How do you do a freeze out with a woman if she won't have sex without looking butthurt?

[Shootin4Dreams]

i want to master this skill, incase she tries to withold sex I just want to go in the other room or something etc... but I want to know how to do it without having her be annoyed or mad?

 

[Trunks]

Express to her that it's preventing the two of you from truly bonding. LMAO

 

[stevo]

Is this a relationship or a fbuddy?

 

[usernamedox11]

who cares how you look. if you like hanging out with her regardless of sex, don't push it, she will come around if she likes you. if you just want to fvck her and she won't put out within the first 3 hangouts, just drop her.

 

[SeymourCake]

Walk away and proceed on with your journey and goal.

 

[thatfeel]

The way you do this is to leave whatever establishment you're at without a word.

Go hang out with buddies or different women and don't answer her calls / texts. Personally, if a woman ever looked "butthurt" to have sex with me, then I'll drop her. She clearly isnt interested so why should I waste my time? No pvssy is worth that.

I think what OP meant is how you can withdraw yourself from the situation where a girl denies you sex without the guy looking butthurt, not the girl.

 

[om1xr]

Well you should be focusing on other girls who are down to follow your lead and that way the side effect is that you will put here down the list until she reach out and suggest a meet up. Rinse and repeat.

 

[exhausted]

Aha. My bad.

Well, in that case I would just go along with it in a fun, sarcastic way. Saying "Na, you probably wouldnt have been that good anyway". But if a girl denied me sex after the first 3-4 dates, I'd drop. Depends on who she is and what she's about.

I think he is talking about a ltr, in this case he should be happy he has a high quality girl and look forward to the challenge. 3-4 dates? If I want to get laid the one night stand girls are easy to get at the bar or club, why waste your money on 3-4 dates. Finding a high quality girl should be the objective even if spinning plates, take more time to get it then keep spinning it. Me personally I dont like wasting time or money on *****s who bang a guy in 3 dates..You can find those anywhere

 

[teebear]

Personally, I don't think that there's any way to freeze out a girl without looking butthurt.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Perfect timing, happened to me the same recently during a date.

So she basically comes up with the bull**** about just leaving a meaningful story so she doesnt "feel ready" to get intimate...of course she feels ready to date, tell me about her life, wasting my time and have fun according to her terms.

Needless to say no physical contact allowed while hearing the more creative excuses for that, she doesnt feel its time yet (yeah it takes years to let someone grab your hand while you move in the crowd).

What I did was basically withdrawing not my attention but my initiative, I was just listening at her and give detailed answers, smiling when she was smiling and so on but at the same time I stop putting any effort to make the conversation interesting, no more physical moves and no more personal talkings, just basically being passive in terms of topic, it wasnt the butthurt silent or a punishment cause she wasnt putting it out.

I just slowly and gradually withdraw commitment and energy, let her pay her drinks, didnt make any more plan for the night but just asking her what she wanted, when she said that it was late, I told her that if she wanted to go home I would have called a taxi which I did.

Told her it was nice meeting her with a big smile, then left when the taxi was at the traffic light.

This choice didnt come out of sympathy or tolerance but out of a cold reasoning, I may happen to meet this girl randomly or we may have acquaitances in common and it surely pays more to be "the guy with which didnt work but was ok" rather than be "that creep which acted butthurt cause he aint getting it".

So as a general suggestion I would say just stop being proactive, stop putting an effort and gradually withdraw what you have put on it, she will get it but she wont be sure about it.

 

[ubercat]

WDWb is on the money if you keep coming across as a solid mature man its going to pay off in social circle. And now a days with social media everything is social circle

Also you may bump into the chick again and she changes her mind. My theory is that your success on the night is much more about whatever mood they are feeling in than your smooth moves. I reckon good DJing can change maybe to yes but never no to yes.

Same reason that whenever I get some cold as rejection from a chick on approach I shake her hands and say anyway pleasure meeting you. If you get a really feral one who ignores your hand just laugh gently (not sarcastically) and say ok and walk off.

Sometimes you run into the same girl later in the night she's had a few drinks, loosened up and its game on again. Or you might be wanting to game her friends.

Most women are inherently silly creatures and you don't ever want to let their flakiness upset you. Otherwise you're going to be spending a lot of your life feeling upset.

 

[Lozboss]

I think he is talking about a ltr, in this case he should be happy he has a high quality girl and look forward to the challenge.

DOWN VOTE. What is this blue pill sh*t. Get off this forum please.

I wouldn't go with Who Dares Wins' suggestion- just because if they don't show interest then I won't even pretend. Why waste time pretending even a little bit?

I'm intrigued too- what happens if it's your place- you shouldn't have to leave. How do you freeze out if you're at your own place? I struggle to not look butthurt or childish when I did this in a LTR.

 

[exhausted]

DOWN VOTE. What is this blue pill sh*t. Get off this forum please.

I wouldn't go with Who Dares Wins' suggestion- just because if they don't show interest then I won't even pretend. Why waste time pretending even a little bit?

I'm intrigued too- what happens if it's your place- you shouldn't have to leave. How do you freeze out if you're at your own place? I struggle to not look butthurt or childish when I did this in a LTR.

Wow you are unstable and emotional like all the women we try to distance ourselves from.
if he is in a ltr then high quality is what you want, if you want to spin plates and have a girl around to bang then that is another thing. I specifically said if he is talking about a ltr then i gave my opinion......off this forum? ha ok

 

[Lozboss]

Wow you are unstable and emotional like all the women we try to distance ourselves from.
if he is in a ltr then high quality is what you want, if you want to spin plates and have a girl around to bang then that is another thing. I specifically said if he is talking about a ltr then i gave my opinion......off this forum? ha ok

Being a DJ in a relationship is about getting your needs met. You told him to accept her not putting out. That IS NOT getting his needs met.

Hence: your advice sucks in this regard.

 

[fastlife]

If you're already exclusive, "Aww guess I'll have to call up one of my other girlfriends tonight"--said playfully; she should know it's a 'joke' but it inserts that possibility, especially if you're a desirable guy who can generate options. If you say it once--the first time it happens--that's often all it takes.

If you haven't banged yet or she's an FWB, never underestimate the power of a devastating yawn. You're not butt hurt, just bored--a little less attentive. Start checking your watch. She'll get the idea and chances are you can just escalate 10-15 minutes later. And if that fails disappear for a few days and hit her up a week later like nothing happened.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

All you can do if she is not putting out or making excuses is spend a lot less time with her or don't talk to her at all. Cut down the time by to 1/4th of what it was, and you cannot put out your greatest efforts towards her because it isn't paying off.

 

[exhausted]

Being a DJ in a relationship is about getting your needs met. You told him to accept her not putting out. That IS NOT getting his needs met.

Hence: your advice sucks in this regard.

Who wants a ltr with a girl you bang in 3 dates? hahaha
ltr should be of a quality girl, quality girls come from quality homes and know what the role of man and woman are. and there are very few of those homes left in life like that...

 

[thatfeel]

Assuming a girl isn't "quality" because she puts out in 3 dates or less is pretty white knight advice, sorry to say.

 

[exhausted]

Assuming a girl isn't "quality" because she puts out in 3 dates or less is pretty white knight advice, sorry to say.

So lets take your average 28 year old girl who started dating at 18, went out for 3 dates each or more for 3 guys a year and 3 ltr a year each. thats like a girl has been with 24 people by age 28. this is what u want for a ltr? ok

 

[ubercat]

Exhausted
U ve got a point in that a chick with low Ks is more likely to bond well.

But just because u got them to put out in 3 dates doesn't mean they always do. Maybe u got them on the right night or u did a really good job on the escalation.