Desdinova
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Ever notice how women can just write off a guy and treat him like he was only a tiny blip on her radar? Well that's because he was. The more sexually experienced a woman becomes, the more accustomed she is to just throwing guys away. Every new guy she dates seems to earn mediocre to low interest from her. Unless she has a genuine personality disorder, she's going to throw them away and say 5hit like "there's more fish in the sea" and "I deserve better". However, there was a time in her life when she wasn't like this.
The prime time to grab a woman's emotional interest is when she's at the beginning of her dating experience. Putting an age range on this time frame is difficult, but I'm going to say that it occurs mainly before her mid-20s, which is unfortunate because a woman is at her prime maturity somewhere between the ages of 23 and 27. Long before she hits her mid-20s, she's already had her most ultimate dating experiences. She's already met her "soulmate" by then.
Before I go further, allow me to describe the differences between men and women when it comes to attraction. Men are primarily attracted to the women in their immediate vicinity. In other words, a man is going to be attracted to women who are at his workplace, at his hangouts, his friends' sisters, and basically any attractive woman who happens to cross his path in his day to day life. A man will generally not dwell on lovers in his past when he's got other options regularly crossing his path. He gets far too distracted to waste his attention on women who are no longer in his present tense. This is why men do not have "soulmates".
Women however, do not solely focus on men in their current vicinity. Women will dwell on men from their past, and will use them to mentally create their ideal "soulmate". We know that this is impractical because what we imagine is never equal to reality. Because a woman is using these men from her past to create her fantasy mate, the reality is she's already met her "soulmate", has lost him, and is trying desperately to replace him with a man who can conjure up greater emotions than her soulmate did. The problem is, the more a woman dates men, the more cautious she becomes, the more jaded she becomes, and the less likely she will experience those powerful emotions again. The original man who made her feel those strong emotions cannot be overthrown.
Other Interests During Early Dating
Women will begin having spikes of infatuation during their teen years. Those spikes can be caused by boys in their school, actors in movies, and popular musicians. Those early "crushes" never completely go away either. If you need proof, just ask a woman in her 40s about the last Bon Jovi concert she attended. The guy is old, ugly, and can't sing worth a damn anymore, but he continues to grab the attention of the women who were infatuated with him 25 years ago.
Women retain their infatuation with men from their early dating years into adulthood. If you need more proof, find yourself a woman who has been divorced once and is on her second marriage and ask her about her first husband. Be prepared to take a seat because she'll be talking non-stop for a couple of hours, telling you what an a55hole he was and all the a55hole things he did. Once she's exhausted the fondest memories (aka jerk stories) of her ex, she'll conclude her story with a lesson and a brief mention of her boring second husband with a statement such as "This time I married the right guy."
The High Score List
There's so many reasons to compare seducing women to that of a game. Each person makes a move, tries to outplay the other one, etc etc. However, nobody really focuses on the high score list. The high score list is there, and it's extremely relevant.
The high score list contains a woman's highest rated men. These men have scored points by leaving an impression on her emotionally. The man at the top of her list is her actual "soulmate". This is the man who rocked her world, fluctuated her emotions, and kept her highly stimulated. There may be a few other men she dated underneath him, but their scores are a fair bit lower. In the middle of the list, we have the crushes from high school and the celebrities she went gaga over. At the bottom of the list, we have her current interests. These men climb up the list and displace previous interests who will eventually drop off. Here's an example of what a woman's high score list might look like:
Josh is her soulmate. He's the guy who made her emotions jump around like a grasshopper on steroids. The guys at the bottom have no hope in hell at overthrowing him.
Women who are inexperienced at dating are able to have much more vulnerable emotions because they haven't become conditioned to being disappointed with men. Their emotions are more powerful, more original, and have more of an impression on her. Everyone after her may be able to draw up the same emotions, but she's been there before. It's like getting a used car... It's still exciting, but it doesn't have the same smell or feel as a new car.
The prime time to grab a woman's emotional interest is when she's at the beginning of her dating experience. Putting an age range on this time frame is difficult, but I'm going to say that it occurs mainly before her mid-20s, which is unfortunate because a woman is at her prime maturity somewhere between the ages of 23 and 27. Long before she hits her mid-20s, she's already had her most ultimate dating experiences. She's already met her "soulmate" by then.
Before I go further, allow me to describe the differences between men and women when it comes to attraction. Men are primarily attracted to the women in their immediate vicinity. In other words, a man is going to be attracted to women who are at his workplace, at his hangouts, his friends' sisters, and basically any attractive woman who happens to cross his path in his day to day life. A man will generally not dwell on lovers in his past when he's got other options regularly crossing his path. He gets far too distracted to waste his attention on women who are no longer in his present tense. This is why men do not have "soulmates".
Women however, do not solely focus on men in their current vicinity. Women will dwell on men from their past, and will use them to mentally create their ideal "soulmate". We know that this is impractical because what we imagine is never equal to reality. Because a woman is using these men from her past to create her fantasy mate, the reality is she's already met her "soulmate", has lost him, and is trying desperately to replace him with a man who can conjure up greater emotions than her soulmate did. The problem is, the more a woman dates men, the more cautious she becomes, the more jaded she becomes, and the less likely she will experience those powerful emotions again. The original man who made her feel those strong emotions cannot be overthrown.
Other Interests During Early Dating
Women will begin having spikes of infatuation during their teen years. Those spikes can be caused by boys in their school, actors in movies, and popular musicians. Those early "crushes" never completely go away either. If you need proof, just ask a woman in her 40s about the last Bon Jovi concert she attended. The guy is old, ugly, and can't sing worth a damn anymore, but he continues to grab the attention of the women who were infatuated with him 25 years ago.
Women retain their infatuation with men from their early dating years into adulthood. If you need more proof, find yourself a woman who has been divorced once and is on her second marriage and ask her about her first husband. Be prepared to take a seat because she'll be talking non-stop for a couple of hours, telling you what an a55hole he was and all the a55hole things he did. Once she's exhausted the fondest memories (aka jerk stories) of her ex, she'll conclude her story with a lesson and a brief mention of her boring second husband with a statement such as "This time I married the right guy."
The High Score List
There's so many reasons to compare seducing women to that of a game. Each person makes a move, tries to outplay the other one, etc etc. However, nobody really focuses on the high score list. The high score list is there, and it's extremely relevant.
The high score list contains a woman's highest rated men. These men have scored points by leaving an impression on her emotionally. The man at the top of her list is her actual "soulmate". This is the man who rocked her world, fluctuated her emotions, and kept her highly stimulated. There may be a few other men she dated underneath him, but their scores are a fair bit lower. In the middle of the list, we have the crushes from high school and the celebrities she went gaga over. At the bottom of the list, we have her current interests. These men climb up the list and displace previous interests who will eventually drop off. Here's an example of what a woman's high score list might look like:
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Josh..........2754900
Kevin..........126300
Bon Jovi........99300
George Clooney..96020
Martin..........91010
Brad Pitt.......90600
Steve............8090
Shawn............2010
Derek.............600Women who are inexperienced at dating are able to have much more vulnerable emotions because they haven't become conditioned to being disappointed with men. Their emotions are more powerful, more original, and have more of an impression on her. Everyone after her may be able to draw up the same emotions, but she's been there before. It's like getting a used car... It's still exciting, but it doesn't have the same smell or feel as a new car.
I've wanted to read a good summary of your thoughts about this. Or well, I already did IIRC, but here we go again!
