hey guys,
wanted to share with you some problems i have, and have your opinion and help, because i know i can count on you, you guys helped me a lot in the past, it's actually a forum i like to share and talk about my problems cause you're honest and tring to help, appreciate that.
i have 2 major problems when it comes to DJing/gaming/seducing/whatever you wanna call it.
first thing first: as some of you may know i was a 'PUA' for 1.5 year, always approaching chick indirect, having a gameplan and always having 'what to say next' because i have a pattern that i used every time i was gaming a chick.
then i swish to become natural and follow this forum, readin the boog of pook/DJBible/articles.
since i swish my way of thinking and my way of being i also changed my mindset, i started the self improvement i never did until this day.
i must say thx to ou guys i really got great result on my self improvement.
but because i was focusing on myself i didnt approach a lot of chick, i did a few times, but not often, and it worked a bit for me, cause i was getting some result.
so since i swish my way of being, i became a bit 'lazy' to approach chick.
for instance, if i see a hot chick in the street, i dont have this mindset of an AFC who's repeating to himself that this chick is too hot to be with him, instead i'm telling myself, 'i dont give a sh!t there's other fish', 'no stress, i'll do it one day', 'i'm too hot for her', or more crazy, i'm starting to look why she's not good enough for me (weird hairstyle, ugly clothes etc.)
it's really driving me crazy cause it perevents me from approaching chicks. like today i saw some great chicks, but always this thoughts that hunting me.
i forced myself a few times, so i started to chat with them but after 2 minutes i have this parasites in my head telling me i won't fvck her because of her teeth/fingers/clothes etc. so im just going away.
i'm closing only in my social circle (a friend of a friend) or if i'm forced to talk to her.
what remedy can i apply to that ???
i can also give great advice to people (i tested that actually)on DJing and they are having great result even if i dont have much experience in the field (as a DJ, not as a 'PUA')
and it's really making me upset with myself.
another one that get into this category is that, when i'm proposing a date to a chick (activity/food/shopping/or no matter what) they decline.
im not saying something like 'hey we should get a coffe sometimes'
but i'm saying 'hey tomorrow i'll be at X street doing some shopping for my cousin's wedding, come with me' and i ALWAYS get a 'oh i cant, i got a lot of things to do blah blah blah'
so basically the only chicks i got (without penetrating - you'll understand when reding the 2nd problem) this last year was: my ex (who's in OI with me), a chick i met in a disguise event (friend of a friend), 2 other in my work (two young teachers, i was forced to talk to them cause i was with them 24/3, as a security guard of school's trip).
and everytime i'm kissing or making out with them is the same day/night, and not in a date of something like that, but if i want to meet up later (because i didnt close the same night/day) to close the deal, it's not working.
second thing: due to religious view, i'm not sleeping with chicks anymore.
i do play with them having some erotics game, fingering, BJ, licking etc. but i'm actually not penetrating anymore.
that's i think messing up with my mind, that sometimes when i'm about to KC or NC (for ONS or sex friendship) i'm thinking on what's gonna be next ? i dont wanna decieve myself by sleeping with her because i wasnt strong enough to hold myself.
recently there was a chick who wanna become sex friend with me.
i said ok but then i thought about this penetration thing.
and when i met her i didnt even kissed her, because i didnt want to get into penetration.
so i'm cloing always in a public place (like clubs/bars, or when i'm at work is in their room where other teachr can get in at any moment)
i'm starting to hate that situation, and i have no idea what to do to help that !
thx for reading
wanted to share with you some problems i have, and have your opinion and help, because i know i can count on you, you guys helped me a lot in the past, it's actually a forum i like to share and talk about my problems cause you're honest and tring to help, appreciate that.
i have 2 major problems when it comes to DJing/gaming/seducing/whatever you wanna call it.
first thing first: as some of you may know i was a 'PUA' for 1.5 year, always approaching chick indirect, having a gameplan and always having 'what to say next' because i have a pattern that i used every time i was gaming a chick.
then i swish to become natural and follow this forum, readin the boog of pook/DJBible/articles.
since i swish my way of thinking and my way of being i also changed my mindset, i started the self improvement i never did until this day.
i must say thx to ou guys i really got great result on my self improvement.
but because i was focusing on myself i didnt approach a lot of chick, i did a few times, but not often, and it worked a bit for me, cause i was getting some result.
so since i swish my way of being, i became a bit 'lazy' to approach chick.
for instance, if i see a hot chick in the street, i dont have this mindset of an AFC who's repeating to himself that this chick is too hot to be with him, instead i'm telling myself, 'i dont give a sh!t there's other fish', 'no stress, i'll do it one day', 'i'm too hot for her', or more crazy, i'm starting to look why she's not good enough for me (weird hairstyle, ugly clothes etc.)
it's really driving me crazy cause it perevents me from approaching chicks. like today i saw some great chicks, but always this thoughts that hunting me.
i forced myself a few times, so i started to chat with them but after 2 minutes i have this parasites in my head telling me i won't fvck her because of her teeth/fingers/clothes etc. so im just going away.
i'm closing only in my social circle (a friend of a friend) or if i'm forced to talk to her.
what remedy can i apply to that ???
i can also give great advice to people (i tested that actually)on DJing and they are having great result even if i dont have much experience in the field (as a DJ, not as a 'PUA')
and it's really making me upset with myself.
another one that get into this category is that, when i'm proposing a date to a chick (activity/food/shopping/or no matter what) they decline.
im not saying something like 'hey we should get a coffe sometimes'
but i'm saying 'hey tomorrow i'll be at X street doing some shopping for my cousin's wedding, come with me' and i ALWAYS get a 'oh i cant, i got a lot of things to do blah blah blah'
so basically the only chicks i got (without penetrating - you'll understand when reding the 2nd problem) this last year was: my ex (who's in OI with me), a chick i met in a disguise event (friend of a friend), 2 other in my work (two young teachers, i was forced to talk to them cause i was with them 24/3, as a security guard of school's trip).
and everytime i'm kissing or making out with them is the same day/night, and not in a date of something like that, but if i want to meet up later (because i didnt close the same night/day) to close the deal, it's not working.
second thing: due to religious view, i'm not sleeping with chicks anymore.
i do play with them having some erotics game, fingering, BJ, licking etc. but i'm actually not penetrating anymore.
that's i think messing up with my mind, that sometimes when i'm about to KC or NC (for ONS or sex friendship) i'm thinking on what's gonna be next ? i dont wanna decieve myself by sleeping with her because i wasnt strong enough to hold myself.
recently there was a chick who wanna become sex friend with me.
i said ok but then i thought about this penetration thing.
and when i met her i didnt even kissed her, because i didnt want to get into penetration.
so i'm cloing always in a public place (like clubs/bars, or when i'm at work is in their room where other teachr can get in at any moment)
i'm starting to hate that situation, and i have no idea what to do to help that !
thx for reading
