What do you think about girls taking the lead?

[Groverz]

Good, bad? Let them? fight them?

Some girls are really passive others can be a bit more strong willed. I tend to ask them a bit too much what they want to do, which starts to show some AFC behavior

 

[dustmuffin]

You as the man lead. End of story

 

[Yewki]

I tend to ask them a bit too much what they want to do, which starts to show some AFC behavior

You're aware of the problem, work on it

 

[Genos]

Yes, in general you should be leading. But let her propose a date every now and then, it doesn't have to be your way or the highway 100% of the time. This allows her to invest in you, and builds intimacy. The act of her thinking of something to do that she believes might please you is something you should actively appreciate occasionally. But again, you call the shots more often than not. Don't fall back into AFC habits mate!

 

[NSX-R]

Bad. Never allow a woman lead you cause then you will be doomed to destruction.
I would allow a girl to lead me only to show how much she wants me .

 

[john1234]

Interesting question; I have read that the man really and truly should call all the shots, this suggets that it is a dictatorship and not a relationship?

 

[SgtSplacker]

If a girl wants to lead in some things i'll let her. Like if she wants to show me something or go somewhere, sure no problem. But if she gets too bossy or if I want to do something and she doesn't follow my lead in return. Then i'll just get stupid with her and let things go to shiit.

 

[RecoveringNiceGuy]

Yes, in general you should be leading. But let her propose a date every now and then, it doesn't have to be your way or the highway 100% of the time. This allows her to invest in you, and builds intimacy. The act of her thinking of something to do that she believes might please you is something you should actively appreciate occasionally. But again, you call the shots more often than not. Don't fall back into AFC habits mate!

I agree. You should be leading and it is important to make her confident that you can and will lead in your first few dates, but at the same time you don't want to be a control freak either. Tell her things she can do. Tell her she's the DJ and let her play the music while you're driving somewhere. Tell her you'll cook dinner together and for her to bring what she needs to impress you with her favorite dish. If she expresses a desire to plan a date, give her an opportunity to do it.

Women typically prefer to let the guy lead, but that doesn't mean they don't like to have a little bit of fun and be the boss on occasion. Likewise, guys (should) be comfortable leading most of the time but that doesn't mean you can never let go of the wheel. The important factors are that she knows you will take back the lead once she's done, and they you trust her to do a good job. If she's in the lead because you're too afraid to take the lead, or you give her the lead but micro-manage her that's when you're doing it wrong. On the other hand, getting her to spend her time, money, and effort into you is how she will become invested in you.

 

[Serenity]

Good, bad? Let them? fight them?

Some girls are really passive others can be a bit more strong willed. I tend to ask them a bit too much what they want to do, which starts to show some AFC behavior

I don't think it hurts to ask if there's something they want to do once in a while. However asking it often and especially more often than you have ideas for what to do is a sign of insecurity. The problem especially with passive girls is that they rely on and enjoy a mans leadership, if you have no idea and can't lead it makes them insecure and uncomfortable as well. It makes you seem insecure because asking so much shows that you don't know what to do and your way of handling it is to shove the responsibility over to her.

My approach is to know what I want to do, but regardless I ask my girlfriend if there's something she wants to do. If she can't think of anything it simply means we do what I want to do. If she does have an idea which do happen sometimes I mostly go along with it.

I consider that a good way to handle it, because I'm always prepared to lead, but I let her have a say as well.

 

[Fitters]

Be the company owner , let her be the sight supervisor. Ultimately you call the shots but give her enough freedom for her to feel valued.

 

[YawataNoKami]

First of all there is not such thing as a strong willed woman. It is a media/academia/feminist made up term. Second there is good leading and bad leading ,for example if your plate is an accountant it is logical you ask her about tax returns in that case she can lead ; don't you think? Otherwise you always lead.

 

[Jetleg]

You dont have to lead, you have to be confident and be in control.

The trick is letting her believe its 50-50, but in the reallity you're the one with the control.