She doesn't treat me the same way from when I fell for her. Now she's making demands she didn't make at the beginning of our relationship. I'm wondering if this is a normal progression of an LTR that I should compromise myself to or is this a warning sign to get out while I can?
LTR: Thinking about breaking up.
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If you feel like you deserve better, get out. If you want to sit and take it, it will only get deeper from here. Don't be weak and follow through with a decision. Stay strong with it.
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Dear Konmal,
First things first,write down a list of the things that are upsetting you,I guess she is letting the side down in the Bedroom,that is very normal....most other things can be worked on and improved....If on reflection you have a formidable list of problems,then rightsize the relationship and start seeing other girls...things will just work themselves out from there........Should she really feel for you,she will fight back,if not,this a graceful way to slide from under!
First things first,write down a list of the things that are upsetting you,I guess she is letting the side down in the Bedroom,that is very normal....most other things can be worked on and improved....If on reflection you have a formidable list of problems,then rightsize the relationship and start seeing other girls...things will just work themselves out from there........Should she really feel for you,she will fight back,if not,this a graceful way to slide from under!
Desdinova
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The honeymoon phase is over and she's now becoming comfortable in the relationship. She's no longer on her best behavior. What you're seeing is her real personality.konmai said:
You have two options. First, you can correct bad behavior when it begins to surface in the relationship. If you don't correct it when it starts, then it will become a problem for you. This usually works for the small problems and she likely won't be doing those things after you bring them up.
The second option is to get rid of her. If the problems are more than just little things and she is defending her right to do them, then they'll continue to pop up throughout your relationship.
GotED?
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Right.... I dumped a 8+ HB at 6 month just as Desdinova said - the true personality STARTS to come out... now, the key phrase here is STARTING TO... you haven't seen the entire horror show yet. If you want a front row seat - enjoy your matinee because it ain't cheap by the time it is done. Make sure you start to emotionally withdrawal progressively as it gets worse. Best determinant of a woman's true behavior, is take a look at her MOTHER.... MOTHER FOOKER!!
With respect,
Exodus
With respect,
Exodus
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I am not putting a scare tactic on you - but I seen the more HB 8,9+ a woman is, the less they have to offer in the long term. The RULE I follow is (or learned painfully on the way to being a man) the faster the HB professes her attraction, affection, love for you - the FASTER even she will get bored with you and leave eventually.
Your best indicator IS WHEN they start to change their behavior, as you have said - losing respect for you or escalate argument. You have enjoyed the ride, maybe even great sex - always be emotionally protective of your soul from the beginning. And when the ride is starting to go rollercoaster downhill, make sure you jump out fully intact (as in dumping her first). A woman who is ready to leave a relationship will in essence start showing these symptoms of losing respect, changing her attitude towards you, because she has no spine or courage to break it up and wants you to take the lower road for her.
With respect,
Exodus
Your best indicator IS WHEN they start to change their behavior, as you have said - losing respect for you or escalate argument. You have enjoyed the ride, maybe even great sex - always be emotionally protective of your soul from the beginning. And when the ride is starting to go rollercoaster downhill, make sure you jump out fully intact (as in dumping her first). A woman who is ready to leave a relationship will in essence start showing these symptoms of losing respect, changing her attitude towards you, because she has no spine or courage to break it up and wants you to take the lower road for her.
With respect,
Exodus
Yep, women will bend over backward for you during the honeymoon period and then eventually their true harpy side comes out.
When they start showing their b1tch attitudes I put them in their place, simply because most women can be bratty petulant cvnts if you give them an inch they take 10 miles. Me, I give them no quarter. You know what I do? If say I'm out with them somewhere or round their place and they're p1ssing me off, I just interject on what they're doing, tell them calmly (always calm) "I'm not putting up with your sh1t or annoying behaviour. So you grow up, sort it out or you're gone." Leave saying "Call me when you're sorry". I NEVER call them, I'm one ultra stubborn fvcker so if they never call and apologise it's no sweat off my back, I'm on to the next one because there are plenty of women out there who will behave. Anyway, when they call and apologise (they nearly ALWAYS do if you show them who is in charge) I get them round for some serious c0ck worship. I call it penance.
Never EVER put up with a woman's sh1t - because I guaran-fvcking-tee it will get worse by the minute if you do. Truth be known, they all prefer a man to be in charge anyway, and with that comes responsibility and calm mental discipline like nipping their sh1t in the bud.
When they start showing their b1tch attitudes I put them in their place, simply because most women can be bratty petulant cvnts if you give them an inch they take 10 miles. Me, I give them no quarter. You know what I do? If say I'm out with them somewhere or round their place and they're p1ssing me off, I just interject on what they're doing, tell them calmly (always calm) "I'm not putting up with your sh1t or annoying behaviour. So you grow up, sort it out or you're gone." Leave saying "Call me when you're sorry". I NEVER call them, I'm one ultra stubborn fvcker so if they never call and apologise it's no sweat off my back, I'm on to the next one because there are plenty of women out there who will behave. Anyway, when they call and apologise (they nearly ALWAYS do if you show them who is in charge) I get them round for some serious c0ck worship. I call it penance.
Never EVER put up with a woman's sh1t - because I guaran-fvcking-tee it will get worse by the minute if you do. Truth be known, they all prefer a man to be in charge anyway, and with that comes responsibility and calm mental discipline like nipping their sh1t in the bud.