Aloha fellow Don Juaners.. I have been meaning to post this but I have been procrastinating but I figured that one of you guys needs to hear this. I started reading this board about 2 months ago and the changes in my action has about tripled but not to say that it does not come with a new set of things to tackle.
I feel that I am a handsome guy with a good physique but women seldom noticed that first. (That is what I was putting my all stock in) If they were attracted intitailly, 3 minutes later they were turned off because I had the cool of a 13 year old virgin who has a bad case of sweaty palm. I read the equivalent of a 200 page novel in posts on this site and others that basically says "Chill out, let her pursue you!" and "Fake it till you make it!". I was like yeah, sure.. I struggle for years and that is the best that they can come up with!? It works.. Irony huh?
I have found that women judge you based on YOUR opinion of yourself and the type of women you date or associate with. A loser dates ugly/skanky chicks. If a woman is interested she ALWAYS wants to meet your friends or asks for pics of your female friends/ex'es to gauge your confidence level. If you know ugly chicks/geeks skip that stage
(Next tidbit of info) I thought that there was a scale from 1-10 too but I have learned that there is a 1-4 scale that women use. 1=ugly/skanky/dirty, 2=average, 3=very attractive/few flaws and 4=flawless/could be on T.V looks. Good news is that 90% of women will go for an average guy if he is confident. Before you get discouraged, I want to let you know that you can take basic steps to show that you are confident, strong and she NEEDS to be with YOU. 1) Approach her with no fear, with the same cool as if she is an acquaintence that you met at so and so's party but you can't remember her name. 2) Be blunt but tactful, don't pester. Make small talk about anything her pretty dress, her poodle, her armful of groceries, her newborn, her shoes, the long line that the two of you are standing in.. ANYTHING just say something. Women are conversation oriented so they will most likely be happy to talk about anything as long as you don't seem like a loser, stalker, weirdo etc. 3) She WILL test you in the first 48 hours of meeting you to see if you are wimp material (see: I just want to be friends) or a stud she is interested in if she agrees to talk with you and seems genuinely interested. She will usually try and disrespect you, keep you on hold for 10 minutes, talk about her ex-boyfriends, ask you what happened in your prior relationships (for clues that you are a pushover, a weirdo or cheat) or just play hard to get. Tell her on no uncertain terms that you don't want to hear it, will not hold or it isin't any of her business. With most younger women the excitement is taking your self-respect, putting you into an awkward position or controlling you in some way.
Sounds sick but people are sick. The point is I am doing it and it works. Women want a man who they have no hope in controlling but he is still nice to them. If she says call me at 5pm and you call at 5:00pm you have lost it. You are now predictable. Call at 5:37, 5:59, 6:13. If she gives you alot of lip about calling "late" then chances are she is controlling. The average woman does not expect a man to do exactly hat she suggests unless it is showing up on time for a date. Chances are that she will be busy if you call or you don't talk that long because all of the excitement is gone because she told you what to do and you did it. I say that I will call and sometimes don't call until 3 days later and resume the conversation as if nothing has happened. They may say that they are "mad" that I didn't call but make it seem like not that much time has passed. If you sound like you have been waiing by the phone she will definately think you are a loser with about 2 phone numbers to chose from. Now with my newfound confidence I have gotten every number that I set out to get for the last 4 weeks (making it a record of 31 and 0 you will need them because you have to toss alot of chicks to the wastebasket) I talk with a slight arrogance in your voice like.. "Yeah, I can talk for a few minutes but I can really be doing other things" Not saying out loud but be ready to get off of the phone even if it with a hot chick if she gets silent/boring. Rule #1 she should be doing most of the talking anyway. When you get bored, tell her so, ask to talk about something else, say furry monkeys are stupid if you think so but find ways to connect with her too if you both like Jay Z, Van Halen or going to the zoo.She may say that you are a jerk.. but, She will respect you for not being a yes man and will definately want to call you back. Most women that I talk to assume that I have alot of women around me or that I am a ladies man.. Little did they know I was just faking it till I made it.. I had a few but I was scared to lose them so they were basically going nowhere. If you ever honestly see a woman as your equal she is disinterested because most women feel that men are more valuable that they are, look at a woman's search for a man to make her life complete. Most women believe it deep-down but will never admit it. They are yelling that they don't need us us and etc.. but we never mentioned the subject. Their mind tells them that. The war on feminism is not against men but actually on a woman's view of herself.. It is an internal issue. Men don't dream about being married and having kids... and that's it, unless we are needy losers. Not to say that companionship is bad, it isin't, but making it the end all of your existence is. Now I am on the next level of my game.. Updates to come soon.
I feel that I am a handsome guy with a good physique but women seldom noticed that first. (That is what I was putting my all stock in) If they were attracted intitailly, 3 minutes later they were turned off because I had the cool of a 13 year old virgin who has a bad case of sweaty palm. I read the equivalent of a 200 page novel in posts on this site and others that basically says "Chill out, let her pursue you!" and "Fake it till you make it!". I was like yeah, sure.. I struggle for years and that is the best that they can come up with!? It works.. Irony huh?
I have found that women judge you based on YOUR opinion of yourself and the type of women you date or associate with. A loser dates ugly/skanky chicks. If a woman is interested she ALWAYS wants to meet your friends or asks for pics of your female friends/ex'es to gauge your confidence level. If you know ugly chicks/geeks skip that stage
(Next tidbit of info) I thought that there was a scale from 1-10 too but I have learned that there is a 1-4 scale that women use. 1=ugly/skanky/dirty, 2=average, 3=very attractive/few flaws and 4=flawless/could be on T.V looks. Good news is that 90% of women will go for an average guy if he is confident. Before you get discouraged, I want to let you know that you can take basic steps to show that you are confident, strong and she NEEDS to be with YOU. 1) Approach her with no fear, with the same cool as if she is an acquaintence that you met at so and so's party but you can't remember her name. 2) Be blunt but tactful, don't pester. Make small talk about anything her pretty dress, her poodle, her armful of groceries, her newborn, her shoes, the long line that the two of you are standing in.. ANYTHING just say something. Women are conversation oriented so they will most likely be happy to talk about anything as long as you don't seem like a loser, stalker, weirdo etc. 3) She WILL test you in the first 48 hours of meeting you to see if you are wimp material (see: I just want to be friends) or a stud she is interested in if she agrees to talk with you and seems genuinely interested. She will usually try and disrespect you, keep you on hold for 10 minutes, talk about her ex-boyfriends, ask you what happened in your prior relationships (for clues that you are a pushover, a weirdo or cheat) or just play hard to get. Tell her on no uncertain terms that you don't want to hear it, will not hold or it isin't any of her business. With most younger women the excitement is taking your self-respect, putting you into an awkward position or controlling you in some way.
Sounds sick but people are sick. The point is I am doing it and it works. Women want a man who they have no hope in controlling but he is still nice to them. If she says call me at 5pm and you call at 5:00pm you have lost it. You are now predictable. Call at 5:37, 5:59, 6:13. If she gives you alot of lip about calling "late" then chances are she is controlling. The average woman does not expect a man to do exactly hat she suggests unless it is showing up on time for a date. Chances are that she will be busy if you call or you don't talk that long because all of the excitement is gone because she told you what to do and you did it. I say that I will call and sometimes don't call until 3 days later and resume the conversation as if nothing has happened. They may say that they are "mad" that I didn't call but make it seem like not that much time has passed. If you sound like you have been waiing by the phone she will definately think you are a loser with about 2 phone numbers to chose from. Now with my newfound confidence I have gotten every number that I set out to get for the last 4 weeks (making it a record of 31 and 0 you will need them because you have to toss alot of chicks to the wastebasket) I talk with a slight arrogance in your voice like.. "Yeah, I can talk for a few minutes but I can really be doing other things" Not saying out loud but be ready to get off of the phone even if it with a hot chick if she gets silent/boring. Rule #1 she should be doing most of the talking anyway. When you get bored, tell her so, ask to talk about something else, say furry monkeys are stupid if you think so but find ways to connect with her too if you both like Jay Z, Van Halen or going to the zoo.She may say that you are a jerk.. but, She will respect you for not being a yes man and will definately want to call you back. Most women that I talk to assume that I have alot of women around me or that I am a ladies man.. Little did they know I was just faking it till I made it.. I had a few but I was scared to lose them so they were basically going nowhere. If you ever honestly see a woman as your equal she is disinterested because most women feel that men are more valuable that they are, look at a woman's search for a man to make her life complete. Most women believe it deep-down but will never admit it. They are yelling that they don't need us us and etc.. but we never mentioned the subject. Their mind tells them that. The war on feminism is not against men but actually on a woman's view of herself.. It is an internal issue. Men don't dream about being married and having kids... and that's it, unless we are needy losers. Not to say that companionship is bad, it isin't, but making it the end all of your existence is. Now I am on the next level of my game.. Updates to come soon.
