My Background: Raised in a strict religious home. Never dated in High School, had one girlfriend for 6 months in college. That was my only relationship only girl I have ever f****. I was always to AFC and still am, although I have improved at this. I never thought I was good looking or had much to offer women, although I am very social and come across as a confident person. During college and since college was I basically to much of a p*ssy to get very far with women.
Last Two Years: I have become a lot more confident, don't care as much about getting rejected by women, feel better about the way I look. Been poking around on this site and mostly working on my inner game by myself. Two years ago I moved to NYC to go to grad school, since then I have grown a lot. I have dated several women since last year, but all have ended really because they lost interest. I partially attribute this to me becoming overly interested and needy. I have also become very confident at approaching women in bars and at parties, and when I put in the effort I almost never get turned down when asking for numbers. But I also almost never call them (Usually cause I tell myself I don't have the time/money to spend on them. I am very busy with grad school and have to budget my money cause I don't work while in school).
Last Two Months Decided that this is the decade/year for me to make my life what I want it to be. Been on three dates with a girl I like including a make out session on her bed and almost hooking up. Basically I could of f*** her but I didn't press the issue because I was nervous cause I haven't had sex in a long time. It sucks I know. I legitimately like this girl, so I am trying not to become AFC with her.
In the mean time I met a girl last Saturday that wanted me to go home with her, but I was so drunk that after leaving the bar when I went to go I stopped to get Pizza (she waited for me outside) when I came out I didn't see her so I left alone. She texted me later and asked where I went and told me that she was waiting for me. She says she wants to hang out sometime. Also, I met a girl that says she is going to call me this weekend to get together. (I'm not sure what's with this girl I met her at a museum and exchanged numbers with her she has called me once already to do something with her, but I couldn't because of school. Seems she is pursuing me).
Basically I am confident that I can meet women and get through the first phases, but I think once it comes to any intimacy my lack of confidence comes out. Please offer only helpful advice. I am 27 yrs old and am making my life what I want it to be.
I also am curious to know if you guys think I should keep the girl I really like waiting so that I can hang out with other girls, and if I do should I tell her I'm spending time with other women, or just tell her I am busy.
*When I was with the girl I like she asked me if I had ever been in a relationship and told me that she just got out of a long one. I cut her off real quick and said yes I've been in a relationship but don't want to talk about relationships.
**I really just want to get laid on a regular basis, wouldn't mind being in a relationship if it also resulted in me getting laid on a regular basis.
Last Two Years: I have become a lot more confident, don't care as much about getting rejected by women, feel better about the way I look. Been poking around on this site and mostly working on my inner game by myself. Two years ago I moved to NYC to go to grad school, since then I have grown a lot. I have dated several women since last year, but all have ended really because they lost interest. I partially attribute this to me becoming overly interested and needy. I have also become very confident at approaching women in bars and at parties, and when I put in the effort I almost never get turned down when asking for numbers. But I also almost never call them (Usually cause I tell myself I don't have the time/money to spend on them. I am very busy with grad school and have to budget my money cause I don't work while in school).
Last Two Months Decided that this is the decade/year for me to make my life what I want it to be. Been on three dates with a girl I like including a make out session on her bed and almost hooking up. Basically I could of f*** her but I didn't press the issue because I was nervous cause I haven't had sex in a long time. It sucks I know. I legitimately like this girl, so I am trying not to become AFC with her.
In the mean time I met a girl last Saturday that wanted me to go home with her, but I was so drunk that after leaving the bar when I went to go I stopped to get Pizza (she waited for me outside) when I came out I didn't see her so I left alone. She texted me later and asked where I went and told me that she was waiting for me. She says she wants to hang out sometime. Also, I met a girl that says she is going to call me this weekend to get together. (I'm not sure what's with this girl I met her at a museum and exchanged numbers with her she has called me once already to do something with her, but I couldn't because of school. Seems she is pursuing me).
Basically I am confident that I can meet women and get through the first phases, but I think once it comes to any intimacy my lack of confidence comes out. Please offer only helpful advice. I am 27 yrs old and am making my life what I want it to be.
I also am curious to know if you guys think I should keep the girl I really like waiting so that I can hang out with other girls, and if I do should I tell her I'm spending time with other women, or just tell her I am busy.
*When I was with the girl I like she asked me if I had ever been in a relationship and told me that she just got out of a long one. I cut her off real quick and said yes I've been in a relationship but don't want to talk about relationships.
**I really just want to get laid on a regular basis, wouldn't mind being in a relationship if it also resulted in me getting laid on a regular basis.