I met a sweet HB9 a year and a half ago at an event for new members of various fraternities and sororities. In fact it was she who introduced herself to me. I had, by then, evolved from my old AFC behavior but was not a Don Juan by a longshot. Still she was attracted enough that we talke for some time and she added me on Facebook later on and we chatted there.
The main problem was that back then she lived in another city, some 200km away from me, and while we talked about her coming to my city - on the pretext to join an evening with people from various student organizations - it did not happen.
I attended the Walpurgis Night festivities in the city where she lived and studied a few months later, not really excpecting anything of her. But when we marched by, I saw her standing with other members of her sorority, as we passed them, and she winked and waved at me, with a cute smile at that. Later on in the evening we had a joint party at her sorority where we talked a bit - but I also met several new girls, so she did not get that much attention from me.
Back home we started chatting again, as it had died out slightly, and some weeks later I thought it would be a magnificent idea to invite her to a 48 hour mini-cruise to Sweden. I am a licenced seafarer, and interested in everything to do with the sea - and she knew that. (but now to think of it, it was probably the singularly worst proposition to make
) She was a bit hesitant at first, but liked the idea. When I tried to confirm it some weeks later she asked whether it was just us two, or if there were more people going, and revealed that she is in a relationship, but yet she asked me if it was still OK for her to come. So I told her, that it would be OK for my part, but recommended her not to come because it would not be fair to her boyfriend (assuming she had one).
I left it at that for a few months, until I had business at her city and asked her to show me around - just as friends. She mentioned that she was still in a happy relationship, and asked me whether it was ok, and then agreed to show me around. But when the time neared, she told me that she had to go to the countryside and take care of her parents. She was apologetic about that.
Kept no contact with her after that, until we had another joint party some 9 months later in my city at my fraternity. We did not have any contact during the first part of the party, but she came to me later in the evening and sat down next to me where we talked at length. She was new to the city and asked for directions how to get to where she was staying. So I volunteered to walk her out a few hundred metres - making a few teasing remarks about it which got her to laugh, and to poke me.
Again, no contact - this time for a year. I went to a board-game evening hosted by her sorority at their apartment in my city, and shortly after saw her too joining. We noticed and greeted each other, but she sat in the opposite corner of me when the game began. We were among the first to drop out, and I sat next to her next to the bar table. We talked for a bit, until one of the hosts asked all players who had dropped out to join him in another shorter version of the game in the other room. So we went, and sat next to her. I made jokes about the game making her laugh and agree with me, and made her tease me about my beard(or **** test me, I assume) which I believe I passed. I also learned that she had moved to my city.
The evening continued, I spent more time aquainting myself with other girls, and eventually saw her leaving together with some guy I did not know.
The the next morning she messages me on Facebook, asking me how I liked the evening. After I told her how much fun it was - especially after she left - she became disappointed she left. She told me she had been tired and a bit sick, and that she had taken a beer together with some guy she named by name (might have been the same she left with), and that she went home with the last tram after that. We chatted a bit more - she was apparently impressed about my wine collection that we ended up talking about. Talked also about what I make for living, which seemed to excite her, also told her that I no longer (for the time being) work at sea. I asked about her work, but she was quite laconic about that, and said that she does not want to talk more about it. So there the conversation ended.
I thought about asking her whether she is coming to another board-game evening hosted by a fraternity this Monday, when I got an invitation from her (via Facebook) to come to a party in the other city next Friday, hosted by their sorority. She personally invited me, and there is only one other person from my fraternity who has been invited, who by chance is married to one of their girls.
I had all but forgotten this girl for the past year - to the extend I barely could remember her name when we were playing a new round of the board game. I had to point her out, by saying her name, but took almost 10 seconds to do so, while she was looking, and waiting to hear her name.
I am considering going to the party next weekend, taking one or two younger members with me, rather than going in alone. I might be seen more commanding that way, and also I would have a few familiar faces to talk to in the rare event everything goes south. Chances are I will speak and dance with this girl. I'd appreciate any Don Juan advice on what to say and how to say it. Especially regarding her assumed boyfriend, of potential breakup of said boyfriend.
Then again, there will be many girls attending, including many new ones I will meet. So she is not by any means the only one. She is, quite different from the others (I have met so far) by her personality, however.
I hope I have not bored any of you with this long rant. I'd really appreciate any insights, tips, and opinions.
The main problem was that back then she lived in another city, some 200km away from me, and while we talked about her coming to my city - on the pretext to join an evening with people from various student organizations - it did not happen.
I attended the Walpurgis Night festivities in the city where she lived and studied a few months later, not really excpecting anything of her. But when we marched by, I saw her standing with other members of her sorority, as we passed them, and she winked and waved at me, with a cute smile at that. Later on in the evening we had a joint party at her sorority where we talked a bit - but I also met several new girls, so she did not get that much attention from me.
Back home we started chatting again, as it had died out slightly, and some weeks later I thought it would be a magnificent idea to invite her to a 48 hour mini-cruise to Sweden. I am a licenced seafarer, and interested in everything to do with the sea - and she knew that. (but now to think of it, it was probably the singularly worst proposition to make
) She was a bit hesitant at first, but liked the idea. When I tried to confirm it some weeks later she asked whether it was just us two, or if there were more people going, and revealed that she is in a relationship, but yet she asked me if it was still OK for her to come. So I told her, that it would be OK for my part, but recommended her not to come because it would not be fair to her boyfriend (assuming she had one).I left it at that for a few months, until I had business at her city and asked her to show me around - just as friends. She mentioned that she was still in a happy relationship, and asked me whether it was ok, and then agreed to show me around. But when the time neared, she told me that she had to go to the countryside and take care of her parents. She was apologetic about that.
Kept no contact with her after that, until we had another joint party some 9 months later in my city at my fraternity. We did not have any contact during the first part of the party, but she came to me later in the evening and sat down next to me where we talked at length. She was new to the city and asked for directions how to get to where she was staying. So I volunteered to walk her out a few hundred metres - making a few teasing remarks about it which got her to laugh, and to poke me.
Again, no contact - this time for a year. I went to a board-game evening hosted by her sorority at their apartment in my city, and shortly after saw her too joining. We noticed and greeted each other, but she sat in the opposite corner of me when the game began. We were among the first to drop out, and I sat next to her next to the bar table. We talked for a bit, until one of the hosts asked all players who had dropped out to join him in another shorter version of the game in the other room. So we went, and sat next to her. I made jokes about the game making her laugh and agree with me, and made her tease me about my beard(or **** test me, I assume) which I believe I passed. I also learned that she had moved to my city.
The evening continued, I spent more time aquainting myself with other girls, and eventually saw her leaving together with some guy I did not know.
The the next morning she messages me on Facebook, asking me how I liked the evening. After I told her how much fun it was - especially after she left - she became disappointed she left. She told me she had been tired and a bit sick, and that she had taken a beer together with some guy she named by name (might have been the same she left with), and that she went home with the last tram after that. We chatted a bit more - she was apparently impressed about my wine collection that we ended up talking about. Talked also about what I make for living, which seemed to excite her, also told her that I no longer (for the time being) work at sea. I asked about her work, but she was quite laconic about that, and said that she does not want to talk more about it. So there the conversation ended.
I thought about asking her whether she is coming to another board-game evening hosted by a fraternity this Monday, when I got an invitation from her (via Facebook) to come to a party in the other city next Friday, hosted by their sorority. She personally invited me, and there is only one other person from my fraternity who has been invited, who by chance is married to one of their girls.
I had all but forgotten this girl for the past year - to the extend I barely could remember her name when we were playing a new round of the board game. I had to point her out, by saying her name, but took almost 10 seconds to do so, while she was looking, and waiting to hear her name.
I am considering going to the party next weekend, taking one or two younger members with me, rather than going in alone. I might be seen more commanding that way
, and also I would have a few familiar faces to talk to in the rare event everything goes south. Chances are I will speak and dance with this girl. I'd appreciate any Don Juan advice on what to say and how to say it. Especially regarding her assumed boyfriend, of potential breakup of said boyfriend.Then again, there will be many girls attending, including many new ones I will meet. So she is not by any means the only one. She is, quite different from the others (I have met so far) by her personality, however.
I hope I have not bored any of you with this long rant. I'd really appreciate any insights, tips, and opinions.
