Hi, I'm a long time lurker and I'm very interested in the general ideology espoused on this board- that feminism and other social/legal changes have given women a huge amount of sexual freedom at the expense of men, that men who in the past would of found suitable partners are now consigned to loneliness and frustration, that young women in particular now feel free to spend their time chasing after the most attractive guys, while less appealing guys are cast to the sidelines, that we are returning to a disastrous "rule of the jungle", etc.
So I thought I would share my particular situation with you guys and see what you think of it.
I'm a 26 year old woman, generally considered attractive. Currently I am going out with a man who, until he met me, was completely homosexual and had no interest in women. I was very attracted to him so I convinced him to sleep with me, he liked it, and eventually we ended up in a long term relationship. It's an open relationship, and he occasionally hooks up with other guys, but honestly since I'm getting it from him I feel no desire to sleep with other men. I'm very happy with this relationship.
My question for you guys is, do you consider it an abdication of my civic duty to devote myself to a (mostly) homosexual man when there are so many lonely straight guys out there? Instead of pursuing the man I was attracted to, should I have suppressed my interest in him and looked for a straight guy who I might not have found as attractive, because the straight guy "needs" heterosexual sex in a way my boyfriend doesn't?
Also, would you guys prefer that we live in a society where I was shamed or stigmatized for my interest in a gay man, and pushed instead to date or sleep with a more "suitable" heterosexual?
If you have any more questions about the situation, I'm happy to answer them.
So I thought I would share my particular situation with you guys and see what you think of it.
I'm a 26 year old woman, generally considered attractive. Currently I am going out with a man who, until he met me, was completely homosexual and had no interest in women. I was very attracted to him so I convinced him to sleep with me, he liked it, and eventually we ended up in a long term relationship. It's an open relationship, and he occasionally hooks up with other guys, but honestly since I'm getting it from him I feel no desire to sleep with other men. I'm very happy with this relationship.
My question for you guys is, do you consider it an abdication of my civic duty to devote myself to a (mostly) homosexual man when there are so many lonely straight guys out there? Instead of pursuing the man I was attracted to, should I have suppressed my interest in him and looked for a straight guy who I might not have found as attractive, because the straight guy "needs" heterosexual sex in a way my boyfriend doesn't?
Also, would you guys prefer that we live in a society where I was shamed or stigmatized for my interest in a gay man, and pushed instead to date or sleep with a more "suitable" heterosexual?
If you have any more questions about the situation, I'm happy to answer them.