I'm confused

phil2015

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Hi guys,

Just a quick situation on a date I went on last night. I'm very confused about what happened, as things dont seem to quite make sense and wonder if anyone could advise or relate....

I'd been talking to a HB6 for the last couple of weeks offline and decided to meet for drinks last night. In a nutshell everything went well, within minutes she was flirting, playing with her hair, smiling away etc and things looked up.

As the night progressed I tried on numerous occasions to go in for a kiss to close/escalate things and take things further. She refused and backed off each time, not in an obvious way, but let's just say the opportunities were there. What's confusing me is that whilst refusing me a kiss we were holding hands, groping eachother whilst dancing, bodily touching, etc.....

Furthermore at the end of the evening, she suddenly realised she had lost the key to her house.....I of course offered her my spare room, to which she came home with me, and got into bed with me. I again tried to close, but she refused to kiss or respond.

Then this morning I get a LJBF text, to which I simply responded 'cool.Bye'

I don't understand why she would give out huge IOI and body language, and come to my house, and actually get in my bed but refuse to kiss or escalate this.

Any ideas what happened here!? I'm confused
 

dustmuffin

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Hi guys,

Just a quick situation on a date I went on last night. I'm very confused about what happened, as things dont seem to quite make sense and wonder if anyone could advise or relate....

I'd been talking to a HB6 for the last couple of weeks offline and decided to meet for drinks last night. In a nutshell everything went well, within minutes she was flirting, playing with her hair, smiling away etc and things looked up.

As the night progressed I tried on numerous occasions to go in for a kiss to close/escalate things and take things further. She refused and backed off each time, not in an obvious way, but let's just say the opportunities were there. What's confusing me is that whilst refusing me a kiss we were holding hands, groping eachother whilst dancing, bodily touching, etc.....

Furthermore at the end of the evening, she suddenly realised she had lost the key to her house.....I of course offered her my spare room, to which she came home with me, and got into bed with me. I again tried to close, but she refused to kiss or respond.

Then this morning I get a LJBF text, to which I simply responded 'cool.Bye'

I don't understand why she would give out huge IOI and body language, and come to my house, and actually get in my bed but refuse to kiss or escalate this.

Any ideas what happened here!? I'm confused
She wanted to hook you as an orbiter? Send out all of those sexual signals making you want more and think you might have a chance. Good move on the cool bye text.and she is giving out mixed signals which means um no buster.
 
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VladPatton

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It's what they do, because they can. This is the risk we take when going out on dates. This was a good lesson for you, and a way to end your confusion once and for all. If you're being confused, she's not into you. As simple as that. Your reply was perfect, so just move on and fvck that b!tch and her bullsh!t.
 
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