University- Best years of your life?

[deltabeta]

Hi everyone,

So, my situation is kinda frustrating because being in University, I have no social life (intentionally, I'm pretty awesome). I like being a loner as it gives me much more time to work on myself and learn things. I have a goal in my life to become as knowledgeable as i can. Another goal in my life is to seduce chicks, Venusian arts, if I may. These two goals are contradictory while in university because university is arguably the best place to learn in a formal environment but the chicks are hot too. Now, people say balance is everything. But the courseload I'm taking is really heavy and I need a minimum of 3.5 gpa in my last two years to get into graduate school (I'm going into third year next semester). Any suggestions how to go about this situation? Should I go monk for two years? I'm twenty now and I've been basically monk for last two years (I've read 50+ books last year). Its really frustrating tbh. Plus my parents are paying tuition and I don't wanna be mediocre at anything I do.

 

[dustmuffin]

You will have time for women later.

 

[Jetleg]

My situation is probably worse than yours, i'm in med school and gotta have 2 jobs to keep on living, and got like 2-3 tests every f*king week - thats the real deal my friend - No life at all (barely have time to go to the gym and i really miss it)

Every now and then when i got some time i hit on chicks (campus, parks, gym) and i still get some p*ssy here and then, dont forget p*ssy is not everything. studying is more important.

My advice, do some campus sport (if you have that sort of thing) or just find some social activity that have nothing to do with your uni-mates (thats important!) - you can get to know some new people from other circles, its literally an 1 - 2 a week activity that you can probably do.
Even if you're not banging hot chicks, being around them while mainting that alpha approach is quite good as well, they can always introduce you to their circle and you get to know some hot babes.

 

[deltabeta]

My situation is probably worse than yours, i'm in med school and gotta have 2 jobs to keep on living, and got like 2-3 tests every f*king week - thats the real deal my friend - No life at all (barely have time to go to the gym and i really miss it)

Every now and then when i got some time i hit on chicks (campus, parks, gym) and i still get some p*ssy here and then, dont forget p*ssy is not everything. studying is more important.

My advice, do some campus sport (if you have that sort of thing) or just find some social activity that have nothing to do with your uni-mates (thats important!) - you can get to know some new people from other circles, its literally an 1 - 2 a week activity that you can probably do.
Even if you're not banging hot chicks, being around them while mainting that alpha approach is quite good as well, they can always introduce you to their circle and you get to know some hot babes.

I forgot to mention that I'm working as well but the people I work with are pretty boring. I hit on a cute coworker but it didn't go anywhere. I see your point. I'm literally pulling 2-allnighters a week just to complete the assignments and stay with the class. I dont mind it though. A sleepless night is better than a night of regret.

What specialization are you planning on doing? Oncology by any chance?

 

[Jetleg]

I forgot to mention that I'm working as well but the people I work with are pretty boring. I hit on a cute coworker but it didn't go anywhere. I see your point. I'm literally pulling 2-allnighters a week just to complete the assignments and stay with the class. I dont mind it though. A sleepless night is better than a night of regret.

What specialization are you planning on doing? Oncology by any chance?

Pharmacology, maybe Virology

I wish i was a student in the US, must be cool. (if i had the money)

 

[zekko]

I find the idea that being at a university are the best years of your life to be pretty sad. Being at a university is supposed to preparation for real life. The idea that preparing is better than the real thing is sad.

In your case, if you need to have a heavy load and extra studying time in order to meet your goals, so be it. The important thing is meeting your goals. Some guys may have more time to be in frats and fool around, but if that's not you, then that's just the way it is. You have to stick to your priorities, and women should never be your highest priority.

 

[Tictac]

The easiest time of your life maybe.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Your people skills are just as important as anything you learn in a classroom, and that's not exactly the same as getting laid, but it does relate. Most workaholic overachievers hit a career wall when they are unable to move into management...because they suck with people in general, not just girls...because all they ever did was study...because everyone told them studying hard was all that mattered.

 

[3agle 3yes]

OP, reading your post gives me the impression that you're an introvert.

Introversion and extroversion are completely misunderstood imo. Being an introvert isn't a bad thing and being an extrovert isn't a good thing.

People think being an introvert means you're shy, don't like to be social etc and extroverts are loud and like to party all the time etc, but this is wrong.

Carl Jung, who I believe originated the term had it most accurate in my opinion.

Introverts and extroverts are just people with different perspectives.

Introverts draw energy from within, extroverts draw energy from without.

I, being an introvert myself, personally like to spend quality time alone, this gives me the energy to go out and socialize. I get worn out if I spend too much time with people (though this is less and less the case now days), so I suggest spending at most, 65% of your time alone learning and 35% socializing and gradually try to tip the balance more and more towards socializing.

It worked for me.

 

[Konada]

University - Definitely the best years of your life...

To pursue your dreams. No other time will you find such freedom along with the ability to think critically, to do what you really want. This means setting the foundation and creating opportunities for your life to flourish, explore your options and your passions. For myself, GPA (3.00/4 isn't spectacular) nor p00n matters much to me, I spend most of my time getting to know people outside of school and pursuing public speaking to achieve where I envision myself to be in 17 years time.

All those college dropouts were on to something. They might have quit school to pursue their dreams and its pretty stupid to do so in my opinion. What I really appreciate is their wisdom to see beyond grades and p00n, many mistake university to be a hellhole precursor to life while instead it is one of the places you can flourish as a person (and DJ) if you see it beyond its value of GPA and college hookups.

 

[amazingswayze]

i'm not expecting it to be. i just want to make it better than high school. only time will tell. i hate books. what i really want is to be living the life i want. when i am a grown man i will have more control and wisdom. we'll see.

 

[Huffman]

Uni was awesome but I actually didn't get laid. I had enough free time but I still sucked with girls.
Rather, this is where I slowly started to get better (and signed onto this forum). I had good times, did some ballsy stuff. Later on I constantly had admirers but considered them too low.

Now I have way more success, also I live alone now (huge deal). Being alone also forced me to actively care for my social circle, go out and try to find what I'm looking for.

Student girls are bubbly, crazy and difficult to get. Maybe it's because I'm not a WHOHOOO PARTEYYY guy. I find most women who are on my level aren't students anymore.