Lord Sidious
Don Juan
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Hi, guys!
I have a situation to let you know and I would like for you to give me your opinion. It´s a little long, but bare with me, ok?
Here it is:
- 4 months ago I met a women. (Just let me tell you first that at that time, unfortunetly I didn´t know SoSuave...). We have the same age (30). We work together (I know, I know...! Bad news...). This is a scenario that will last only until July from the next year, so it´s not a work that will last for many years. Anyaway, back to business: - we met each other at work. There was a tremendous empathy between us from the beginning. We started to talk a lot, begun to have lunch together everyday, flirting, eye contact, stared at me many times at work, invited me to have a snack at her apartment (she lives with 2 friends, girls). All of this on the first 3 weeks of knowing each other. She´s really HOOOOOOT!
I kept the attitude of confidence, funny, eloquent, etc. However I think I could have been a little more indiferent. One thing she always did, was, when she was with me and had to answer the phone, she always said "I´m here with Fabio!". "With Fabio?" - I thought to myself. I didn´t have the chance to know any of her girl friends and she kept saying tho them that she "was with Fabio". She could have said she was with a friend. I guess the talked about me to several of her friends (girls). In my oppinion that was good.
Everything seemed to be on wheels. So, one day, I made a huge mistake (now I know it). During lunch we where talking about each other and I asked her if she was interested. I was honest and let her know I was interested in her. She smiled, took about 5 secs to answer and said "No!". "I´m sorry, I like being with you. I really like chating with you. I like you a lot, but as a friend. Plus, we just met each other. Don´t you think it´s too soon?". I told her "Never mind. Let us just be friends." (with a smile on my face).
Since then I never spoke about that subject to her. I kept a litte farther, but I did not make a huge "cut". When I need to have some laughs with her and other peolpe I did, we had lunch together with other friends, etc. My attitude was "I´m cool without you!". I didn´t show her she was on top. I show indifference, more confidence, more funny, ****y at the point that some other colleagues of mine show really interest on me. The more I "turn her down", the more she keeps her attention on me. I´ve noticed that sometimes she shows some behaviours that APPARENTLY show she´s interested. She stares at me intensely, she stares at my mouth (when we´re talking too close), she DOES NOT avoid my touch, she wants to know my opinions, she wants to now secrets of mine, she really smiles and laughs about sexual jokes I make imagining me and her doing her, I tease her and she likes, etc. Sometimes at work she grabs my arm and walks by my side with me and other peolple see that and she says "Don´t we look fine together?". Plus, several other women that are our coleagues really enjoy me and show interest in me, and I deal well with the situation. So, she already saw that I have "a fan club".
So, here´s my question: - I made a huge mistake. It may be unrecoverable, but, she seems to be (re)gaining interest on me. Do you think it´s possible for me to have something with her? If yes, what do you think I should do? Many times I think about making a move (this time won´t be with words, it would be with ACTIONS), but I kept thinking about the "dump" she gave me. I think a lot that she wants for me to pursue her again, but I keep thinking that it could be just to boost her ego. I won´t be a WUSS one more time. I confess I´m a bit undecided. Should I risk it again?
What do you think about her behaviour? Is it possible for her to be that kind of position "Ooops! I turn him down, but now I´m interested. Should I go after him?" In other words, could her feminine pride making her not to act?
Thanks!
Fabio
I have a situation to let you know and I would like for you to give me your opinion. It´s a little long, but bare with me, ok?
Here it is:
- 4 months ago I met a women. (Just let me tell you first that at that time, unfortunetly I didn´t know SoSuave...). We have the same age (30). We work together (I know, I know...! Bad news...). This is a scenario that will last only until July from the next year, so it´s not a work that will last for many years. Anyaway, back to business: - we met each other at work. There was a tremendous empathy between us from the beginning. We started to talk a lot, begun to have lunch together everyday, flirting, eye contact, stared at me many times at work, invited me to have a snack at her apartment (she lives with 2 friends, girls). All of this on the first 3 weeks of knowing each other. She´s really HOOOOOOT!
I kept the attitude of confidence, funny, eloquent, etc. However I think I could have been a little more indiferent. One thing she always did, was, when she was with me and had to answer the phone, she always said "I´m here with Fabio!". "With Fabio?" - I thought to myself. I didn´t have the chance to know any of her girl friends and she kept saying tho them that she "was with Fabio". She could have said she was with a friend. I guess the talked about me to several of her friends (girls). In my oppinion that was good.
Everything seemed to be on wheels. So, one day, I made a huge mistake (now I know it). During lunch we where talking about each other and I asked her if she was interested. I was honest and let her know I was interested in her. She smiled, took about 5 secs to answer and said "No!". "I´m sorry, I like being with you. I really like chating with you. I like you a lot, but as a friend. Plus, we just met each other. Don´t you think it´s too soon?". I told her "Never mind. Let us just be friends." (with a smile on my face).
Since then I never spoke about that subject to her. I kept a litte farther, but I did not make a huge "cut". When I need to have some laughs with her and other peolpe I did, we had lunch together with other friends, etc. My attitude was "I´m cool without you!". I didn´t show her she was on top. I show indifference, more confidence, more funny, ****y at the point that some other colleagues of mine show really interest on me. The more I "turn her down", the more she keeps her attention on me. I´ve noticed that sometimes she shows some behaviours that APPARENTLY show she´s interested. She stares at me intensely, she stares at my mouth (when we´re talking too close), she DOES NOT avoid my touch, she wants to know my opinions, she wants to now secrets of mine, she really smiles and laughs about sexual jokes I make imagining me and her doing her, I tease her and she likes, etc. Sometimes at work she grabs my arm and walks by my side with me and other peolple see that and she says "Don´t we look fine together?". Plus, several other women that are our coleagues really enjoy me and show interest in me, and I deal well with the situation. So, she already saw that I have "a fan club".
So, here´s my question: - I made a huge mistake. It may be unrecoverable, but, she seems to be (re)gaining interest on me. Do you think it´s possible for me to have something with her? If yes, what do you think I should do? Many times I think about making a move (this time won´t be with words, it would be with ACTIONS), but I kept thinking about the "dump" she gave me. I think a lot that she wants for me to pursue her again, but I keep thinking that it could be just to boost her ego. I won´t be a WUSS one more time. I confess I´m a bit undecided. Should I risk it again?
What do you think about her behaviour? Is it possible for her to be that kind of position "Ooops! I turn him down, but now I´m interested. Should I go after him?" In other words, could her feminine pride making her not to act?
Thanks!
Fabio