What if all you’ve ever met are low to medium interest women?

[Robert28]

I’ve been thinking back over my entire dating history and history with women in general and in my entire life I can’t think of a single girl who ever had high interest in me right off the bat. Most of my experience is they’re either low interest or medium interest but they both eventually turn into no interest. I’m talking about girls I want to date, I’ve had women I wasn’t interested in be highly interested in me. I’ve just never had the game to turn low interest into medium interest and medium interest into high interest. Anyone else experience this? I can honestly say I’ve never had a girl be in love with me that I know of.

 

[Kotaix]

Same here, I've had 4 or 5 women be high interest but I just wasn't interested except for the last one. I did end up getting into an LTR with a high interest woman (current gf) and it's night and day.

I don't think you can turn a woman into genuine high interest, she'll either settle for you if you have higher interest, or she'll use you until she can find someone she has high interest in.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You can’t “turn” low interest into medium interest, or medium interest into high interest. You can bang them with extreme luck and effort. However, you can only ever be a placeholder.

Men, date women that already like you!

 

[devilkingx2]

Every normal or below average guy has experienced this. I've done countless approaches over the last year and I came to realize that I had almost never seen high interest in person.

High interest women will ask you on the first date after a day or two of texting before you ask her out.

 

[corrector]

Its a typical normie experience. Zero interest or high interest is the least stressful. With zero interest you can zone out and give up without feeling loss or regret, with high interest she makes it easy to progrsss with her. But the low and medium interest waste your time, mess with your emotions and set you up for eventual heartbreak, make you feel like you have something until you find out she went with a chad behind your back abd was using you.

Initial high interest can drop to low interest on a dime though.

 

[CornbreadFed]

You are mistaking low interest women for medium interest women. A low interest woman will not go on a date with you period and pretty much be upfront about nothing happening between y’all. A medium interest women will give you a shot, but you are competing against other guys. You could’ve just not made the cut which is completely normal or she might not be socially available. A high interest woman will move you to the front of the list and give you more at bats than normal, but you can still strike out by being an idiot.

There is also a flip-flop interest woman where she’s just using you to fill a void such as a breakup, her high interest guy is playing her so she needs someone to soak up the tears, and etc. This should not be confused as high interest whatsoever.

 

[Robert28]

You can’t “turn” low interest into medium interest, or medium interest into high interest. You can bang them with extreme luck and effort. However, you can only ever be a placeholder.

Men, date women that already like you!

Medium interest women like you, but it never lasts. If you’re telling guys to only date high interest women they’re going to be waiting a long time or they’re going to have to date girls they aren’t interested in.

 

[Robert28]

You are mistaking low interest women for medium interest women. A low interest woman will not go on a date with you period and pretty much be upfront about nothing happening between y’all. A medium interest women will give you a shot, but you are competing against other guys. You could’ve just not made the cut which is completely normal or she might not be socially available. A high interest woman will move you to the front of the list and give you more at bats than normal, but you can still strike out by being an idiot.

There is also a flip-flop interest woman where she’s just using you to fill a void such as a breakup, her high interest guy is playing her so she needs someone to soak up the tears, and etc. This should not be confused as high interest whatsoever.

I’ve experienced the last paragraph ALOT. That’s like 80% of my dating history right there.lol

 

[EyeBRollin]

Medium interest women like you, but it never lasts.

Yes. Hence, placeholder. They like you until Chad comes along. These are the broads that are “hot and cold,” and cheat on you. These women have low respect for you.

 

[Kotaix]

Every normal or below average guy has experienced this. I've done countless approaches over the last year and I came to realize that I had almost never seen high interest in person.

High interest women will ask you on the first date after a day or two of texting before you ask her out.

How often do you get women looking at you and/or smiling at you? At this point I think that is enough of a sign that a woman is high interest.

Last night I caught a woman in the gym looking at me multiple times. And... she's not my type, of course.

 

[devilkingx2]

How often do you get women looking at you and/or smiling at you? At this point I think that is enough of a sign that a woman is high interest.

Last night I caught a woman in the gym looking at me multiple times. And... she's not my type, of course.

One time I was walking on the street past a hot blonde who was standing next to her boyfriend, she was looking at me so I smiled and she smiled right back until I passed.

I've also had a couple of women full on stare at me for an entire train ride. But I didn't do those approaches because I would have to get up and walk across the subway car

Once in a while I get girls staring at me. Usually they only smile after I remember to smile (although once in a while they smile as soon as I stare back)

 

[The Duke]

If all you ever meet are low to medium interest women, then something needs to change. It probably has something to do with your SMV relative to her's or how you communicate with her.

 

[HaleyBaron]

One time I was walking on the street past a hot blonde who was standing next to her boyfriend, she was looking at me so I smiled and she smiled right back until I passed.

I've also had a couple of women full on stare at me for an entire train ride. But I didn't do those approaches because I would have to get up and walk across the subway car

Once in a while I get girls staring at me. Usually they only smile after I remember to smile (although once in a while they smile as soon as I stare back)

Young girls especially are like this. I look like an athlete or model to them, so they are easily entranced. I get 30+ women looking at me, too. They are more experienced so they tend to glance rather than a full stare, but nothing draws a woman's gaze more than a man she likes. The world for good looking men is quite different.

Women can easily feign low interest, especially if they are insecure. If you are valuable man, there is no such thing as a low interest woman.

 

[devilkingx2]

You are mistaking low interest women for medium interest women. A low interest woman will not go on a date with you period and pretty much be upfront about nothing happening between y’all. A medium interest women will give you a shot, but you are competing against other guys. You could’ve just not made the cut which is completely normal or she might not be socially available. A high interest woman will move you to the front of the list and give you more at bats than normal, but you can still strike out by being an idiot.

There is also a flip-flop interest woman where she’s just using you to fill a void such as a breakup, her high interest guy is playing her so she needs someone to soak up the tears, and etc. This should not be confused as high interest whatsoever.

I'd break it down like this-

No interest: you can't even get her number or a single text back or you get an outright rejection.

Low Interest: you have to do 100% of the work and put in tons of effort for slow progress. This would be the girl you have to double or triple text to keep the conversation going. Expect to get flaked on the first few times you make plans. More likely to block you than date you.

Medium interest: this would be the standard dating experience. Up to one flake, 3-4 dates for sex, don't go too slow or you'll get friendzoned, don't go too fast or her ASD will call you a fvckboy, etc.

High interest: this is the holy grail of dating. You can get her on a date immediately and get her into bed quickly and smoothly. No flaking, ghosting, drama, time wasting, excessive money spent, etc. She might even do the work for you (ask you for the date, offer her number, want to go back to your place, etc.)

 

[Kotaix]

Young girls especially are like this. I look like an athlete or model to them, so they are easily entranced. I get 30+ women looking at me, too. They are more experienced so they tend to glance rather than a full stare, but nothing draws a woman's gaze more than a man she likes. The world for good looking men is quite different.

Women can easily feign low interest, especially if they are insecure. If you are valuable man, there is no such thing as a low interest woman.

Women readily feign high interest, especially if they're gold diggers. One of my best friends had to have a legal intervention to prevent his father from leaving his considerable fortune to an escort he hired and he swore up and down loved him for who he was.

And that's before you get into the fact that men will delude themselves into thinking that a woman likes them, when in reality they're just projecting their own attraction for her onto her.

Low interest women want attention/validation. High interest women want your cvm.

 

[devilkingx2]

If all you ever meet are low to medium interest women, then something needs to change. It probably has something to do with your SMV relative to her's or how you communicate with her.

Agreed, you either need to improve your game or looksmax.

Although it's important to do a suitable number of approaches to be able to come to a conclusion. Many guys skip that step.

Medium interest women like you, but it never lasts. If you’re telling guys to only date high interest women they’re going to be waiting a long time or they’re going to have to date girls they aren’t interested in.

Realistically a man will have to date medium interest women too, but ideally he'll one day reach a level where he has multiple high interest women. Any man who has to settle for low interest has to do more self improvement and more approaches.

You can’t “turn” low interest into medium interest, or medium interest into high interest. You can bang them with extreme luck and effort. However, you can only ever be a placeholder.

Men, date women that already like you!

I'd say you can improve a woman's interest level but only early on. She doesn't have to fall in love with you at first sight or drool over your looks and opening line, but if she isn't quickly warming up to you in the beginning stages, you're wasting time.

Young girls especially are like this. I look like an athlete or model to them, so they are easily entranced. I get 30+ women looking at me, too. They are more experienced so they tend to glance rather than a full stare, but nothing draws a woman's gaze more than a man she likes. The world for good looking men is quite different.

Women can easily feign low interest, especially if they are insecure. If you are valuable man, there is no such thing as a low interest woman.

I wouldn't take it this far but I see your point. It's a good mindset to have but most guys should first learn when to cut their losses. Anything is possible, but it's not always worthwhile.

 

[Stanley]

I've never bothered with a girl that isn't of high interest. This was result of indifference though and the situations in which something went on between the girl and I was because of propinquity and luck. When approaching it is a toss up, but if you are fortunate to have the girl come on to you or you build rapport with time high interest is easy to spot.

If the girl isn't throwing herself at me.
If i'm not enjoying her company from the get go
If she is cold and aloof and not warm and inviting
If she is boring and not engaging
If she feigns interest and plays games in excess

I bail. I only want to hang around fun girls who are good company. I probably lose out on some tail, but whatever.

 

[Murk]

Low/medium interest isn’t worth it, they are frustrating and time consuming. Only go for high interest women that make it easy for you to engage them.

 

[corrector]

You are mistaking low interest women for medium interest women. A low interest woman will not go on a date with you period and pretty much be upfront about nothing happening between y’all. A medium interest women will give you a shot, but you are competing against other guys. You could’ve just not made the cut which is completely normal or she might not be socially available. A high interest woman will move you to the front of the list and give you more at bats than normal, but you can still strike out by being an idiot.

There is also a flip-flop interest woman where she’s just using you to fill a void such as a breakup, her high interest guy is playing her so she needs someone to soak up the tears, and etc. This should not be confused as high interest whatsoever.

Nah, that is a zero interest women. A low interest women would at least flake on a date. She will say something came up and wont counter offer. If you are persistent enough and dont have a bad attitude then maybe you might eventually land a date and get ghosted afterwards.

 

[The Duke]

I'd break it down like this-

No interest: you can't even get her number or a single text back or you get an outright rejection.

Low Interest: you have to do 100% of the work and put in tons of effort for slow progress. This would be the girl you have to double or triple text to keep the conversation going. Expect to get flaked on the first few times you make plans. More likely to block you than date you.

Medium interest: this would be the standard dating experience. Up to one flake, 3-4 dates for sex, don't go too slow or you'll get friendzoned, don't go too fast or her ASD will call you a fvckboy, etc.

High interest: this is the holy grail of dating. You can get her on a date immediately and get her into bed quickly and smoothly. No flaking, ghosting, drama, time wasting, excessive money spent, etc. She might even do the work for you (ask you for the date, offer her number, want to go back to your place, etc.)

I'm glad you defined the terms. When I first started coming to SoSuave in 2008 I was the guy that experienced a lot of low interest and some medium interest. Slowly, I increased my SMV. I recognized the low interest and stopped entertaining them. I put up with the medium interest to get me thru a dry spell and finally started getting girls that showed high interest. The last 4yrs of me being single, it was almost all high interest women.

You guys need to take stock of your own SMV. Be honest with yourself. Hold yourself accountable. Put in the work. Thats the only way you get to be a top 30% guy. Lots of doors open once you make it.