How to successfully be single

[bigwuz]

So after my harrowing trip to the county jail ive decided to be single. For at least a year i don't think im bad lookinghttps://m.facebook.com/home.php. or a bad guyBut im bad for women. So I've decided to get serious about my quest for self improvement. I'll start working out again and I'm going to get visits of my daughter but in what other ways can i improve please mature and helpful or funny response only

 

[Poon King]

Find your passion and your purpose.

Too many men never sit down to think about what exactly they wake up for every morning. Many men don't plan either. They just live day-to-day being reactive and obsessing over stupid celebrities, politicians or athletes. Also.. rather than focusing on what makes them unique.. most men try to "fit in".. which we all know pretty much GUARANTEES a mediocre life at best. If your highest goal is to be an average Joe.. then you might as well clean toilets. Such men don't use their minds at all.

Another stupid thing a lot of men do is planning their entire lives around women. Everything they do is with the goal of settling down with ONE woman and having kids and getting fat. Pretty boring and pointless. Bonding with a woman and having kids should be something that happens while you achieve your REAL goals.. it should not be a goal within itself. Why you ask? Because any moron can reproduce. It is one of the most basic lizard brain things we do.

WHICH IS WHY.. when men make women their "life goal" they become weak, pathetic, pandering betas who need female validation to avoid blowing their brains out. To WANT a woman's body is normal and masculine. And the urge to have sex is strong. To NEED a woman's love or her approval is to be a faggot.

 

[parkthebus]

Find your passion and your purpose.

Too many men never sit down to think about what exactly they wake up for every morning. Many men don't plan either. They just live day-to-day being reactive and obsessing over stupid celebrities, politicians or athletes. Also.. rather than focusing on what makes them unique.. most men try to "fit in".. which we all know pretty much GUARANTEES a mediocre life at best. If your highest goal is to be an average Joe.. then you might as well clean toilets. Such men don't use their minds at all.

Another stupid thing a lot of men do is planning their entire lives around women. Everything they do is with the goal of settling down with ONE woman and having kids and getting fat. Pretty boring and pointless. Bonding with a woman and having kids should be something that happens while you achieve your REAL goals.. it should not be a goal within itself. Why you ask? Because any moron can reproduce. It is one of the most basic lizard brain things we do.

WHICH IS WHY.. when men make women their "life goal" they become weak, pathetic, pandering betas who need female validation to avoid blowing their brains out. To WANT a woman's body is normal and masculine. And the urge to have sex is strong. To NEED a woman's love or her approval is to be a faggot.

I think a gay fella is gonna be the last man to seek a woman's love/approval.

 

[exhausted]

Find your passion and your purpose.

Too many men never sit down to think about what exactly they wake up for every morning. Many men don't plan either. They just live day-to-day being reactive and obsessing over stupid celebrities, politicians or athletes. Also.. rather than focusing on what makes them unique.. most men try to "fit in".. which we all know pretty much GUARANTEES a mediocre life at best. If your highest goal is to be an average Joe.. then you might as well clean toilets. Such men don't use their minds at all.

Another stupid thing a lot of men do is planning their entire lives around women. Everything they do is with the goal of settling down with ONE woman and having kids and getting fat. Pretty boring and pointless. Bonding with a woman and having kids should be something that happens while you achieve your REAL goals.. it should not be a goal within itself. Why you ask? Because any moron can reproduce. It is one of the most basic lizard brain things we do.

WHICH IS WHY.. when men make women their "life goal" they become weak, pathetic, pandering betas who need female validation to avoid blowing their brains out. To WANT a woman's body is normal and masculine. And the urge to have sex is strong. To NEED a woman's love or her approval is to be a faggot.

haha.. Yeah nobody ''needs'' many things to get through life, however some things can make life much much more enjoyable.
To be loved is one of the most fulfilling emotions you can ever receive in this life.
It is a true blessing if you can find a loyal, loving and compassionate woman who compliments you and doesnt have the princess, victim everything resolves around me syndrome. Which is todays normal ****ty waste of space female.
With that said I dont ever see it is possible to find a great girl in the usa today

 

[Poon King]

haha.. Yeah nobody ''needs'' many things to get through life, however some things can make life much much more enjoyable.
To be loved is one of the most fulfilling emotions you can ever receive in this life.
It is a true blessing if you can find a loyal, loving and compassionate woman who compliments you and doesnt have the princess, victim everything resolves around me syndrome. Which is todays normal ****ty waste of space female.
With that said I dont ever see it is possible to find a great girl in the usa today

Well there is no reason for today's women to be "great". They are surrounded by desperate, pathetic, pandering faggot betas who walk on egg shells around them to "make relationships work".

If men will do anything to make a relationship work.. what reason or incentive does a woman have to act like a decent person? Today's women are bored. Men live in constant fear of rejection and constant thirst for affection. They offer no challenge to women. So women behave increasingly vile to rock the boat.. only to watch men quiver in fear rather than putting them in their place.

 

[exhausted]

Well there is no reason for today's women to be "great". They are surrounded by desperate, pathetic, pandering faggot betas who walk on egg shells around them to "make relationships work".

If men will do anything to make a relationship work.. what reason or incentive does a woman have to act like a decent person? Today's women are bored. Men live in constant fear of rejection and constant thirst for affection. They offer no challenge to women. So women behave increasingly vile to rock the boat.. only to watch men quiver in fear rather than putting them in their place.

Agreed. So what can we do when 95% of men are entitling these women to be this terrible? Just admit defeat and have the mindset there is no future with a ltr or marriage just spin plates? I did that for 7 years with probably 20 diff women. I honestly enjoy stability and a constant companion more. Oh with the fact I get my time for myself, sadly this is all wishful thinking.

 

[JohnChops]

Find your passion and your purpose.

Too many men never sit down to think about what exactly they wake up for every morning. Many men don't plan either. They just live day-to-day being reactive and obsessing over stupid celebrities, politicians or athletes. Also.. rather than focusing on what makes them unique.. most men try to "fit in".. which we all know pretty much GUARANTEES a mediocre life at best. If your highest goal is to be an average Joe.. then you might as well clean toilets. Such men don't use their minds at all.

Another stupid thing a lot of men do is planning their entire lives around women. Everything they do is with the goal of settling down with ONE woman and having kids and getting fat. Pretty boring and pointless. Bonding with a woman and having kids should be something that happens while you achieve your REAL goals.. it should not be a goal within itself. Why you ask? Because any moron can reproduce. It is one of the most basic lizard brain things we do.

WHICH IS WHY.. when men make women their "life goal" they become weak, pathetic, pandering betas who need female validation to avoid blowing their brains out. To WANT a woman's body is normal and masculine. And the urge to have sex is strong. To NEED a woman's love or her approval is to be a faggot.

this.

by planning, PHM means plan things day to day that will help you acomplish your goals. What I do, i got this from my ex GF, is I write down on a note card everything i have to do that day (study x amount of chapter/subjects, errands, training, etc) and I do not sleep until everything is crossed off. Actually writing it down, and physically crossing it off makes you feel good. It makes you go to sleep feeling like you accomplished something that day. Confidence.

 

[ubercat]

Backing up JC and PKs points.

There s a good book called the checklist manifesto. Long story short by adding Checklists to operating theatres this guy was actually saving lives.

I've got printed checklists for housework and other weekly maintenance. I've got printed checklists for my standard weekly shopping which I fridge magnet.

I've also got a list of things to do everyday which I've laminated and put in my bathroom. My current one has take supplements do body weight exercises eat salad etc.

This is like the get things done system approach. Their point is that it's not so much getting things done that's tiring - its organising all the things to get done in your head.

Try it for one month you'll be surprised how much putting a little structure in helps.

 

[Poon King]

Agreed. So what can we do when 95% of men are entitling these women to be this terrible? Just admit defeat and have the mindset there is no future with a ltr or marriage just spin plates? I did that for 7 years with probably 20 diff women. I honestly enjoy stability and a constant companion more. Oh with the fact I get my time for myself, sadly this is all wishful thinking.

The only stability possible in life is the stability you create for yourself. You must have a strong and stable mind. Looking to women for stability is retarded.

I keep telling men to stop looking to women as the be all end all to a full and happy life. If you need a woman to be loyal in order to be at piece, then you have already lost the game AND you are a slave to women on top of that.

In the end.. nothing in life is constant. So get used to change and get comfortable with change. As long as you seek it from outside factors.. life, society and women will continue to chew you up and spit you out.

 

[skinnyguy]

PHM is contradicting himself once again. He's saying that to be happy you shouldn't think about women at all, yet he's approaching women every day and showing off the women that he has banged. If women have no correlation with happiness, why should I care about the women he has banged?

A REAL MAN would admit that women are important but not everything. If it weren't for women we'd be jacking off every day instead doing the thing that every single guy on SOSuave finds to be important - having sex.

The stock response to every single guy coming on here seeking advice is to "stop thinking about women and just do your own thing". Well, we all wish that we were savvy business owners pulling in $20 million per year, playing on the best golf courses in America, driving a Ferrari, and flying to Rome on a whim. But unfortunately the bulk of us are average people.

I don't really understand why it is "unhealthy" to want to be in a relationship with a woman. All of a sudden you're a "faggot" if you want to be with a woman, while the guy who doesn't is "Alpha". Say what?

Just like PHM said himself, you should start every morning with a purpose. If that purpose is finding a cool girl to date, then so be it. That doesn't mean that you're quitting your job to find puss, or neglecting your other responsibilities. That just means that you have a healthy mindset and you aren't depressed or jaded.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

PHM is contradicting himself once again. He's saying that to be happy you shouldn't think about women at all, yet he's approaching women every day and showing off the women that he has banged. If women have no correlation with happiness, why should I care about the women he has banged?

A REAL MAN would admit that women are important but not everything. If it weren't for women we'd be jacking off every day instead doing the thing that every single guy on SOSuave finds to be important - having sex.

The stock response to every single guy coming on here seeking advice is to "stop thinking about women and just do your own thing". Well, we all wish that we were savvy business owners pulling in $20 million per year, playing on the best golf courses in America, driving a Ferrari, and flying to Rome on a whim. But unfortunately the bulk of us are average people.

I don't really understand why it is "unhealthy" to want to be in a relationship with a woman. All of a sudden you're a "faggot" if you want to be with a woman, while the guy who doesn't is "Alpha". Say what?

Just like PHM said himself, you should start every morning with a purpose. If that purpose is finding a cool girl to date, then so be it. That doesn't mean that you're quitting your job to find puss, or neglecting your other responsibilities. That just means that you have a healthy mindset and you aren't depressed or jaded.

At the end of the day even if you use women just for penetration it is sort of a validation of sorts that a man needs. We do need women, we won't die with out them, but unless you are gay you are going to have interactions with women.

 

[exhausted]

The only stability possible in life is the stability you create for yourself. You must have a strong and stable mind. Looking to women for stability is retarded.

I keep telling men to stop looking to women as the be all end all to a full and happy life. If you need a woman to be loyal in order to be at piece, then you have already lost the game AND you are a slave to women on top of that.

In the end.. nothing in life is constant. So get used to change and get comfortable with change. As long as you seek it from outside factors.. life, society and women will continue to chew you up and spit you out.

Good advice.
I think what my problem is is that my parents had a great relationship and always came together in tough times not apart. I actually never saw them fight, not once ever. Sure there were times where they might have not been getting along and did not speak much ha but my mom never once disrespected my dad in any way and my dad always made sure we kids did not disrespect my mom or we would pay for it....Today's woman is a waste of space, not a compliment to men like my mother was who always had dinner made, laundry done and things like that. My mother was not a slave as these feminists state today, she took pride in caring for her family where these women today could give a crap.

 

[bigwuz]

All really good advice I have my goals and passions I just got a job after 7 months in jail I make decent money but I need to focus more on my life an building the bible says build homes and gardens then families

 

[Poon King]

PHM is contradicting himself once again. He's saying that to be happy you shouldn't think about women at all, yet he's approaching women every day and showing off the women that he has banged. If women have no correlation with happiness, why should I care about the women he has banged?

A REAL MAN would admit that women are important but not everything. If it weren't for women we'd be jacking off every day instead doing the thing that every single guy on SOSuave finds to be important - having sex.

The stock response to every single guy coming on here seeking advice is to "stop thinking about women and just do your own thing". Well, we all wish that we were savvy business owners pulling in $20 million per year, playing on the best golf courses in America, driving a Ferrari, and flying to Rome on a whim. But unfortunately the bulk of us are average people.

I don't really understand why it is "unhealthy" to want to be in a relationship with a woman. All of a sudden you're a "faggot" if you want to be with a woman, while the guy who doesn't is "Alpha". Say what?

Just like PHM said himself, you should start every morning with a purpose. If that purpose is finding a cool girl to date, then so be it. That doesn't mean that you're quitting your job to find puss, or neglecting your other responsibilities. That just means that you have a healthy mindset and you aren't depressed or jaded.

You sound desperate.

Never said a man is a faggot for WANTING to be with a woman. I said a man is a faggot for NEEDING to be with a woman.

Never said women have no correlation to happiness. I said women are not a requirement for happiness.

You've been on this site forever and you're still one of the most co-dependent betas around. It seems some men are just doomed from birth.

 

[skinnyguy]

You sound desperate.

Never said a man is a faggot for WANTING to be with a woman. I said a man is a faggot for NEEDING to be with a woman.

Never said women have no correlation to happiness. I said women are not a requirement for happiness.

You've been on this site forever and you're still one of the most co-dependent betas around. It seems some men are just doomed from birth.

Thanks for confirming you are PlayHer Man.

You got banned once and keep changing screen names in order to argue with men in an Internet forum.

And I'm beta right?

 

[Poon King]

Thanks for confirming you are PlayHer Man.

You got banned once and keep changing screen names in order to argue with men in an Internet forum.

And I'm beta right?

I confirmed nothing.

You called me PHM which obviously means Poon King Hammers skinnyguy's Mother every week.

And to answer your question.. YES, you are the beta. Your winning, b!tching and moaning proves it.

 

[bigwuz]

Well thanks for all your help guys but this escalated quickly

 

[ubercat]

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Yeah sorry about that OP. Unfortunately common sense isn't common.

I've done a fair bit with learning theory,positive psychology and and agile/ lean thinking. Basically looking at ways to hack your life and be a little bit more effective.

In terms of changing your behaviour for the better what the research tells us works is:
Checklists
Daily reflection so keep a journal and review it every day
Habbit beats willpower so use the other techniques to try and lock in the change for 30 days
Rewards so when you've done your workout 3 times for the week go and have that meal at Macca's and tell everyone in Macca's that is your reward for all the hard work - if you look happy and enthusiastic believe me even strangers will help you celebrate your win
Don't just try and stop bad habits replace them with good ones
Supportive people if you don't have anyone post your progress here - the guys will help
Visual reminders grab yourself a pad of sticky notes and put up your goals and things to do everywhere. It's really annoying when something is important to you and you just f
orget to do it that day avoid that crappy feeling.

And on the days when you fall and iit will happen. Don't beat yourself up just think oh well old habits at work. You are not bad just your habits are BUT your month starts again. It takes 30 days of actioning the new habit every day to lock it in to your brain

0p I maybe just some Internet guy however I've worked with all of this professionally. The tools are there it's up to you to pick them up.

So I issue this challenge to you.

Start small take a couple of achievable goals. Try following my advice for 1 month. And journal your progress on this thread

I won't say - I hope this helps - because no hope is needed. I know these techniques work.

Are you up for the challenge?