turn down counter offer?

[andee]

so basically the other day i planned on studying with this girl but there was some miscommunication (couldnt find me/couldnt find her) and it didnt happen. anyways, i call her later that night and was like hey lets go hit the gym like we did twice a week. and she says she's tired. so i called her quickly after again and txted her saying lets go grab yogurt later that night. and she txted me saying " i cant, i got a test and a paper due tomorrow. i shall make it up to u ok carino?" (btw this week is finals week at the univ).

now the problem is that should i just take her offer or should i just be like "no thanks, i got things to do" (this is advice i got from female friend of mine who is a total don juanette). i just feel like i seemed too desperate and i should just turn down her offer.

 

[Mr. Bojangles]

Saying "no thanks, i got things to do" may be the best option in other cases but in your situation i really don't think it would sound even remotely credible since you seem to keep calling her so often... She flaked on you and you called her TWICE that night?! This is not something you should be doing...

I'd say don't respond to the "i shall make it up to u ok carino?" and see if she follows through. If she doesn't, it's likely that she's not interested.

 

[andee]

well i normally dont call her that often, if anything i will call her once a week at most to go do something. i guess i was just having a very AFCish moment that night.

and yeah, i plan dont plan on responding to her txt until she calls.

 

[DonJuan11]

so basically the other day i planned on studying with this girl but there was some miscommunication (couldnt find me/couldnt find her) and it didnt happen. anyways, i call her later that night and was like hey lets go hit the gym

That's seems too fast of move. If there was miscommunication, wait a few days and then call her. It's seems pushy to offer a get together right after the first one.

like we did twice a week. and she says she's tired. so i called her quickly after again and txted her saying lets go grab yogurt later that night.

Dude chill out. I know you like her, but give her some space here. There was miscommuication on the first meeting and she didnt' phone you to say "sorry there was miscommunication, lets go grab a bite tonight" She left it alone meaning she may have had other things to do. Then you phone and say "lets go work out" and she says "I am too tired" and doesn't counter. After about 10 min, you phone again and say "lets go get some yogurt". That's bordering desparation

and she txted me saying " i cant, i got a test and a paper due tomorrow. i shall make it up to u ok carino?" (btw this week is finals week at the univ).

That's fair. May have been better if she said that initially.

now the problem is that should i just take her offer or should i just be like "no thanks, i got things to do" (this is advice i got from female friend of mine who is a total don juanette). i just feel like i seemed too desperate and i should just turn down her offer.

LOL. You phone her 3 times in 15 minutes and after she counters after the third time you call her, you want to reject her? Is logic in the house?

also, i was a bit surprised that she called me "carino" in her text since its the equivelent of "honey/sweetheart/etc" in spanish and we hardly call eachother names like that except when i jokingly call her sunshine.

Don't understand what you mean by the last paragraph.

Did she even make a counter? She said "I'll make it up to you." Just say "OK" and let her call you. If she doesn't call, she won't make it up. If she does, she will. It doesn't make sense to say "No thanks, I have things to do." Why would you close her off like that? She hasn't done anything wrong.

 

[ARrocket]

Saying "no thanks, i got things to do" may be the best option in other cases but in your situation i really don't think it would sound even remotely credible since you seem to keep calling her so often... She flaked on you and you called her TWICE that night?! This is not something you should be doing...

I'd say don't respond to the "i shall make it up to u ok carino?" and see if she follows through. If she doesn't, it's likely that she's not interested.

Yeah, desperate doesn't begin to describe it

And I agree with this answer....go call another girl in the meantime

 

[andee]

the whole miscommunication thing was that we never specified a place to meet and well the library doesnt have the best cellphone signall strength so we couldnt find eachother. and she did call asking me where i was, but i didnt get her missed call/text until long after i was done studying.

yeah, it was pretty bad i know; it was just a bad day for me. but i'm still learning. i wish she told me earlier that she had things to study for earlier rather than "im too tired to go to the gym". but hey, we all make mistakes.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Saying "no thanks, i got things to do" may be the best option in other cases but in your situation i really don't think it would sound even remotely credible since you seem to keep calling her so often... She flaked on you and you called her TWICE that night?! This is not something you should be doing...

I'd say don't respond to the "i shall make it up to u ok carino?" and see if she follows through. If she doesn't, it's likely that she's not interested.

I agree with this, i feel like if you accept a counter offer it makes it look like you have no life