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bradd80 said:
Theeawesomest,
I suspect you are a young woman who has idealized expectations of life and what it should entail. You're probably in love and about to get married and you have all these idealistic thoughts about how nice your life is going to be. And that's great, enthusiasm is good. The reality is, 70% of marriages end in divorce, and many of the 30% of the rest are very miserable, unhappy marriages. The chances of you having a nice long lasting marriage with a traditional family, statistically speaking, are very very slim.
I suspect very much that your marriage will also be in that bracket, given your swearing, insults, unfounded accusations, and general failure to communicate properly as evidenced by your post.
There is no sense in "sucking up childishness" in a marriage if everyone is miserable and unhappy. Often the children suffer even more in such an environment. Armchair quarterbacking is so easy these days, but once you're actually in the game it's a far different story regarding how you (and even more importantly others) act.
You're young and immature right now and still have a lot to experience, but life will soon show you that it doesn't always end up the way you want it to - ie happy marriage, happy kids, parents who stay together. Instead of arguing with me and telling me I'm wrong and "only meeting the wrong girls" come back in 20 years and let us know if you're still together with your current fiancé and how things have went.
By the way, all the guys here will appreciate the fact that your post is a great reminder of the kind of women we men have to deal with when considering marriage: when discussing a topic, we are met with insults, swearing, put downs, and blame.
I think every guy here can relate to that, and we all know where the real problem lays.
This just shows how much I am RIGHT ABOUT YOU. No, I have NO expectations for life!. I AM BEYOND MY YEARS. MENTALLY! One thing you got right is yes, i'm 22. Life.. I just try and do something with it since I am here. I communicate perfectly fine. You understood what I said .. Did you not? Honestly I'd rather my parents have argued than, not been together. I actually (i like to say was depressed) but, am.. Honestly I see no point in this whole "life" game but, since I have god in my life. Suicide isn't the way.
So I'm just here trying to do something with myself. So I am glad you think i'm so optimistic about it all. And expecting "ohhh imma get married and have such and such number of kids and live in a huge house!" Die old and happy. I personally just believe that "If you really want to do something you will! Period" so that's where you probable got what you thought from. You are probable projecting how you felt when you got married onto this conversation. Like that's how I will feel. I'm a lot more thought out. Once again childish. I "curse" because it is part of the (english) language which I speak. I have no "ohh i shouldn't say this word because it is bad" bone in my body. I am a very opinionated, assertive person. What ever word best expressed what I mean is what I am going to say. Regardless of slang, how it appeals to others or whatever.
There is a time and place of course.
You sound like you've been destroyed by females who've you been with (refer back to what I said to you originally) which is why you have this lazy bull**** ass attitude (in my opinion) about marriage and relationships. You are the one who thought of a happy ending and didn't get it because you should have put more work into yourself and who you were looking to have a life spent with. Instead of being lazy and expect easy work to pay off.
You seem ruined and negative
I am ruined with sense and learned from it.
Here is a few more tips: statistics are bull.. You don't have to be one.
Being called immature isn't an insult? I should be the one crying wolf right?
This whole discussion is an insult to women but, I'm not crying.. (You'd think since your words claim to have depth in them, that you'd have some wisdom or "been around the block so to speak)
So Why are you acting like who ever ruined your expectations was the only type of person in the world?
No, i am not insulting you i am a very honest and vigilante person
I am not mad about these post because i am not all women. I am me.
One in googlian. No explanation needed.
It takes a strong man to handle me and that's what I have.
Once again. I am beyond my years. If you didn't catch that.
One more if you make it this far.. Any intelligent person knows NOT EVERYONE IS THE SAME. Thanks for guessing.