauge their body language and you can also communicate a lot without coming out and verbalizing things. I've made the mistake lots of times of not escalating, you have to look at the date as a blank canvas and its your job to decide how the painting will look. Get them comfortable with you then find covert ways to sexualize the conversation, even talking about food and making it sensual can get her juices flowing. Don't rush into it, but keep your goal in mind and if she's being receptive keep escalating, this is the way to go from cold to hot and leave her with feelings of attraction and excitement which is what girls want, I've turned lots of girls off because I was either cold or cold then too direct, you just have to engage in the game and respect the process and the girls will be yours.

This approach makes sense. I'll focus on being aloof and suave in my interactions with girls. I'll just lay back, have fun, wait for the signals and escalate. If they don't come I'll escalate regardless to see what's what but what I won't do again is rush or appear needy or desperate.