Isn't needyness illogical? Don't we all want someone to "need us" and want us so bad that they show it?
People like to bash jerks for not showing emotion or caring for women while some like to throw around the classic quote "caring is creepy."
Men often complain about women hating needy guys. Wouldn't a woman naturally want a man that shows her that he truly cares and needs her?
I think you cannot understand needyness until you experience it yourself.
I had a woman who gave gave me a mouthful of jealousy and needyness (and caring). Accused me of seeing other women, blasted me for not answering the phone, said she needs to talk to me, needs to hear my voice bla bla bla.
She showed me huge amounts of emotion, feeling, needyness at that moment and while I knew at that moment that I had her on the palm of my hand I ALSO LOST ALL ATTRACTION FOR HER!
It was the strangest thing imaginable to me. I couldn't logically explain it. I always wanted to find a woman that would truly love and want me yet when I found her IT SCARED THE HELL OUT OF ME!
It was so illogical to me because as men we are supposed to want a woman to protect, to need us. It's in our genetic makeup to want a female to need us. It makes us feel good to feel needed by a woman.
But instead of feeling loved I felt as a man that was trying to be controlled (her jealousy accusations) rather than having a woman in love fighting for our relationship. I felt a huge threat to my freedom as I realized how much this woman needed me. All of these emotions go against the logic of the male provider role/protector/needing to be needed by a woman feeling that we are all supposed to want.
Maybe i'm just not apt to deal with the human emotion of "love" and i'm just bound to jump from woman to woman, short term relationship after short term relationship for the rest of my life. Maybe i'm just cold. I can imagine most men would be turned on by a woman mad with righteous jealousy and love right??
This little incident still haunts me till this day. In fact I bet I would still be banging her if she had not shown me so much feeling and emotion (I kicked her to the curb after banging her 1 more time after that). Gave her the friend card then deleted her from my life.
LESSON TAUGHT: That incident showed me a bit of how a woman feels when a guy shows "needyness" or too much feeling. I have bowed myself to try to show even less emotion/less caring to women after that incident. Once you experience a powerful burst of needyness you will understand how it can be so un-attractive (and so ilogical) at the same time.
People like to bash jerks for not showing emotion or caring for women while some like to throw around the classic quote "caring is creepy."
Men often complain about women hating needy guys. Wouldn't a woman naturally want a man that shows her that he truly cares and needs her?
I think you cannot understand needyness until you experience it yourself.
I had a woman who gave gave me a mouthful of jealousy and needyness (and caring). Accused me of seeing other women, blasted me for not answering the phone, said she needs to talk to me, needs to hear my voice bla bla bla.
She showed me huge amounts of emotion, feeling, needyness at that moment and while I knew at that moment that I had her on the palm of my hand I ALSO LOST ALL ATTRACTION FOR HER!
It was the strangest thing imaginable to me. I couldn't logically explain it. I always wanted to find a woman that would truly love and want me yet when I found her IT SCARED THE HELL OUT OF ME!
It was so illogical to me because as men we are supposed to want a woman to protect, to need us. It's in our genetic makeup to want a female to need us. It makes us feel good to feel needed by a woman.
But instead of feeling loved I felt as a man that was trying to be controlled (her jealousy accusations) rather than having a woman in love fighting for our relationship. I felt a huge threat to my freedom as I realized how much this woman needed me. All of these emotions go against the logic of the male provider role/protector/needing to be needed by a woman feeling that we are all supposed to want.
Maybe i'm just not apt to deal with the human emotion of "love" and i'm just bound to jump from woman to woman, short term relationship after short term relationship for the rest of my life. Maybe i'm just cold. I can imagine most men would be turned on by a woman mad with righteous jealousy and love right??
This little incident still haunts me till this day. In fact I bet I would still be banging her if she had not shown me so much feeling and emotion (I kicked her to the curb after banging her 1 more time after that). Gave her the friend card then deleted her from my life.
LESSON TAUGHT: That incident showed me a bit of how a woman feels when a guy shows "needyness" or too much feeling. I have bowed myself to try to show even less emotion/less caring to women after that incident. Once you experience a powerful burst of needyness you will understand how it can be so un-attractive (and so ilogical) at the same time.