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OK first things first, if you haven’t already done so, check out this awesome thread by Squirrels. It’s a SS classic and was THE post that made me choose SS over all the other forums when things went wrong with a girl last year. This post rings so true for me, and seems to for many other guys as well. I’ve learnt this all through hard experience and observation.
The basic idea of it is that you game a girl, everything goes well, she’s high IL, you have the upper hand, etc. YOU HAVE HER! SHE’S YOURS!
The problem comes when you soon begin to fear losing her and revert to a needy AFC. You become desperate to hold on to something you never really expected to get in the first place. Predictably, she hits the road and goes for another guy.
The first page of Squirrels’ thread is spot on, I can’t fault it. However, I have to respectfully disagree with the second page.
This attempts to deal with the solution to the problem. Squirrels, the same as many others, explains the way “Naturals” pass the test is to basically have very strong inner game. To believe you deserve the girl. All you have to do is have natural confidence. Don’t be afraid of rejection.
But is this really the solution? Inner game is essential, yes. We should all strive to believe in ourselves and be confident. There’s no doubting that.
However, this is not the way “Naturals” get and keep girls. Naturals do have strong inner game. They do believe they deserve the girl. They do have natural confidence. They’re not afraid of rejection.
But why is this? It’s because they have something else so important that they can have that confidence: OPTIONS
The basis of their confidence is REAL OPTIONS. They actually have other girls or the absolute 100% certainty they can get them. I’m not talking about a mindset of “there are 3 billion other women”, etc. They don’t BELIEVE they can get other girls. They KNOW they can get other girls, beyond a shadow of a doubt. They have back-up plans and other girls that want them.
If you’re using games and tricks you can GET the girl. If you want a one night stand then it’s ok. But you cannot “fake it til you make it” to KEEP a girl. One day she’ll throw you a major sh!t test at you and you WILL fail. If you pretend to be something you're not, she WILL find out. It's just a matter of time.
Like Pook said, “Imitation is suicide”.
She WILL sniff you out. Women are biologically designed to test you til the end of time. Why? To see how much of a man you are? NO – it’s to see how desperate for her you are. She tests you to find out if you have options. She wants to know if you’re attractive to other girls, because that’s even more important to her than your looks.
You actually need to have abundance, not just an abundance mentality. You cannot trick your brain into believing you have options when you don’t.
So what’s the solution to keeping a girl interested? Get real options.
How do you do that? Raise your value to become a more naturally attractive person.
And how do you do that? Years of hard work and self-improvement.
There are no quick fixes and short cuts in this life, despite what some seduction gurus try and tell you. If you want to create attraction and get a quick lay then tricks and games will help enormously. But they won’t get you a girlfriend or even let you keep a fvck buddy for very long.
I know I’m probably preaching to the choir here and I know it’s all been said a million times before. That’s what makes this place so different from the rest. But it seems it can never be said enough.
The basic idea of it is that you game a girl, everything goes well, she’s high IL, you have the upper hand, etc. YOU HAVE HER! SHE’S YOURS!
The problem comes when you soon begin to fear losing her and revert to a needy AFC. You become desperate to hold on to something you never really expected to get in the first place. Predictably, she hits the road and goes for another guy.
The first page of Squirrels’ thread is spot on, I can’t fault it. However, I have to respectfully disagree with the second page.
This attempts to deal with the solution to the problem. Squirrels, the same as many others, explains the way “Naturals” pass the test is to basically have very strong inner game. To believe you deserve the girl. All you have to do is have natural confidence. Don’t be afraid of rejection.
But is this really the solution? Inner game is essential, yes. We should all strive to believe in ourselves and be confident. There’s no doubting that.
However, this is not the way “Naturals” get and keep girls. Naturals do have strong inner game. They do believe they deserve the girl. They do have natural confidence. They’re not afraid of rejection.
But why is this? It’s because they have something else so important that they can have that confidence: OPTIONS
The basis of their confidence is REAL OPTIONS. They actually have other girls or the absolute 100% certainty they can get them. I’m not talking about a mindset of “there are 3 billion other women”, etc. They don’t BELIEVE they can get other girls. They KNOW they can get other girls, beyond a shadow of a doubt. They have back-up plans and other girls that want them.
If you’re using games and tricks you can GET the girl. If you want a one night stand then it’s ok. But you cannot “fake it til you make it” to KEEP a girl. One day she’ll throw you a major sh!t test at you and you WILL fail. If you pretend to be something you're not, she WILL find out. It's just a matter of time.
Like Pook said, “Imitation is suicide”.
She WILL sniff you out. Women are biologically designed to test you til the end of time. Why? To see how much of a man you are? NO – it’s to see how desperate for her you are. She tests you to find out if you have options. She wants to know if you’re attractive to other girls, because that’s even more important to her than your looks.
You actually need to have abundance, not just an abundance mentality. You cannot trick your brain into believing you have options when you don’t.
So what’s the solution to keeping a girl interested? Get real options.
How do you do that? Raise your value to become a more naturally attractive person.
And how do you do that? Years of hard work and self-improvement.
There are no quick fixes and short cuts in this life, despite what some seduction gurus try and tell you. If you want to create attraction and get a quick lay then tricks and games will help enormously. But they won’t get you a girlfriend or even let you keep a fvck buddy for very long.
I know I’m probably preaching to the choir here and I know it’s all been said a million times before. That’s what makes this place so different from the rest. But it seems it can never be said enough.