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vagrant said:Even if she slept with other guys after? But you had sex yourself with other chicks.
The paranoid thing is new. I guess I'm all stressed out from school and work and the last thing I needed to see was my girl talking to another guy, commenting guys on facebook, which she tells me she hangs out with in school. It kind of throws me off track thinking very negative about where the relationship is going.Charlie Gordon said:You ask a very personal question and what works for me might not work for you. I love my ex to death and although we seldom run into one another, we are still friendly. If things did not work out with my current girlfriend, it would be very tempting to look for comfort and acceptance from my ex, but there were obviously some things that did not work out about the relationship or she would not be my ex. I'd anticipate pain and regret on both of our parts, and so no, I would not go back to her... okay, not without some kicking and fighting, but it would be in our better interests to meet new people.
The sex bit is only partially relevant. I wouldn't expect a woman to retire from sex after our relationship ended. Seriously, unless she started to seriously disrespect herself, the sex part would be irrelevant to none-of-my-business depending on what I wanted out of the relationship. Woman are just as sex-crazed as men and their minds are just as "dirty" as ours. Just remember when you catch your girl looking at another guy or girl that you were probably checking someone out yourself a minute earlier. If there's supposed to be no cheating in the relationship and there's no cheating, then everybody's happy. Expect that your partner has had sex before you and will continue to have sex soon after you are gone. Some people have more of it from more partners than others. The good news is that you can ask your partner about her beliefs and find somebody who values what you value.
Being paranoid in a relationship is terrible. If paranoia and distrust seem to play a central role in the relationship for three years, then I suspect that will not change. Do you tend to feel this way in relationships or does she seem to bring these feelings out of you more than any other woman you've been with?
Thanks for the wonderful advice.Juan_Man said:If you are thinking about getting back together with her, then you better learn to deal with your trust issues. Girls talk to other guys all the time, sometimes to be friendly but also because she may have a little crush on him. Deal with it. As long as she is not consistently seeing one guy all the time, then you have nothing to worry about. As far as her having sex with other guys after the breakup, realize that she has her needs just like you do and if it bothers you that much then just think about all of your own successful sexual conquests after the breakup to cure your insecurity issues. I know how you feel but you have to change your mindset if you expect the relationship to last.