19, about to turn 20 in University. In my life, ive had one serious relationship, 3+ years, and one short fling a couple of months ago. The thing that bugs me is that both of them just kinda fell into my lap, making it real easy. I have no problem advancing a relationship once I have a girl that is attracted to me, its the initial attraction that I am horrible at, and I would say that this is because of two reasons.
1. Lack of Motivation
University is full of hot girls, I should be bathing in them. But for whatever reason, I feel that my attitude when im there is "get class over with and go home", meaning sit in class, listen, leave asap. Ive thought "hey that girl by herself beside is pretty cute, maybe I should say something to her", but in the end ill just say meh and go on with the day.
2. Nothing to Say
Bringing back to the girl beside me thing, sometimes ill decide I should say something, but then I cant figure out what to say. Im like this with both guys and girls. If I dont know the person, Im clueless on conversation. I have all the confidence in the world, just a blank mind on conversation. For example, if I actually have something I need to say (need directions, ask for time, have to ask a question), I have no problem, its just small talk and starting conversations with no real purpose that gets me.\
Those are the two things that I think are holding me back, any suggestions on how I can work on it?
1. Lack of Motivation
University is full of hot girls, I should be bathing in them. But for whatever reason, I feel that my attitude when im there is "get class over with and go home", meaning sit in class, listen, leave asap. Ive thought "hey that girl by herself beside is pretty cute, maybe I should say something to her", but in the end ill just say meh and go on with the day.
2. Nothing to Say
Bringing back to the girl beside me thing, sometimes ill decide I should say something, but then I cant figure out what to say. Im like this with both guys and girls. If I dont know the person, Im clueless on conversation. I have all the confidence in the world, just a blank mind on conversation. For example, if I actually have something I need to say (need directions, ask for time, have to ask a question), I have no problem, its just small talk and starting conversations with no real purpose that gets me.\
Those are the two things that I think are holding me back, any suggestions on how I can work on it?