so i met this girl a few weeks ago through a friend and I told her to join my spanish conversation group becuase she likes spanish ( of course was a way to get her close to me becuase i liked her) she is 22 and im 25. she came to the club and we organize events and stuff, we started to hang out but ust as friends, cannot tell if she likes me or not. the thing is that she is sometimes very cold or very hot towards me. i catched her looking at me many times and inmediately she turned away. but for example she always avoid sitting next to me even if there is space or her texts are very cold. but when we talk face to face i see she looks at me in a very special way. i dont know, all this actions confuse me and dont know if i should make the move or not becuase i dont want to loose her as a friend. could it be that she wanst to really hide that she likes me? she also invites me to this events on fb and i see that she only invites me, but then sometimes she ignores me. its relly hard to read her intentions... dont know what to do..
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dustmuffin
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Ask her out. You will find out if she likes you. Quit screwing around.
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For the life of me I don't understand why some guys don't get this. All she can day is no. Man up! Hell I was doing this when I was 15.
i just did not ask her yet because the only thing that stop me is that is gonna be awkward afterwards, will have to see her in ths spanish club every wednesday and she is so into it that she wont quit, but you guys are right, i will this week or at least flirt with her and see her reaction, im always direct with girls but this one is a special occasion
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It won't be awkward if you don't act awkward. Have confidence ask her out and if she says no pretend it never happened and go on as before. They key is that you project confidence. You dont care if she says yes or no. I am in kind of a mood tonight but how hard can that be?
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Continuing with my mood and old man rant....why the hell do you want to read her intentions? She needs to know your intentions! That you want to knock the bottom out of her pu say! That you want to slap her ass and twist her nipple! Ask her out! Get off your ass and do it quit being a puss y so you can get some puss y!
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The WORST she can do is say no.... then you find another woman to bump uglies with. Instead, you are sitting here like a puppy hoping she likes your little puppy dog look and takes you home..... It might happen, but not with a woman you'd want to f%ck when you are sober. She's gonna be a big and ugly..... You want a decent woman, you have to man up and ask her out. Worrying about a no is for candy ass men. I asked out a friend who was always tossing "innuendo" at me, she said no, still friends. Too bad, I would have liked knocking her boots.....
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Stop dealing with girls like these.
She's behaving like an idiot! Hot, cold, push, pull... She seems to like you but also seems afraid to show it or afraid to get close to you. These are red flags, girls like that are difficult to catch and they will keep acting difficult once you caught them.
She's only gonna cause you headaches, so ignore this one and focus on better girls.
She's behaving like an idiot! Hot, cold, push, pull... She seems to like you but also seems afraid to show it or afraid to get close to you. These are red flags, girls like that are difficult to catch and they will keep acting difficult once you caught them.
She's only gonna cause you headaches, so ignore this one and focus on better girls.
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You just met her and you are worried about losing her as a friend. Why is this friendship so important? Don't you have guy friends?
Also, romantic interests should not be friended on Facebook. They gather too much information about you via Facebook and ruins your mysteriousness.
Ask her out. While on the date make her laugh, touch her directly and see where it goes from there.
Was just reading an article on SS that basically says to assume she likes you, and not look for her reactions/lack of reactions to gauge her interest. Otherwise you'll go crazy! Having just gone through a situation similar to the OP, where I think I misread signals, I can say it's easier said than done.
Sometimes you get the signals (whether deliberately from the other person, or just fabricated in your own mind), resulting in you getting excited, confident, and you start planning ahead (wedding bells, etc!!)
Then suddenly those signals stop, and you go crazy trying to think what you said/did or didn't do that caused the change. That's kinda where I am right now, but reading that article did help. btw, I think the article was called "Kiss of Death". Things are so much easier when you actually engage in the relationship aren't they?
Patience is another virtue that can help you reduce the risk of approaching when the other person had no intentions. I know that goes against some of the advice about just 'leaping in'....
cheers
Sometimes you get the signals (whether deliberately from the other person, or just fabricated in your own mind), resulting in you getting excited, confident, and you start planning ahead (wedding bells, etc!!)
Then suddenly those signals stop, and you go crazy trying to think what you said/did or didn't do that caused the change. That's kinda where I am right now, but reading that article did help. btw, I think the article was called "Kiss of Death". Things are so much easier when you actually engage in the relationship aren't they?Patience is another virtue that can help you reduce the risk of approaching when the other person had no intentions. I know that goes against some of the advice about just 'leaping in'....
cheers
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Just read atom smasher post where he said that if a girl is hard to read she is low interest and you should delete. Totally agree. The ones who are into you make it incredibly easy all the others are going to be a huge p i t a and you will never get any profit out of them. It's annoying because the ones who are attracted to you are only going to be ten percent old girls so you'll have to wade through a lot of rejections but that is the DJ life.
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It's better that's she's hot in real life and cold over text. Hot over text and cold in person is guaranteed game player.
Agee with the consensus, just say "I'm off to xyz, shall we go together?" Or something. You don't have to make it a formal date.
I did this to a girl once and she showed up with her massive black bf. She was Latino. I've never been so embarrassed
Agee with the consensus, just say "I'm off to xyz, shall we go together?" Or something. You don't have to make it a formal date.
I did this to a girl once and she showed up with her massive black bf. She was Latino. I've never been so embarrassed