Konada
Master Don Juan
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I reflected on this quite recently and I came to a realization that this world is indeed a self absorbed, cruel world.
Let us begin by distinguishing between the two types of nice guys.
THE 'NICE' GUY
Ah the infamous nice guy we always talk about. Guys like this do nice things to win favours of others, going out of their way to help others. For example, cancelling plans to help a girl of interest to choose what shoes to wear. Usually guys like this are kept around for all the wrong reasons.
THE GENUINE NICE GUY
The type of dude who is nice to everyone out of goodwill. Does his best to help others when they need help. Not selfish but selfless. Knows when to say no to requests if they interfere too much with his life. Generally well-liked by others but again for all the wrong reasons.
So which nice guy are you? IT DOES NOT MATTER. Because there is no room for kindness in this world! Everyone you know, every single fvcking being you know (except your family) is acknowleging your presence because of personal gain. Why do you think people be friends with nice dudes? Because they stand to gain. It is an inherent desire in us to seek pragmatism. In you, in me, in all of us. You may think that being nice because you are shows people you're confident in yourself and what not. The reality is they don't give a flying fvck about you, they look at what you can OFFER them.
I was recently down in the dumps, guess what? Nobody helped me, I was alone. I thought that being a true man for others would allow me to cut through all the shallow people. (I reject when I sense people are taking advantage of me). But I was wrong. Nobody gives a fvck whether you're being kind out of goodwill or out of other reasons. The only thing they want from you is YOUR HELP. YOU ARE A TOOL TO THEM. I'm sorry but this is life for me, I may be the decently popular guy, but nobody gives a fvck when I'm down in the dumps. Its a cruel world out there, your kindness will never be remembered but only beseeched upon in times of need.
Same goes for social proof and whatever. People get attracted to this because they stand to gain from acknowledging your presence. Why do you think girls go screaming over Justin Bieber. Because it gives them value to have seen him personally. Why do you think hobos are one of the most neglected beings on the earth? Because nobody stands to gain anything acknowledging them.
There is no point being nice in this selfish world. Like it or not, its you against the world.
Let us begin by distinguishing between the two types of nice guys.
THE 'NICE' GUY
Ah the infamous nice guy we always talk about. Guys like this do nice things to win favours of others, going out of their way to help others. For example, cancelling plans to help a girl of interest to choose what shoes to wear. Usually guys like this are kept around for all the wrong reasons.
THE GENUINE NICE GUY
The type of dude who is nice to everyone out of goodwill. Does his best to help others when they need help. Not selfish but selfless. Knows when to say no to requests if they interfere too much with his life. Generally well-liked by others but again for all the wrong reasons.
So which nice guy are you? IT DOES NOT MATTER. Because there is no room for kindness in this world! Everyone you know, every single fvcking being you know (except your family) is acknowleging your presence because of personal gain. Why do you think people be friends with nice dudes? Because they stand to gain. It is an inherent desire in us to seek pragmatism. In you, in me, in all of us. You may think that being nice because you are shows people you're confident in yourself and what not. The reality is they don't give a flying fvck about you, they look at what you can OFFER them.
I was recently down in the dumps, guess what? Nobody helped me, I was alone. I thought that being a true man for others would allow me to cut through all the shallow people. (I reject when I sense people are taking advantage of me). But I was wrong. Nobody gives a fvck whether you're being kind out of goodwill or out of other reasons. The only thing they want from you is YOUR HELP. YOU ARE A TOOL TO THEM. I'm sorry but this is life for me, I may be the decently popular guy, but nobody gives a fvck when I'm down in the dumps. Its a cruel world out there, your kindness will never be remembered but only beseeched upon in times of need.
Same goes for social proof and whatever. People get attracted to this because they stand to gain from acknowledging your presence. Why do you think girls go screaming over Justin Bieber. Because it gives them value to have seen him personally. Why do you think hobos are one of the most neglected beings on the earth? Because nobody stands to gain anything acknowledging them.
There is no point being nice in this selfish world. Like it or not, its you against the world.